Christmas work do

[elm26]

I don't know whether I'm hormonal or being sensitive or what but I'm currently on maternity leave with my 7 month old.

I've worked in an office with about 30 people for the past 5 years and get along with them all so well, we do things outside of work too.

In the work group chat, people have been talking about the Christmas work party (posh hotel, black tie, all expenses paid for etc) and I wasn't invited by management.

This morning I've seen all of the photos, including on colleagues social media accounts and just feel really tearful that management didn't invite me.

2 of the women I work with came to the Christmas do's when they were on maternity leave.

My manager isn't the easiest person to get on with, we have all clashed with her at different points at one time or another and I was signed off from about 5 months with hyperemesis, I was really really sick throughout my whole pregnancy.

AIBU to feel sad? I feel like emailing my manager to ask why I wasn't invited? She made it clear she was annoyed that I was signed off and hasn't contacted me since other than to return my matb1 form.

Things like this just make me not want to go back.

It doesn’t mean they were not invited just because they weren’t there.

I had been off since April but was invited to mine. I didn’t go because I had a baby to look after.

OP, you should have been invited because you’re still an employee. You have been unfairly treated but it may not have been intentional.

@Aprilx · Today 10:03

''I didn’t say it was complicated. You seem convinced that managers always organise Christmas parties, I am advising you that this is not the case. I have never organised a Christmas party as a manager and I have never known any of my managers to do so either. Never organised or communicated''

Do you have a comprehension problem?

This has nothing to do with organising the party itself..

A manager is responsible for their team members.

If a team member is on maternity leave it is the manager's responsibility to make sure their team member is not excluded from big events last this.

Unless you are exceptionally scatty or/and lazy as a manager you should be able to keep track of who is on maternity leave in your team and forward them whatever email has gone out to everyone else in case they want to join the event. I mean The Christmas party happens once a year...hardly going to tip your workload over.

You don't need to 'advise me' of anything. I have been a manager for decades.