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To worry about TTC on honeymoon?

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Sprinkles08 · 05/12/2023 16:30

Hi all,

I'm getting married at the start of next summer and we are going to Florida for our honeymoon. We both LOVE Universal and thrill rides, and want to really enjoy what may be our last adults only trip...we likely won't go back for a number of years after this and hope by then to have kids, so want to make the most of our honeymoon trip.

We are hoping to start TTC straight after the wedding/on our honeymoon, as we're both really excited and it already feels like such a long wait to start trying lol. I'm now starting to worry though that it might not be a good idea to TTC whilst on honeymoon as I'd be on rides and drinking (not heavily but a little) for a couple of weeks. I'm not even sure if that would affect anything if I was like 2 days pregnant haha but also scared to risk anything.

Please could you tell me your thoughts on this? AIBU to worry or put off TTC until after the honeymoon? TIA xx

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Sapphire387 · 05/12/2023 16:32

You do what you are comfortable with, but medically speaking, you're not going to do damage at that stage. If it's only two weeks, does it really matter either way? You don't know where you will be in your cycle anyway.

Greeneyegirl · 05/12/2023 16:32

It takes the average healthy couple with no fertility issues a year to conceive. I wouldn't put your life on hold on the off chance you might get pregnant. It also won't affect your pregnancy that early. I drank and acted as normal whe TTC and glad I did as it took 11 months.

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 05/12/2023 16:33

Even if you managed to conceive on the first night of your holiday, you wouldn't have implantation for a solid 10 days, placenta wouldn't function for many weeks after. No need to delay at all!

FirstFallopians · 05/12/2023 16:39

You are overthinking this.

If a very very new pregnancy was prevented from developing after a few cocktails or a go on Hagrids Magical Creatures Motorbike Adventure, the human race would’ve died out long ago.

Enjoy yourself- DH and I had the same honeymoon and were heading back for the first time next year, this time with 2 kids. I’m so glad we did it “properly” childfree, as it’ll be a completely different holiday this time!

OhmygodDont · 05/12/2023 16:41

No need to worry about it at all your over thinking it. A rollercoaster as two days post ovulation won’t change anything.

Figment1982 · 05/12/2023 16:56

Don't worry about it... I was unknowingly pregnant by a few days when I went to Florida.. didn't drink but downed a swimming pool's worth of Mountain Dew whilst there, and went on all sorts of rides with no apparent ill effects.

Now 4 year old doesn't believe me when I tell her she's already been on Test Track and Space Mountain!

MojoDojoCasaHouse · 05/12/2023 17:00

You’re massively overthinking this. Would be good to relax about stuff otherwise you will be anxious all the time throughout pregnancy and parenthood.

Anisette · 05/12/2023 17:01

Greeneyegirl · 05/12/2023 16:32

It takes the average healthy couple with no fertility issues a year to conceive. I wouldn't put your life on hold on the off chance you might get pregnant. It also won't affect your pregnancy that early. I drank and acted as normal whe TTC and glad I did as it took 11 months.

I think it would be foolish to rely on that, to be honest. The standard advice actually say "up to a year", and essentially is telling people not to start worrying till a year has gone by; it emphatically is not saying that you're highly unlikely to get pregnant for around a year. For everyone like @Greeneyegirl who took 11 months to conceive, you will find someone who conceived the first time they had sex without contraception.

If I were you, OP, I'd wait till I got back from honeymoon. A couple of weeks realistically will make little difference.

SantaBarbaraMonica · 05/12/2023 17:07

It’s totally fine. I got pregnant on honeymoon. Didn’t realise I was pregnant at the time but I drank a fair bit (until I weirdly felt sick at the thought of it….), smoked cigars, lounged in saunas and hot tubs, ate ALL the foods your ‘not supposed to while pregnant’ and worst of all, came off my motorbike at speed, knocking myself out in the middle of the desert and hours from any sort of medical facility.

Pregnancy is precious but women are brainwashed to think so many normal things are irresponsible when pregnant. Go, enjoy your honeymoon, drink the alcohol, shag a lot, ride the rides. You are unlikely to get pregnant instantly but you will only have one honeymoon (hopefully) in your whole life.

klajs · 05/12/2023 17:11

you will find someone who conceived the first time they had sex without contraception

Yep...I've had unprotected sex once in my life but have been pregnant 3 times...you just don't know until you start.

I wouldn't over think this though unless you think it's going to stress you out and ruin the holiday, ultimately, it'll depend on where your cycle is at that time anyway. Are you regular and able to predict?

SantaBarbaraMonica · 05/12/2023 17:13

Oh forgot to add that baby was and is totally fine. Though I didn’t touch a drop of alcohol once I found out after getting home. Or ride motorbikes, eat blue cheese or get into roasting hot baths.

