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WWYD - Lodger Rubbish

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 10:08

Lodger moving out this week. New lodger moving in NYE.

Bin already over flowing and haven’t read the card thingy on the wheelie bin to see when next collection is.

Current lodger has already taken most of his stuff, he’s been a great lodger with no issues. I gave him his deposit back last week so he had the money for Xmas (he’s moving in with his gf).

Went into the garden this morning and it’s covered in rubbish as he has put four bin bags by the bin, not tied up and the wind has blown everything everywhere.

There is no way the binmen are going to take it all and also anticipate there being a load of mine from tomorrow so I am going to have to take it all to the dump.

I am pissed off as it’s inconsiderate and selfish but should I just take it on the chin, or, do I text him and ask him to come and get it and take it to the tip? Or is that petty?

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Brendabigbaps · 24/12/2023 10:10

half if me would be pissed off and text him.
however life’s to short, just pick it up

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 10:12

I have picked it all up, I just don’t know whether to text him and ask him to take his crap to the tip, or to just do it myself.

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ZombieGirl86 · 24/12/2023 10:15

I'd be annoyed but just deal with it if he's already moved out

modgepodge · 24/12/2023 10:15

I’d text him and ask him to, he may do the right thing and if not you’ve not lost anything. What a shame that you did a kind thing returning his deposit early and now it’s come back to bite you!

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 10:18

He’s taken most of his stuff and left the door to the room open as if he’s gone but there is still some stuff in there, and he hasn’t cleaned the room or his bathroom which I kind of feel that he should have done really. He hasn’t given me the key back yet though so there’s hope he’s coming to get that. Maybe I might wait to after Xmas as don’t want negative vibes on Xmas eve.

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Squiggles23 · 24/12/2023 10:24

So dramatic OP! It’s rubbish what’s he meant to do with it? Not his fault if the bin is overflowing. Do not text him.

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 10:26

I would expect him to take it to the dump, rather than leave me a job to do.

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Squiggles23 · 24/12/2023 10:29

Lots of people are away for Christmas - can’t you just put the rubbish in there bin?

If it’s normal rubbish I wouldn’t be going to the dump. If he’s getting rid of furniture then yes clearly.

MaryHinges · 24/12/2023 10:30

I wouldn't expect him to take it to the dump. That does seem over dramatic. Surely there must be a shed or something it can be put in until there's more room in the next collection? You have a new lodger on the way, is it worth making a mountain out of a molehill with this?

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 10:33

It’s normal rubbish but will have to go to the dump as the bin men won’t take it, and we have fortnightly collection and the bin is always full so will never catch up. Ironically it’s the first time he’s ever used the outdoor bin as would place things on top of the full kitchen bin rather than empty it.

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Squiggles23 · 24/12/2023 10:42

You have a lodger and you gave back their deposit before even seeing what condition things were left in. Lesson learnt for you.

Either way you wouldn’t be able to do/say anything about him leaving rubbish by the bin.

Switchingoff · 24/12/2023 10:45

Just message him and say that you’ve picked it all up as it’s blown everywhere and when he comes back for the rest of his stuff and clean can he take it to the tip

britnay · 24/12/2023 10:57

In future, don't return the deposit until the rooms have been cleaned satisfactorily and the key has been returned.

RowanMayfair · 24/12/2023 11:01

YANBU!!
4 bags isn't normal weekly rubbish, it's random things he wants to get rid of now he's moved out, which means he has to dispose of it. It won't fit in the fortnightly bin collection so by leaving it in the garden he's just offloaded a problem to you. Do you have a deposit? I'd suggest paying a man with a van to collect it from his deposit if he doesn't want to take it himself.

RowanMayfair · 24/12/2023 11:02

You returned his deposit already?? Why?

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 11:09

To be a nice person at Christmas?

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Nicole1111 · 24/12/2023 11:12

InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 10:33

Having had a number of lodgers I would say lesson learned here to never give back the deposit until they leave. Maybe message him and say you’ve noticed he hasn’t fully moved out yet and ask him if he can give you a date for when he’ll be emptying his room fully and cleaning it and removing the rubbish from the garden. That way you’ll give him the impression you haven’t even entertained the possibility that he’s left his room in that way.

Vinrouge4 · 24/12/2023 11:17

He doesn't sound like he was very considerate tbh. You are well rid. Maybe draw up a list of rules for the next lodger. 'You must put your rubbish each week in the dustbin and not the kitchen bin'.

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 24/12/2023 11:24

In the time you've debated it on SM you could've set off for the tip. 4 bags? Just get it done. To be a nice person at Christmas.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 24/12/2023 11:29

I would be cross but I would tidy up and then let it go. There is always a lot of stuff to go out when someone moves, and although he should have bagged it securely, I don't think it was unreasonable to leave it for collection.

If someone has been a problem-free tenant I wouldn't sour it at the end, unless they have deliberaty trashed the place.

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InstantDestiny · 24/12/2023 11:43

I am prepping a meal for 6 people atm

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ChateauMargaux · 24/12/2023 12:28

You have given his deposit back... I am not sure you have muh leverage but.... message him and tell him that he needs to return the key by x date and also ensure the room and bathroom have been emptied of all of his belonging and cleaned in line with his contract (which hopefully you have!).

I would also mention that he left 4 bags of rubbish outside the bin which need to be disposed of correctly.

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InstantDestiny · 27/12/2023 17:41

Urgh so the key was put through the door later that day and he messaged saying the new lodger was welcome to any of the stuff he had left (so had no intention of coming to get his stuff (kettles duvets, clothes, bedding).

I have taken it all to the tip 8 big bags of it, told him what I think. (Your bin was full - funny that at Xmas?!) and my son has given it a good clean.

Lesson learnt, move on.

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Squiggles23 · 27/12/2023 21:44

Very wasteful OP taking all that stuff to landfill. Why didn’t you just take it to a charity or put in Facebook marketplace for people to take for free.

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InstantDestiny · 28/12/2023 11:58

Because no one would have wanted it!

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