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SleepingStandingUp · 2023-12-04T19:09:35+00:00

... how do you explain all the stuff in toy shops and all the people buying presents? Are they just for naughty kids Santa doesn't buy for? Just contemplating it today as I stashed my large bag of presents in front of a random 3 year old on the bus. Not an Aibu but when I try to add to Chat it won't let me on the app

cheddercherry · 05/12/2023 10:29

Santa doesn’t bring everything for us he brings one or two things on the list and the rest comes from family and friends who love them and wanted to get them a gift.

Maybe we’re unique but my DS4 is in a reception class of only 15 and none of them have all their gifts from Santa (I know as there’s a mums WhatsApp’s and it’s come up alongside despair at elf on the shelf).

My son also does some Xmas shopping for family with us so he knows we buy gifts. I think even at four he’d clock that Santa delivering a pile of presents to every child was pushing it!

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/12/2023 10:35

Woodraff65 · 04/12/2023 19:26

Yes Santa brings all of the presents that are there on Christmas morning. I do this with my children and my parents did with me when I was a child. I had no idea people didn’t all do this. Seems so strange to me.
Presents from aunties grandparents etc are not from Santa but given separately

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It seems strange that if Aunty Edna gets them a present, and Nanny does, and school does, and Betty across the lead does, and FC does that people might "get" the kids something off them too? Surely it's odd the only people who CBA to buy you something is your parents?

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/12/2023 10:35

NewUserNewName · 04/12/2023 19:17

We do all presents from Santa. My son has never questioned someone else buying toys (and why should he, it could be for someone’s birthday).
Once he’s older and questions these things, it’s probably time to tell him the truth about Santa.

All from you or all from everyone?

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x2boys · 05/12/2023 10:38

SnacksToTheMax · 05/12/2023 10:27

My kids ask Santa for between 1 and 3 presents, depending on size, and he brings those + stockings. I’d feel weird not giving credit and thanks to friends and family who have taken the time to choose gifts!

Our Santa always brought the presents from us but if family and friends gave gifts they always got credit for their gifts
Families just do things differently

Scruffington · 05/12/2023 10:38

SleepingStandingUp · 05/12/2023 10:35

It seems strange that if Aunty Edna gets them a present, and Nanny does, and school does, and Betty across the lead does, and FC does that people might "get" the kids something off them too? Surely it's odd the only people who CBA to buy you something is your parents?

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Why are you overthinking this so much?

Kids buy into the Christmas traditions of their own home. It's pretty simple.

x2boys · 05/12/2023 10:41

SleepingStandingUp · 05/12/2023 10:35

It seems strange that if Aunty Edna gets them a present, and Nanny does, and school does, and Betty across the lead does, and FC does that people might "get" the kids something off them too? Surely it's odd the only people who CBA to buy you something is your parents?

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If children are young enough to beleive e in Santa they tend not to question it in my albeit limited experience
But some families say they send presents to Santa so delivers them etc

Megatruck2 · 05/12/2023 10:41

Santa is the delivery man in our house, he brings everything but none are actually from him. He also visits grandparents house and delivers there too. That was what I was told when growing up and never questioned it so I'm not sure that kids think about it that deeply!

MrTiddlesTheCat · 05/12/2023 10:42

Father Christmas is the delivery man. Parents send money to him for elf made presents, although Father Christmas has final say on what they are. Relatives buy them in the shops and Father Christmas collects them all and delivers them along with the elf ones.

Sorted!

gotomomo · 05/12/2023 10:47

Santa only brought modest stockings, I wasn't going to give a mythical being credit for the nice stuff!

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/12/2023 10:48

Never gave the big red fella the credit. He brought the stockings, we bought the big stuff under the tree.

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 10:50

I think the decent, considerate thing to do is to keep the Father Christmas presents to a sensible limit such as a small stocking or one or two wrapped presents. Then you will not have children going back to school after Christmas telling other children that Father Christmas brought them a huge sack of presents and making children that got a couple of presents wonder what they did wrong.

Pootle40 · 05/12/2023 10:53

Growing up all presents from mum and dad were from Santa. As a child I never questioned why there was nothing from my parents. Don't think children are wired to think that way.

x2boys · 05/12/2023 10:57

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 10:50

I think the decent, considerate thing to do is to keep the Father Christmas presents to a sensible limit such as a small stocking or one or two wrapped presents. Then you will not have children going back to school after Christmas telling other children that Father Christmas brought them a huge sack of presents and making children that got a couple of presents wonder what they did wrong.

I don't v really get this argument, because those children ,will still.have had their enormous pile of presents wether they are from "Santa " or mum and dad they will still be talking about them,that's life some kids are more privileged than others.

ganglion · 05/12/2023 10:57

In our house Santa brings a stocking and a couple of extra gifts (such as board game or play set). That is what we had when I was little.

