Is this a CF thing for SIL to do?

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MIL was round today to drop presents over for the kids, we did a little buffet and had a drink etc.
Then SIL turns up with presents (even though we are seeing them on the 27th anyway to exchange/open presents with their kids and ours etc anyway)
"Oh is mum here we didn't realise!"
So DH invites them in and they say yes.

Turns out they DID KNOW MIL was here, and MIL and them had planned it so they could all spend time together at our house.

Our house is small, and we didn't want a big event, especially seeing as we're seeing them anyway just after Xmas.

AIBU?

It's Christmas I'm sure you can let it go for a few days of the year?

I don't really like my in laws, but I've seen them over the holidays. It's just what you do not for you but for your kids!

Why? This would be very unreasonable and anti-social behaviour.

Is there any other opportunity for the whole family to get together? I don't understand why you have to compartmentalise the days you see your in laws. All being together at Christmas is part of what most families do.

This is the kind of shit my ILs pull and it drives me spare. YANBU.

Impromptu Christmas party? Happy days 🎄

JFC… your SIL popped round and now you’re thinking of cancelling the 27th?! And there are people on here who wouldn’t invite family in if they turned up unprompted?

How do any of these types of people have any friends or family in their lives?

I’m sitting here in my pjs, enjoying a coffee. Haven’t washed, cleaned or done any ablutions. My cousins / other family (who I see maybe 5 times a year) could rock up and I’d say ‘Morning! Lovely surprise! Stick the kettle on and help yourselves whilst I make myself semi presentable. Here’s the biscuits - you had breakfast yet?’

Why the angst?

I don't understand why it's an issue?

What's the actual problem?

The more, the merrier I say. Get the baileys out and unclench op.

How awful for you! Does your DH at least make them welcome into his home?

It’s just incredibly unhospitable. I’d be delighted someone wanted to pop in and see me.

Oh god don’t be so miserable! You want to cancel on the 27th because of this?

Extended family want to spend time with you at Christmas. They didn't go about it in the best way but in the grand scheme of things it's not the worst thing they could have done. Rather than getting angry or upset another way to go would be to relax a bit and laugh about it. Seriously, chill.

These kinds of threads always make me laugh, as the 'more the merrier' people that like hosting/impromptu parties always really struggle to understand that some people really hate it. That they may do it because they have to but really don't enjoy it

A convenient excuse I feel! In any case her DH and children should go and leave OP home alone.