Message from childminder

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Aibu to think this is shit.

''Due to a change of circumstances I am no longer going to be working Friday pm. This unfortunately means that I need to give notice. Therefore My last day with xx will be 5th January.

Thank you''

So for context my child started with childminder 3 weeks ago, one afternoon a week, all seems to be going well, he's reluctant to go in but I get updates pretty quickly to say he's settled fine. CM newly registered and doesn't seem particularly busy.

AIBU to be fed up with this?

But it's life

Circs change. At least you've got notice

Sure it's annoying but I doubt they are doing it for fun, must be a good reason!

Well it's unfortunate for you, but it's a polite message, plenty of notice... I wouldn't say it's shit on the CM's part, no.

It’s unfortunate, but not shit of the CM.

It's annoying, but no-one can predict what's going to happen in the future. She has given you approx 5 - 6 weeks notice, so it's not unreasonable.

Did you agree a notice period? If they have kept to that then I think it’s fine. What were you expecting?

I suppose i think it shows she's very unreliable.

How much more notice do you need?

Obviously a pain for you having to change childminder but she’s giving you plenty of notice. Circumstances change and I don’t see what she’s done wrong.

It's not shit, no.

Arrangements have to be mutually beneficial and she has the right to end things just as you do.

She's polite, given plenty of notice and that's fair enough.

You can now choose how you react to this. Being impolite back and calling her shit seems harsh.

Things happen and she has given you plenty of notice.

Unreliable would be her saying she's stopping from next week, not giving you 6 weeks notice. Life happens.

It doesn’t really matter if she is generally unreliable or not, she isn’t going to childmind for you anymore so it doesn’t matter. She has given plenty of notice.

Telling you his last day is today would be very unreliable.

Giving 6 weeks notice is not.

No it doesn't! You've got 6 weeks notice!

How so? She gave plenty of notice and she could have a very valid reason for changing her hours, not that she has to share that reason with you. Doesn't mean she is unreliable, its life ffs

I don’t see how it shows this. For whatever reason she is unable to look after your child on that particular afternoon, she’s given you notice of this. Unreliable would have been her cancelling at the last minute or being late etc

Peoples circumstances change, she has given you fair notice. If you needed complete certainty of set hours you should have gone with nursery over childminder.

I very much doubt she wants such a part time arrangement. There are myriad reasons she could be doing this but she owes you very little.

One afternoon a week is probably not enough for your child to settle in easily anyway.

Of course she's not being unreliable she's giving you plenty of notice.

I would imagine that these are circumstances beyond her control and even if it is not she is giving you lots of notice I think she is being very professional. She could have easily only given you a week notice. Sometimes you need to not take things personally and realise that other things are happening outside people's work.

Even then, nurseries close without warning! We had one local to us shut last year, parents were emailed at 7pm and had no childcare with immediate effect. This will happen more and more in the current financial climate.

The point is, circumstances change, even yours OP. Would you like to be held to a contract which no longer works for you?

YABU, you got notice and plenty of it. She isn't mandated is a business she obviously has to refuse money for a reason.

Why? If she had given a week's notice, I might agree with you, but five weeks? C'mon.

Polite message, plenty of notice, completely reasonable.

Fridays are always quiet at nurseries my DC attended so she probably can't get enough children on that day to make it work.