Husband has a hobby

[PepsiMarx]

People always refer to their husband's hobby, (usually he's off most of Saturday leaving the OP to care for 4 kids and the dog and coordinate a children's party) but never say what it is. This is usually because the hobby will be "outing". Unless it's swimming the coast of the UK dressed as Mr Blobby, the hobby will never be outing and the whole thread is derailed as people guess the hobby and OP argues relentlessly that it's not relevant. Can there be a ban on non specific hobbies ?

Do either of you have a link to that please?
Sounds like a friend of mine!

Oh I don't know - if he's the engine driver on a miniature steam railway he's going to get wet and smelly!

Extreme ironing
Pogo
Bog snorkelling
Conkers
Human cannonball

My rough rule of thumb when it's just the word 'hobby' is cycling if the AIBU is about the poster's husband and golf if the problem lies with the father in law. I go for football when the problem is not just the training and match time but the additional socialising outside it.

I think if you have hobbies that are home based (eg reading, gaming, crafts) it can be a lot harder to get uninterrupted time for them than eg going out to sports practice twice a week. Sometimes I wonder if that's the issue especially when one person is an out of home hobbies person and the other an at home one.
Though plenty of male gamers seem to manage to find time for it when kids are home
That's true actually, fair point.
I find it easier to do my out of home hobbies than within the home hobbies. I've got to be more disciplined to carve the time out.

Himmin - a mannie fa plays golf is affa outing. Course it’s secretive.

Um, actually, that would cover more than one person I know!

Agree with pp that to me, "hobby" = model trains or stamp collecting.

My husband's hobbies are photography and painting (not playing) warhammer! As it's not golf or cycling does that make it outing?🤣

Of the men (and women) I know, various hobbies:

• fencing and archery
• painting
• painting little figurines and making model buildings and stuff for a table top game
• gardening
• climbing
• watching football at all of their team's games, home or away
• playing in a band
• dancing
• cake making
• photography

All of these can take a huge amount of time and cost a lot of money but I do feel that hobbies and time spent doing something fun and enjoyable are really important, as long as it's not to the detriment of the family.

Husband does not have a hobby,I have a horse, could spend all day with him!

perhaps the people who moan about their other half could participate in something they want to do!

I'm always surprised when this subject comes up and everyone says "it's always cycling." I literally don't know anybody in real life whose husband is into cycling for cycling's sake, though I know one or two men who cycle to work.

I often wonder why people assume it's cycling or golf. Amateur music never gets mentioned. That's something which takes shit loads of time.

OP: AIBU. My DH has a hobby (can't say what it is because it's outing). He does his hobby every Monday evening and he's out until 10pm. Every other Saturday he's out all day doing the hobby. And then there are special events maybe 3 or 4 times a year where he has extra hobby sessions the week before the event. As well as the group sessions he does his hobby on his own 2 or 3 nights a week. It's getting to be a right pain.
Posters: Is it cycling?
Never, is it an amateur orchestra?

a) This thread has been done umpteen times and b) Why would you want anonymous hobbies banned? Are you so desperately curious to know what they are?

An eminently reasonable request @PepsiMarx

Mostly, the husbands are fattish MAMILs desperately trying to recover their lost youths.

moonshinepoursthroughmywindow
I know a few people who enjoy cycling as a hobby rather than purely transport.
Some of them incorporate their children into their rides, some take the children to mountain bike centres, others put toddlers in a trailer so their wives get some peace at home. None of them do the selfish MN husband bugger off all day at weekends act, but know men who do.

Mostly, the husbands are fattish MAMILs desperately trying to recover their lost youths.
This is perfect example of the pointless body shaming that happens the second cycling comes up.
Funny nobody on here thinks it's acceptable to mock women's bodies doing bootcamp in park, or laugh at fattish women for wearing running tights to run, but bizarrely people get very wound up about the figures of men wearing cycling clothes to cycle

I just read all the unspcified 'hobby' threads as though the hobby is dogging.

Makes them much more interesting.

😂@CattingAbout

And even, 'DH is going on tour with his hobby orchestra, for two weeks out of the six-week school holiday, and when I objected, he has asked if I'd like to bring the two- and five-year-olds along because that'll be just my idea of fun, won't it, suppressing bored small boys during a medieval music festival in a bloody cathedral four nights out of five...'

OK, that one was a while back.

I always think of 'going on tour' as 'a week-long piss-up in Malaga and might fit in a few rounds of golf while we're there'. Either that or 'got a gig in a pub 300 miles away'.

YABU for making this point when it is a point that has been made so many times. It's as cliche on MN as the undisclosed bloody hobbies.

84% disagree with you.

I always insert train/plane spotting makes the men sound incredibly dull which is probably more accurate

Well, no, not really. It's as if you asked the question 'is patience a virtue?'. Most people would agree that it is a virtue. It doesn't mean that it isn't a cliche to say it.

A minority opinion.