Christmas is not for adults it's just for kids

[TheAverageJoanne]

Saw this on a page this morning. Allegedly
Christmas is not for us adults it's just for kids.

What do you think about this? I think it's rubbish and very upsetting for adults without partners or family.

As I'm out on my first Christmas party tonight, I say Bah Humbug to "it's just for kids".

Christians will have something to say on that point too.

I think it's for everyone but in a household with children then obviously they take priority.

I disagree, too. I love Christmas!

I don't like New Year's Eve though, but that's my own opinion, others can celebrate it or whatever.

It's just a bit of written tat, why would you worry about it?

Lots of contemporary Christmas is aimed at kids. Christmas with my grown up childless children is very different that Christmas when they were small. If we ever have grandchildren it will change again. Not sure why that’s upsetting.

Bollocks, kids don’t drink Bailey’s. And what’s Christmas without it?

Its a balance like most things.

The parents getting plastered, ignoring the kids etc is wrong.
But so is running themselves ragged and ending up broke and exhausted.

Its supposed to be fun for everyone.

I'm a Christian. Christmas is therefore really important to me for spiritual reasons, but I also enjoy the secular " trees and lights" thing. And spending time with family.

Christmas is not just for children.

Of course it isn't just for kids. Personally, though, I think it's always way more fun when young kids are involved. They bring a magic to it that just isn't there for me otherwise.

That's just someone who's trying to pat themselves on the back for being 'unselfish'. They probably post loads of those stupid memes about being the person who does everything for everyone else.

I think it's entirely normal for kids to be your focus at Christmas if you have them. That doesn't mean adults aren't allowed to celebrate. Otherwise we wouldn't have pubs and restaurants full of people at this time of year would we?

Why on earth would you let this sort of thing upset you? Its just one of those twee posts people post to try and get some sort of attention on social media. Scroll past

Thanks for those of you concerned I'm upset or worried about this meme. I'd like to assure you all that I'm not. It's just debate for the first morning of December that's all ...

Absolute nonsense designed deliberately to try and put others down. “My Christmas is more special than yours”.

Christmas is a religious festival merged into secular traditions. If you look back at the origins of the secular tradition they were 100% inappropriate for children. Feasting and a lot of alcohol. That’s why it got banned one year. The victorians made it into what it is today.

People post all sorts of dog shit on fb. It’s not exactly overwhelmed with intellect and wisdom. Xmas is for everyone who enjoys it.

Ok but everyone knows it's shit

I think Christmas is for family.
It looks different depending on what your family looks like;
If you are Christian you have more of the church elements.
If you have kids you have more of the Father Christmas/Elf elements.
If you are all adults you have more of the wine,chocolates and cheese elements.
If your family is you and the dog you have more of the crisp winter walks and cuddles on the sofa elements.
Christmas is for everyone and everyone's Christmas is a different balance of traditions, whether national traditions or family ones.

Well that just seems unnecessarily divisive. Yes, people with children will usually prioritise their dc's experience of it over their own, as their own parents probably did for them. But that doesn't stop anyone else making what they want of it.

I’ve always hated it. Like not having a child means you’re not entitled to properly participate in this country’s biggest religious / cultural festival - total bullshit.

Won't somebody think of the baby Jesus?

Absolutely, he really knew how to party. Water in to wine? yes please.

Christmas is a made up thing - anyone can celebrate it however they like.

If you have young children there's a lot of happiness to be derived from their excitement about Christmas and making it fun for them - it's not unselfish for parents to focus on children, it's actually the most rewarding aspect (for many parents). Particularly as you get less chance to get drunk, go out, lie in etc

Commercialism. Buying and overeating. I have an Indian friend, loves Christmas but doesn’t get all the buying!

I love Christmas! Always did, the family gets together, people visited from all over the country and NZ/Australia. We would play games, like us give us a clue, board games for hours, dress up that kind of thing. Christmas Eve, Christmas Eve, Boxing Day - then New Year’s Eve have another celebration and then out for a meal New Year’s Day.

Sadly all have since died, only my mum and aunt/uncle are left. DH doesn’t like Christmas, neither does his side of the family. They’ll be collected, brought here to eat, moan, open their presents and leave after 90 mins.
DM is in her eighties, she’s still fun but limited. My aunt is nursing my uncle who has dementia, we won’t see them this year (aunt wants it this way). Things change, not always for the better.

I still enjoy Christmas, have a meal with friends, watch tv, have walks. I try to make things fun for DD but there are less of us so it’s harder. 🤷🏼‍♀️ DH is stuck ferrying his family back and forth (mil/fil not together, mil lives away so doesn’t always come, but she and fil won’t be in the same room as mils new partner doesn’t like it 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣. Strewth that all sounds pretty grim- pass the sherry!

DDog gets excited though, bless him.

@WillowCraft I agree with you but the post is saying "it's not for us".

I remember a family member (male) saying Christmas is for kids and New Year for adults. What he thinks about Halloween, Easter and Pancakes Day is anyone's guess!

How offensive are you?

It's a random Facebook post with no impact, but in any case it doesn't actually say it's 'just' for children, in the emphatic way you have. It says it is 'for' them, which I read as saying they're the primary focus in households that have them. You've made it more provocative.

My ex mother in law and sister in laws parroted that crap at me for the full 6 years we were doing infertility treatment.
The venom I feel to the "Xmas is for kids" statement is off the scale.