I no longer find men my age attractive.

[Carmargo]

OK this is not meant to be a deep thread - just a light chat.
I'm perimenopausal now and prior to this I always fancied older men.
Now I'm noticing that I only fancy younger men.
I'm not talking ridiculously younger as in early twenties but guys aged around 35 to 40 (although rock stars and actors who are in reality much older than me but in their twenties when I first saw them and I was the same age are as attractive as ever e.g. someone like Johnny Depp but not him IYSWIM but not the 20-somethings I meet now).

I watched The Gold and realised that the actors who played Kenny Noye and the solicitor were gorgeous as was the gold smelter. Sorry can't recall their names.
This is reflected in real life too.
I'll look at a guy and think he's sexy and realise I'm at least ten years older.

Why is this? I used to joke about 50-something women and younger guys but I've realised my tastes have changed.

Like I said, I wonder if any other straight females here feel the same.

I admit I'm a bit depressed by it. Lol.

Men get slated for doing this on MN but women get the ‘you go girl’, which seems a bit unfair.

More than a bit unfair.

And there are any number of women on this thread basically saying 'well they've let themselves go so ...'
If a man said he no longer fancied women his age because they'd let themselves go, he'd be crucified.

Good grief, listen to yourselves.

I agree with this. The women I know in their 50s really take care of themselves and make an effort to stay healthy/fit.

The men in that age bracket have totally let themselves go and do resemble Homer Simpson. Obv you do still see some older men who look after themselves but it’s very very rare I see a guy that age who I find attractive.

I honestly think the reason is due to men’s general societal feeling of entitlement to a young supermodel despite the fact that they resemble shrek

I agree that women like to take care of themselves more as they get older but men over 50 seem just to give up trying.I did date a few younger men in their 30's and 40's,when in my early to mid 50's but they did only want sex,one wanted me to pay for everything,one wanted a cleaner too..haha..I just gave up looking and I don't need sex anymore ,so I just look and think he's hot but I don't need anything else .Maybe other women still enjoy casual sex well into their 60’s etc but I am sort of glad it's behind me.

It is women finally being able to have some fun that is all.. Believe me,men say far worse things about women's appearances, I am sure.

I always went for older men but then nearing 40 I met my current bf who is 6 years younger than me, and there’s a lot to be said for the younger ones it turns out 🤣. I know what you mean though, I find myself checking out fit young blokes and then I realise they’re probably looking at me thinking I’m the same age as their mum (or not even noticing me at all). In my head I AM still that age though.

I was googling 50 year-old men because I feel the same way and wanted to see pictures of 50-year-olds. I'm not really in the dating phase right now because I hit my menopause a year ago and that urge just has not ever come back yet. I'm fine if it doesn't and the reason is because I don't find guys my age attractive. There are very few. I mean I'm no trophy myself, but I still don't look bad for my age. I don't wanna go younger.
Like I said, I'm thankful right now because I don't even have the urge but I'm wondering if it's gonna come back and then there ain't gonna be nothing out there I'm interested in. Yes I find myself looking at younger guys and then I gotta remind myself. Hey lady, you're kinda old now for that.

When I was in my late 30s, I think almost 40, I was dating a 50 year-old man. He was like a rebellious 16-year-old and that would be the reason I'm not with him anymore. I have to agree with the woman that made a remark about how they look at younger women despite the fact they look like Shrek or whoever that was. I've only had to ask him one day when his eyeballs couldn't stay in his head that maybe that woman thought he was a dirty old pervert, and didn't want him looking at her🤣😂🤣 he didn't seem to like that, but you know what I didn't like him being a jerk off to me either so he got what he deserved. I hate Pookie guys like that.