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AIBU?

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Partner walked away and left me on a night out

68 replies

AMie45 · 25/11/2023 00:24

AIBU? I think I am in the right but needing some others perspective. Went out with my partner for dinner in nearest town, his choice. Both had 2 drinks with meal. Went to go for a drink after. 1st and 2nd pub too quiet for him. Third pub too noisy. He walked out and left me. I followed. Spoke and he walked off again. I waited 10min, phoned and texted him but he didn’t return. I texted to let him know I was going to walk to taxi rank and he was welcome to join me. He didn’t and walked 7 miles home. He is blaming me, all is my fault and I am childish (because I think I refused to walk after him although I did wait, phone and text but his phone was dead he says). He’s now packed his bag to leave, went out to his car but came back as knew he had had a drink (he has his own home to go to but it’s over 1 hour away). I really feel I am right but am being very berated. AIBU to not follow him and take a taxi home myself as it was his strop not mine?

OP posts:
fairydust11 · 25/11/2023 10:03

Yanbu - you say you have previously split up and got back together - was it for a similar reason?
Has he gaslighted you before? Be strong and let him go. Don’t take him back again.

Nowherenew · 25/11/2023 10:03

He complains we don’t go out much but when we do it often goes wrong.

This isn’t normal.

Relationships aren’t meant to be this difficult.

What positives does he bring to your life?

Santaiswashinghissleigh · 25/11/2023 10:07

Thank fuck you don't live together or are married with dc. Ditch the dodo op. Watch your life and mh flourish..

dapsnotplimsolls · 25/11/2023 10:42

8 years? Make the most of this opportunity and get rid.

MrsMarzetti · 25/11/2023 11:01

Who did he see in the third pub ? OW maybe because that is the only explanation for walking out and leaving you standing.

Mycatmax · 25/11/2023 11:04

You say your world has become small.

I think it could widen up and be marvellous without this grumpy man child in it.

Give yourself a massive Christmas present and dump him.

SusanKennedyshouldLTB · 25/11/2023 11:06

be grateful op. He is making your life miserable. Onwards snd upwards.

NigelHarmansNewWife · 25/11/2023 11:06

So it was okay for him to walk off leaving you on your own, but not okay for you to let him go? He's playing games to control you. I'd end things.

Isheabastard · 25/11/2023 11:27

I can get stressed at certain things. Too crowded, bright lights, too much noise. But I own it and it’s my problem.

I accept it’s annoying for others when I vet where we are going, but I either put up, shut up or don’t go.

I don’t ever get angry at other people or blame them.

His phone was dead? That was convenient.

Kimten · 25/11/2023 14:00

The trash took itself out.

Crazycrazylady · 25/11/2023 14:08

Honestly life is too short for this .. find someone else who is not a moody man child !

BrightGreenMoonBuggy · 25/11/2023 14:12

How absolutely pathetic of him. Genuinely, I can’t get my head round a grown man behaving like this towards you.

Cherrysoup · 25/11/2023 15:39

It’s not the first time he’s been a stroppy arse. How much of your relationship does he control/wreck?

Americano75 · 25/11/2023 15:55

Make him single for Christmas, give him something to moan about. The arse.

monstrousindecision · 25/11/2023 16:20

Wow what a dickhead. Block and move on.

Razz50 · 02/04/2024 03:10

Hope the OP got rid of him!

newnamethanks · 02/04/2024 07:48

Your relationship is over. Shut the door on him and make sure he stays away.

Mumof3confused · 27/04/2024 19:45

This behaviour is not ok.

You said your world has become small. Has he got something to do with this? If so this is another huge red flag 🚩

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