To think you should say goodbye before leaving a work party?

[kookykalki]

Went with DH to his work Christmas party the other night. We were hanging out with his team and everyone dispersed to get drinks or joined another group of people quite organically. DH wanted to leave and I said ok shall we say bye to your team before leaving. And he said no.

AIBU to say bye? They were literally in front of us so it wouldn't have been difficult. I would have thought it was just polite.

Another French exiter here, too much fuss and attention going round saying goodbyes, especially if you’re leaving on the early side.

I always use the French Goodbye at parties or informal events.
Dinner parties or other sit-down hosted events require a goodbye and thanks

It’s an Irish goodbye (no idea why it’s called that) - it’s totally fine at a work party or any big party, because it spares everyone pointless goodbyes

Nope when it's time to go, get the fuck out as fast as possible.

It was always the Irish goodbye for me. Slip away and then text someone to say that you'd left. Otherwise you'd be nagged into having one more and then the cycle would repeat. Best to avoid all that if you are determined to go home

No-one gives a flying fig about your husband (or you). You are not as important you wish you're. I also HATE it when Im mid having great conversation on a night out and some fecker interrupts to say...good bye. The moment is over. Just Pee off home already.

It's ok either way. Saying goodbye is fine but so is slipping away.

I think it’s important to say goodbye to at least one person, especially if you are female incase anything u towards happens to you on the way home.

I like to just slip out otherwise you always get someone trying to make you stay. I leave before things get messy at these events.

I would say goodbye to the people I was actually in company with, but then slip away

French exit all the way. Did one from my own do last week.

I think this!

How would saying goodbye help that?

Also men also get attacked, more often than women in fact.

A works party doesn't have a host in the same way as a private party, so no need to say goodbye and thank-you to the host.

I thought the official way to leave a work party was to sya you were popping to the loo and then never come back?

Have I been doing it wrong?

It helps pin down the time for searching security cameras ...

But more sensible to say goodbye to friends - they're more likely to proffer up the information that you left the party at X time.

And more likely to say"how are you getting home? Do your want a lift?"

French exit. I wish I had the balls, kudos to your DH.

@JustOneMoreBaileys

Big wave to the room as I walk out the door is my MO.

Apparently I’m the queen of the French exit and no one bats an eyelid 🤣 I’ll say bye to the people I’m with but CBA with the protracted full circuit goodbyes that some people go in for, one of my friends does it and it takes hours to leave anywhere!

My DH paid for the company party! It’s polite to say thanks and goodbye. Money for these events isn’t just plucked out of the ether. I have always said goodbye to closer associates but we never had huge events.

Why is it variously called an Irish, French or Mexican goodbye? I've heard all three.

Nah you don't need to say goodby to everyone. It's tedious. Sloping off is fine at a big do.

Meh ideally yes but it's not the end of the world, perhaps he wasn't feeling very well (physically or emotionally/mentally).

No need to go round saying goodbye to everyone, but I think it's a good idea to tell someone you're leaving, so people aren't wondering where you are/whether you're passed out in a corner somewhere.