Aibu to think that my sister is the golden girl, where my parents are cocerned?

[Overrun]

I could bore you with a never ending list of incidents where I felt she was favoured over me, not that I keep count you understand

The lastest ones are as follows:

My Dad got a brand new BMW company car last year, and he is due to retire next year and needs to get another one before he does. So he wants buy the original one for his retirement as it is top spec and just drive the new one until he retires. The other day my sister mentions that he is signing over the car to her and her partner for a year as he can't keep three cars on his drive. They will have two cars between them as they are keeping their own car. They also don't have off road parking where they live.

I am a bit pissed off that I wasn't even considered for this, as I have to admit there is a shallow part of me that would have enjoyed driving a BMW occasionally when we didn't have the dcs with us. We have a big drive by the way, which would easily fit 3 cars onto it.

Incident no 2:

I phoned my Mum today to see what their Easter plans were, you know, did they want to come to us, or meet up. But no, they are going away for a long weekend with my sister and her partner.

AIBU to feel a bit put out, that these things are just decided without me ever seeming to be make the running in terms of being considered?

One thing I've learnt in the last 20 years is that people need different kids of support. My parents have helped out me and DW financially now and then, but my brother and sister have been more secure/ clever with money and haven't had to have this.

On the other hand, my brother had a huge amount of emotional support when his marriage broke up, and they spent a lot of time "negotiating" with his wife's family.

Horses for courses. You do things for your children in different ways.

I see what you are saying UnquietDad, and believe that you need to treat your dcs indiviually, they have different needs, so can't always treat them equally as they need different things.
But when there is a blatant favouritism in terms of who they spend time with (their time being the most preiscous commodity of all) it hurts.

You are right overrun ..it can hurt sometimes.Unquiet dad is right too. We kind of have roles within the family don't we?
I was thinking about this the other week. My mum has 2 definite favourites (there are 7 kids altogether)She prefers the the youngest and oldest children (both boys).The rest of us have always known it..although my mother would always deny it. I was watching her with them a few weeks back and she is so much more intimate with them than with the rest of us. The way she looks at them is more loving somehow. There is such a real obvious special bond there between them that isn't there for the rest of us.
As i was watching them, it suddenly struck me..that she can't help it.It's so natural. They are coincidently the most emotionally and practically needy out of all of us.They both fufill a role for her and vice-versa.