However when we pop to my partners mums on Christmas Day morning the kids grandma and two great aunts shout "Santa's been here too!!" And present the kids with three huge bags of toys each. Much, much more than they get from Santa at home and I feel like this dilutes the joy. I've never said anything to the adults but after we've left I usually say "you know those presents were really from X, Y and Z? No one gets that much from Santa at Christmas!"

Fionaville · 05/12/2023 11:00

When I say that Santa brings everything, I mean the presents we've bought for Christmas morning. Are people actually saying that the presents from extended family are from Santa too? Everything from extended family/friends is from them and they watch the kids open them and get a thank you.
They get enough 'From Santa' he doesn't need to take the credit for everyone else's gifts too!
I think adults over think the whole thing. My kids have never wondered why they get more or less than anybody else. They just thought that those kids had asked for the things in their letter to Santa! They have never compared. They've got expensive bikes, ipads, dolls houses or gaming systems amongst their pile and when asked what they got for Christmas, they'd say things like "Minions monopoly!" Because that was the first thing they thought of. Most kids aren't as materialistic as adults, so they don't do this 'compare the cost of presents' game that adults seem to think they do.

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 11:04

x2boys · 05/12/2023 10:57

I don't v really get this argument, because those children ,will still.have had their enormous pile of presents wether they are from "Santa " or mum and dad they will still be talking about them,that's life some kids are more privileged than others.

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Children understand at an early age that different families have different incomes. It's harder to understand why Father Christmas would give less to poor children, it would make more sense that he would give more.

DappledThings · 05/12/2023 11:04

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 10:50

I think the decent, considerate thing to do is to keep the Father Christmas presents to a sensible limit such as a small stocking or one or two wrapped presents. Then you will not have children going back to school after Christmas telling other children that Father Christmas brought them a huge sack of presents and making children that got a couple of presents wonder what they did wrong.

Mine have never questioned it. I'm not convinced children discuss it in that much detail anyway. Mine have only ever had little bits in a stocking from FC. Don't think they've ever wondered or noticed that their friends get more or less from family and more or less from FC.

Wolvesart · 05/12/2023 11:07

So in the Father Christmas believing years, one stocking was put out in the living room with mince pie, drink and carrot. In the morning, one or 2 gifts, the filled stocking (small things) were in the sitting room with empty glass, crumbs and piece of carrot. Other presents from us under the tree.

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 11:07

DappledThings · 05/12/2023 11:04

Mine have never questioned it. I'm not convinced children discuss it in that much detail anyway. Mine have only ever had little bits in a stocking from FC. Don't think they've ever wondered or noticed that their friends get more or less from family and more or less from FC.

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My older child was made fun of by another child and called naughty.

Fionaville · 05/12/2023 11:07

SleepingStandingUp · 05/12/2023 10:35

It seems strange that if Aunty Edna gets them a present, and Nanny does, and school does, and Betty across the lead does, and FC does that people might "get" the kids something off them too? Surely it's odd the only people who CBA to buy you something is your parents?

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Most kids don't think like that. It was only when my youngest got to 9 that he said "You have so many presents to buy for everyone else and all the food, it's a good job you don't have to buy for us kids too and Santa brings them!"
Most kids of Santa believing age, really aren't sat there with their pile of presents on Christmas day thinking "Where's my present from my parents?" And if they are wanting even more, then you've got bigger problems as you'd have a bit of a brat on your hands.

x2boys · 05/12/2023 11:07

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 11:04

Children understand at an early age that different families have different incomes. It's harder to understand why Father Christmas would give less to poor children, it would make more sense that he would give more.

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They really don't think to deep!y ,they are not adults so there for don't think like adults ,and you can't stop .children talking about what they got at Xmas regardless if so it came "from"

xILikeJamx · 05/12/2023 11:10

The kids write a letter for one 'big present' from Santa, then they get a sack of smaller things from us that they don't know in advance: board game, books, t-shirt, chocolate, etc.

x2boys · 05/12/2023 11:10

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 11:07

My older child was made fun of by another child and called naughty.

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Well the other child was clearly very unpleasant

Pipistrellus · 05/12/2023 11:12

x2boys · 05/12/2023 11:10

Well the other child was clearly very unpleasant

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Yes, he was very spoilt from a family with more money than class.

toomanyseasonsinoneday · 05/12/2023 11:13

Everything from Father Christmas and never had to offer any explanation. Both sets of grandparents also said their gifts were from Father Christmas but had delivered them to their houses (their choices) and that meant they got to see them being opened. Never understood when people say they want credit for the big presents. If a friend bought a gift we would make sure the children knew it was from them. If I give gifts to children I always say they are from Father Christmas too. I think adults think about it more than children.