Finally to add, I ate the cheese and odd glass of wine by the time I got to my third and fourth baby. I think pregnancy is micromanaged by society these days.

Dogsitterwoes · 05/12/2023 19:46

Greeneyegirl · 05/12/2023 16:32

It takes the average healthy couple with no fertility issues a year to conceive. I wouldn't put your life on hold on the off chance you might get pregnant. It also won't affect your pregnancy that early. I drank and acted as normal whe TTC and glad I did as it took 11 months.

No it doesn't. Conception isn't cumulative. The one year mark is a signifier for maybe having fertility problems, and couples with no fertility problems should get pregnant at some point from the first time they have unprotected sex at around the fertile period. If it takes 12 months or more (working on your idea of 12 months being the average, then many fertile couples will take longer) they need to start investigating.

MargotBamborough · 05/12/2023 20:08

Going on rollercoasters and having a few cocktails on your honeymoon will have zero impact on your chances of conceiving.

TheGoogleMum · 05/12/2023 20:12

Maybe don't make conceiving the focus but don't prevent, and enjoy the honeymoon :)

Hattie89 · 05/12/2023 20:17

Speaking from experience, I’d put it off but for a different reason - if the honeymoon isn’t too long after your holiday.

We were TTC and I got my period during our honeymoon which made me worry slightly as I was convinced I was pregnant this month. (I KNOW it can take some time but for health reasons I was worried about my fertility.) This spoilt my honeymoon a tiny bit tbh. Oh, and I also ate a LOT of sushi and had a few drinks which also made me worry when I did conceive soon after. If I’m lucky enough for there to be a next time, I’ll probably avoid certain things from the moment I’m TTC as I’m a terrible overthinker. But I have friends who only stop (very moderate!) drinking and things when they’ve seen the blue line. It’s a personal choice.

Naptrappedmummy · 05/12/2023 20:23

I wouldn’t. There’s a few more things coming to light now about how the periconception period is far more important than we think it is in terms of the brain development of the fetus (the few weeks before and immediately after conception). I would put it off for a month so you can enjoy the honeymoon without worrying.

SwordToFlamethrower · 05/12/2023 20:23

Do some research because thinking it's not ok to rides while ttc is massively ignorant!

Your uterus won't fall out if you run either.

iLovee · 05/12/2023 20:24

Personally, I think its fine and actually did something very similar with my second (roller coasters and some pretty heavy drinking) but I understand why you are worried.

My baby is fine btw - but i appreciate that it's not a guarantee.

How long after your wedding is your honeymoon? Could you put off TTC for a month or so until you get back and dont need to worry?

Also, age is a factor when deciding too i suppose but I don't know enough about that to comment really. Just floating the idea out there xxx

Hattie89 · 05/12/2023 20:36

Naptrappedmummy · 05/12/2023 20:23

I wouldn’t. There’s a few more things coming to light now about how the periconception period is far more important than we think it is in terms of the brain development of the fetus (the few weeks before and immediately after conception). I would put it off for a month so you can enjoy the honeymoon without worrying.

As a chronic worrier, I kept thinking why do they recommend folic acid for a few months preconception if that period isn’t that important. This is why if there’s a next time, I’m avoiding all the things we should avoid in pregnancy from TTC. Even if it’s just to avoid the anxiety which was so crippling first time around.

I recommend Emily Oster’s books like Expecting Better and Cribsheet for making informed decisions from pregnancy through to parenting btw!

Naptrappedmummy · 05/12/2023 20:38

Folic acid and vitamins have the most impact in the 3 weeks before conception to the 3 weeks after. 3 weeks after is when most ladies get their BFP and by then the effects are minimal. There really needs to be more awareness around this, I tell people when I can but don’t want to look bossy!

Mangotango39 · 05/12/2023 21:01

you will be FINE!!!!
ttc can be a long or short road - I didn't stop doing anything until I knew I was pregnant.
you might not even be ovulating over those weeks either or it could be at the very end.

good luck x

greencheetah · 05/12/2023 21:12

One of my best friends conceived whilst on holiday at Disneyworld Florida!

If you’re worried, just wait two weeks til you are back.

Londonrach1 · 05/12/2023 21:15

You overthinking this. If you were lucky to fall pregnant it's all too early to be a problem. Just enjoy your wedding, honeymoon etc..

MimiSunshine · 05/12/2023 21:18

I wouldn’t worry about drinking and going on rollercoaster while TTC but I would check if Florida is a red zone for Zika before TTC
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/zika/

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Munchyseeds2 · 05/12/2023 21:24

Just go and have a lovely time!
Take folic acid if you want, just in case