SIL is coming home for a couple of weeks over Christmas. Lives abroad, and DP hasn’t seen her since May.
In-laws have invited us to a meal out one evening next week. I don’t particularly want to go. It’s nothing personal, but there are various minor reasons why I’d rather not. I’ll be tired after work, it’s a busy time of year, we’ll be seeing them loads at other times, and I don’t want to spend money on another meal out, at a ‘meh’ place. None of those are dealbreakers, but I just all adds up to the giant reason why I don’t want to go which is that I really can’t be arsed.
So I said this to DP, who said that a lie will have to be told about me having a late work meeting, otherwise it would be considered rude.
Would it? AIBU? Why is it rude just to not really want to go somewhere? I don’t hate them, I’d just quite like to politely decline their offer. If I invited someone out and they said no, I’d just shrug. Their wish to not go is no more or less valid than mine to go.
I’ll probably end up going now, to avoid potential rudeness or lying. But why can’t people just take ‘No thanks’ as an answer?