To be annoyed at siblings constantly inviting themselves round

[blueberry97]

My siblings will constantly invite themselves over to our house.

My sister just text us to say " we will come to yours for Christmas" and this has really annoyed me and DH as we have not long had a baby and want to spend it as a family with just us and the kids.

My siblings never invite us round and we have not even been invited to my sisters new house since she moved four years ago.

My sister posted some pics of a pre Christmas dinner she hosted for her friends and this has upset the both of us.

My DH wants both siblings to stop coming round now and to just meet at our parents house as he feels quite offended.

My DH wants to say something to them but I would rather just not say anything and just make excuses for when they invite themselves.

Am I being unreasonable to feel like this?

Oh hurrah FINALLY someone who said NO 👏👏

Good for you! Now don’t back down ever again until you are hosted by her!

Well done. Your dh is right. It's time to reset the balance.

Yes YABU as an adult that prefer to lie to other people rather than telling the truth.

This.

"No it's not convenient" isn't hard to say.

She put the phone down because she didn't have an answer to that!

Well done blueberry - that can't have been easy to pick up the phone.

Beware the flying monkeys - your parents will probably call and ask why you're being unkind to your Sis. You're not being unkind - you're holding your boundaries. You & your DH want a quiet Christmas with the new baby and the kids and not to be worried about hosting others. As I said before - push back - they should be offer to host you with a new baby.

You have got this

My DH wants to say something to them but I would rather just not say anything and just make excuses for when they invite themselves.

Why? You don't mind upsetting your husband. Just take that lack of care for HIS feelings and wishes and channel it towards your siblings who clearly don't give a crap about yours.

EDIT: Oooh, you told her. Well done. Don't worry about her staying in the huff too long. She'll doubtless be back in touch the next time she wants to impose on you.

Well done op. She will think about what you've said, because you're right. Hopefully she'll invite you to the next one. If not, at least you've nipped her rudeness in the bud.