Should I leave this relationship?

[mutin]

Both fifties, both divorced and work full time. My teens are with me full time. We see each other each weekend, normally sat evening till sun am.
He works and lives 90 mins away.
We are both free each weekend except for every second saturday which he spends with his daughter.
The issue is that while he lives 90 mins away, he goes to his parents every weekend in another part of the country.
He has no life where he lives and work. He rents there in a house share. He doesn't have any hobbies or pastimes in general but literally works and sleep in one part of the country .. (thinkEdinburgh and then at weekends goes to Glasgow. I'm in between both places.)
I don't go to his generally as it's a house share and don't go to his parents either for same reasons.
He comes to mine, we eat, sleep and have breakfast and then he is gone again. I'm not really feeling it anymore but he is lovely company mostly.
He doesn't own his own home and spends masses of time with his family. He also doesn't really socialise but I do.
It feels dead in the water. Having no home of his own , going back to his parents and family every weekend is kind of giving me the ick. He has no ambition or intention to change for the foreseeable future.
He will not !3 moving in with me as I don't want that for myself and my kids.
Sex is amazing though.

As predicted, he went mad when he finally accepted that I was deadly serious about t being over.
He guilt tripped me about Christmas, his children who expect a gift ( who I have no relationship with ) said that I only wanted a Christmas present ( he had mine bought) believes that because I hadn't bought his that it was all pre meditated( I have no money until Friday)
Basic guilt tripping.
Then he sent all the presents for me and kids to my home so now I feel like a cheapskate.
This is only the beginning of this shit, as expected, and I've a knot in my tummy.
I guess his ideal meal ticket to a secure retirement has been shattered so he will persevere. Wish me strength please.

You’ve no ties to this man whatsoever so absolutely no need to keep in contact with him.

Do not respond in any way, let him rage into a void.

Delete and block him on everything if you have to.

Thanks for your reply.
He is relentless and can be inappropriate ... calling to the door, threatening self harm, contacting my family etc.
I'm so weak and so sick right now, I've no reserves for him. I have deleted him and on mute.

He sounds dreadful. And I have to wonder... have you met his children? All this rushing off to his family on weekend and living in a house share during the week... seems like excuses not to see you, because he potentially has another relationship, possibly even a family, elsewhere? That's what sprung to mind.

Keep him blocked and don't listen to anything he says. Stay strong!

Have your teens blocked him too?

How weird that his children expect Christmas presents. You're so much better off without this odd chap and his equally odd family.

You owe him nothing, OP!
If he comes back to your house, just tell him he is no longer welcome and that if he persists, you will call the police.

Forget about the presents he has dumped at your place - he is just trying to guilt-trip you into staying with him.

Your life will improve immeasurably once he is out of it!

Stay strong and good luck to you!

OP If you haven't already, do tell your children clearly but in an appropriate way, that you are no longer in a relationship with this man and never will be again. Tell them he's not accepting your wishes and may very well contact them - that they should block him. That they should never open your front door - install a chain in the inside of the door which they should use every time. Or to check from the closed window who's at the door.

Talk to your friends and parents ASAP and tell them exactly what's happening so he can't get them onside.

Write to him once and tell him he's to stay away from you, your home and children. That if he continues to harass you, you will contact the police.

If he has keys to your home, change your locks/barrels of your locks ASAP. Don't rely on him returning your keys if he has any.

He's certainly showing you his true colours - stay strong and stay safe. 🌹

BTW Do you have his shared house address? Or his parents' address? If he threatens suicide ask the police to do a welfare check at his address - don't get sucked into what he threatens to do with himself. 🌹

Mate call the police if he does this.

I'm glad you've ended the relationship and sorry that he's being as awful about it as predicted.

Once the dust has settled, you really need to think about why you continued seeing him despite the below.

He's been very inappropriate in the past contacting my family and children. He has their number in event of emergency for lifts if needed, as their father has no relationship with them. They will block him.

Continuing to date a man who makes this kind of inappropriate and unwanted contact was a poor decision and one that is a bit concerning.

Hopefully this relationship has at least been a learning curve and in future you'll know to listen to your gut when it comes to red flags.

Sums the situation up perfectly. U don't want to be the one doing all the giving, he has nothing to offer u

(Made a comment then realised how old this thread is, so deleted comment.)