To think women are usually better-looking than their partners?

[Imalwayshungry]

Apologies if this offends anybody.. this is just my opinion, something I've noticed. Maybe it's just that women take better care of their looks in general? I very rarely see men who I'd consider unbelievably good-looking, model-like and so on.
Also, I think men are more attracted to looks whereas women go for assets, so will be less bothered about the male not being as good-looking.

Not here. I'm fat and ugly but I am considerably younger

I look alright when scrubbed up, but most of the time I'm running around looking like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards, no makeup, flats, non figure defining clothes. I used to work in a technical role for which our manager decided to assign a uniform, which was described to me as looking like a forest ranger or a war time munitions worker etc.

In a supermarket after work with my partner, I noticed and almost lol'd at the check out assistant looking between him and me in a manner expressing wonderment.

We broke up for a while and when we got back together; one of my sisters hilariously blurted "oh I'm so glad he's back in my life, he's so fkg handsome".

I know two couples where the man is really good looking and the wife is average.

Both are not nice women either - weird!

I would say we are about even - dh is gorgeous but needs to lose a few pounds. I have a far better figure but he's got a lovely face and teeth! 😂

I think so too but then I am a lesbian 🤔

Both are not nice women either - weird!

I actually think it's a myth that men, on average, appreciate or go for nice wimen.

We want them to, and heroines in novels are pretty much always "nice"/good/kind women who get the desirable man ; but IRL, not so much.

I've always noticed this but thought it is because I'm lesbian and think most women are glowing and gorgeous compared to their ape-like male partners. #sorrynotsorry

My experience of online dating showed me that most men go for looks over personality.

My DP (male) is astoundingly gorgeous in my eyes however I think the world would see us as quite different looking (N/S Europe) but about evenly matched. We have a similar style so that may even things out too

This was true for me. I was better looking than him but now he looks way better. I've become a bit of a frump since dc and I have to put effort in to look passable.
Hair dye, facials and eyebrows, exercise.
Dh only needs to shower, shave and keep up with the exercise and he looks great.

Mutual physical attraction is important. However, generally speaking, I think men prioritise/value physical attraction more.

Admittedly, I didn’t prioritise looks for the men I considered in the past, and looked at the overall package. I was willing to overlook a lack of physical attraction, as I thought it’s something that can grow with emotional connection. I only feel sexual attraction, regardless of looks, if there’s chemistry/connection, anyway.

However, I got really lucky, in that my husband is really handsome, much better looking than past guys, so I didn’t need to compromise any physical attraction. 😂

DH was definitely the better looking one when we first met (I earned more than him and had a much nicer flat)

14 years on, I’m aging better, probably because I am in an easier lower paying job and he is in a stressful job that’s sapped his youthful good looks..!

Sad as it is, some women do go for assets.

Many women don't leave the house without make up though. It is a cheat code.

whereas women go for assets, so will be less bothered about the male not being as good-looking

LOL. Someone’s got incel tendencies, I see.

Yeah. I think you're right @Imalwayshungry

Women have make up, men don’t.

Can you imagine if all us women had to go about our daily life never wearing a spot of make up of any sorts.

If you compounded that by making it socially acceptable for men to wear make up I think people’s views on relative attractiveness would change significantly.

I think most men do really well on the looks front considering they have no artificial help.

I know a few blokes that are better looking than their partners. I don't think there are any rules. Attraction is a funny thing.

Nah not now. My DH is buff and an exercise freak. I'm a fat depressed menopausal mess. Probably the reason we're spitting up.

I know of lots of men who say they use concealer, moisturiser or fake tan. Concealer as standard. @Charlie2121

The roles are reversing in my scenario :( hes maturing like a fine wine 😭😭😭 getting handsome, rugged silver haired fox...my wrinkles are making me look hagged and i cant even hide it with make up as the foundation gets lumped up in my lines 😂😂 ahhh the injustice. He used to be the acne baby faced kid haha

Yabu to say women go for assets...what are you, a bored teenage boy trolling MN?

I was far better looking than my husband when we were young - but I fell in love with him because he was the funniest, kindest person I had ever met.

So if you are a bored teenage boy - learn to make girls laugh - it really is the most attractive quality for many women.

I agree. I think women are more likely to consider other personality qualities other than looks in a partner, especially as we get older anyway!

I didn't go for assets, I went for personality. I would say we are both quite equal in attractiveness, both pretty average looking but fuck I have never met someone who makes me laugh as much as dp. 15 years, still going strong.

I certainly didn't go after assets, I wanted kindness. Luckily for me I found a very kind and caring man who is also totally gorgeous. I, on the other hand, look like a bag of shite.

In general men age much faster than women. They lose their looks very fast. The only man who still looks ok past 50 is Elon Musk!

I am not gay but I do think men are a bit on the ugly side to start with.