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To accidentally on purpose throw some of dtwats stuff out see how he likes it ?!?!?! 😡😡😡

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PutinSmellsPassItOn · 04/12/2023 14:54

I'm absolutely raging, dp has a habit of blindly throwing stuff out (( hoards shit like random, ancient trainers that are more hole than trainer tho ))

He's got previous for this going back as far as I can remember. I once intercepted a bag fullnof the kids baby photos and brand new packs of socks that he'd swept up in a pile.

And here we are again. Last week I ordered some tat from temu, dp was decorating whilst I took ds out. He cleared the room and the obvious thing in the big box he put up stairs but the less obvious bag containing an I love nutella spoon for my sons stocking and a Christmas tree star that looks like the Mario star has now gone. (( wasnt expecting much but its surprisingly good )) And I just know he's pissing binned it, because that's what he pissing does.

Was it my fault for leaving it downstairs?? Yes, yes it was but ffs, to add insult to injury he was sat playing snooking on his PlayStation. Well I say was, he crapped himself and shot off to look for it after I'd let rip.......grrr.

And no. I don't think its weaponised incompetence, he just fucking bumbles clumsily through life. Its like living with the bloke on some mothers do Ave em. 😑😤😤😤

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orangegato · 04/12/2023 14:56

A bloke once threw one of my shoes out. Just the one. If my partner binned any of my shit I’d hit the roof. How hard is it to ask if you still want something?????!

DidiAskYouThough · 04/12/2023 14:57

Sounds tedious, do you need to live with the hoarder? Whose house is it? You could live separately and date, without this drudgery.

MrsMarzetti · 04/12/2023 15:12

I would make a special trip to the tip with bit of crap he has.

Nicole1111 · 04/12/2023 15:43

What item of his is getting thrown out?

Stephisaur · 04/12/2023 15:53

Looks like the playstation is going out for the bin men this week then? ;)

Turfwars · 04/12/2023 15:59

Make him order it and replace it. Every time.

ManchesterLu · 04/12/2023 16:28

YANBU, but 'dtwat' made me smile. Thanks, I needed that.

Popetthetreehugger · 04/12/2023 16:33

he needs to re order it every time …. Or the PlayStation gets it !!

AnchorWHAT · 04/12/2023 16:42

I have the opposite issue, to be fair i rarely throw out anything belonging to anybody else but DH was away for three weeks and i blitzed the whole house ( probably out of boredom) everything from under the bed came out so i could get rid of the layers of dust 😫huge bag stuffed with random plastic bags taking up space went in the bin, we have hundreds of plastic bags elsewhere in the house. Anyway DH arrives home, doesnt notice how lovely the house looks, day after unpacking it was where is the bag of bags? In the bin last week i admitted to a tirade of how he was really really cross, some of those bags were “special” plastic bags, i nearly laughed but he was fuming 😲i think after telling him the following day that he was out of order ranting at me over plastic bags he has forgiven me 😁

EvilElsa · 04/12/2023 16:49

I'd do it in a heartbeat. On bin day so it can't be retrieved as well. I'd be absolutely furious -how rude to just bin stuff that doesn't belong to you. He needs to feel how shit it is when he does it to you.

EvilElsa · 04/12/2023 16:51

Oh and his PlayStation remote might go mysteriously missing for a few weeks as well...

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 04/12/2023 16:53

AnchorWHAT · 04/12/2023 16:42

I have the opposite issue, to be fair i rarely throw out anything belonging to anybody else but DH was away for three weeks and i blitzed the whole house ( probably out of boredom) everything from under the bed came out so i could get rid of the layers of dust 😫huge bag stuffed with random plastic bags taking up space went in the bin, we have hundreds of plastic bags elsewhere in the house. Anyway DH arrives home, doesnt notice how lovely the house looks, day after unpacking it was where is the bag of bags? In the bin last week i admitted to a tirade of how he was really really cross, some of those bags were “special” plastic bags, i nearly laughed but he was fuming 😲i think after telling him the following day that he was out of order ranting at me over plastic bags he has forgiven me 😁

'Special plastic bags' deserves its own thread.😀

AnchorWHAT · 04/12/2023 16:55

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 04/12/2023 16:53

'Special plastic bags' deserves its own thread.😀

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Believe me I was tempted, think the word important also crept in😂I have never seen him use a single bag that looked that special!

AdoraBell · 04/12/2023 16:56

YANBU decide on something expensive and important to him and bin it.

My DH once put papers/letters/unopened post in front of me and - that’s yours, sort it. So I did, as I didn’t need his new credit card that envelope went in the bin with the rest of his post and important documents. He learned and has never done it again.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 04/12/2023 16:59

My mum was a nightmare for this when I was at home. Quite often stuff I had just bought or taking things out of their packaging and throwing the instructions away. For her 50th birthday she unwrapped replacement items. She did stop after that.

drowningwitch · 04/12/2023 17:01

Extremely annoying and odd that he did this, I agree. I can't imagine why anyone would throw anyone else's stuff away without asking. But seriously - I'm not sure that "revenge binning" makes any sense. You should be able to explain to him exactly how it makes you feel and he should realise that upsetting/not respecting you is not acceptable. If basic communication like that isn't an option, I'd be considering moving on...

Orange67 · 04/12/2023 19:00

Are you leaving a mess everywhere and he's sick of seeing it all? Otherwise it's incredibly random of him to go out of his way to throw these things away...

RJnomore1 · 04/12/2023 19:04

Sorry who is the hoarder? Just for clarity.

QueenBean22 · 04/12/2023 19:04

throw out the PlayStation controller or the wire that charges it

Highlyflavouredgravy · 04/12/2023 19:06

AdoraBell · 04/12/2023 16:56

YANBU decide on something expensive and important to him and bin it.

My DH once put papers/letters/unopened post in front of me and - that’s yours, sort it. So I did, as I didn’t need his new credit card that envelope went in the bin with the rest of his post and important documents. He learned and has never done it again.

That is just nasty, petty shit

Doubleespresso33 · 04/12/2023 19:09

Turfwars · 04/12/2023 15:59

Make him order it and replace it. Every time.

This!

StoodySmithereens · 04/12/2023 19:12

So why were the kids baby photos in a bag, was it a special bag?

How did he sweep up new socks, were they on the floor?

Put your stuff away then he won’t feel the need to clean up.

CostelloJones · 04/12/2023 19:16

My DH and it annoys me so much!
Then claims he hasn’t done it/didn’t realise

kids toys, my make up, hair grips, books

why??????

Neonttasselll · 04/12/2023 19:18

I don't think it was your fault for leaving it downstairs. I think you should be able to leave things which are not obviously rubbish in your own home.

CostelloJones · 04/12/2023 19:19

StoodySmithereens · 04/12/2023 19:12

So why were the kids baby photos in a bag, was it a special bag?

How did he sweep up new socks, were they on the floor?

Put your stuff away then he won’t feel the need to clean up.

My DH has done this when we have been sorting stuff out and he hasn’t looked in the bag or looked properly. Eg. I was sorting out a load of clothes that didn’t fit the kids anymore and he got rid of them. Some of them were stained but some of them were special, I just hadn’t sorted them out yet and he assumed they were for the charity shop💔💔💔

Surely most people would ask first?

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