Well, because this year my mum was ill from February and I had to spend a lot of time with her and at the hospital so I was able to work from her house and support her, she died in October and I was able to have whatever time I needed and also work from her house while she died at home. Also, I am the executor, so I'm now doing all the accounts ready for probate and will be needing to sell the house, so will be there more again (I can't get into work from there).
In addition to this, I had a leak under the floor in my house, which has meant the whole downstairs floor had to be taken up, all the skirtings off, dehumidifiers for three months, heating completely replaced....I need new floor and total redecorating. My living room contents have been in storage since July and my living room is a black hole. I'm still grappling with the insurers on how to get it all completed (the kitchen floor also needs doing as they are joined, and the heating pipes in the kitchen also needed to be replaced so they have been chased into the wall and that needs redecorating too). I am able to work from home during this time, today I have an electrician and a plumber here. (I live alone so there is only me to manage all this stuff). It's a bit depressing, especially as it will still be nowhere near done by Christmas. My kitchen is a tip because everything is in there that I need because there's nowhere to put anything in the living room.
Also our C-level has changed five times in two years so I've kind of been hoping things would get better at work if we eventually got one who stayed. (For various other reasons work has been horrible this year). It's not the whole org that is toxic really, just my area.
I was initially on a fixed term from Sept 2020, having had my previous contract ended early due to Covid. The role went perm Feb 22 and I really only intended to stay another year while the job market settled down. But then this year happened and I just have not had the time nor mental energy to look for another role.
I'm starting to look now but will probably resign after Christmas anyway as I have 3m notice and I don't want to stay.
Btw, when I was recruited, Christmas parties were not mentioned (I've actually only been to one, 2020 it was done online, 21 I was away, I went last year, was due to go this year but was ill). And when I have been involved in recruitment it doesn't come up at interview. Neither does redundancy pay nor the link to PS pay awards. But bonus does, of course. I didn't even get a bonus until this year because of being fixed term.
I am 55 and it's been nice to have a decent payment into the pension, I also put 38% of my salary so I am at the stage where I could draw down and just stop work, especially as I'm about to inherit about £300k.
Not all decisions are based on one thing.