To be annoyed at MIL

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My hubby is taking my 3 year old and my 6 month old to his parents this weekend - I can’t go as my mum is ill but we seem them fairly regularly (a few times a month)
My MIL has decided to take my DC to see Santa at their local conservative club. It will be the first time my baby will have seen Santa and the first time my eldest is old enough to understand and get excited about seeing him.
I’m feeling really upset to be missing the experience and to miss seeing my eldest meet Santa for the first time when he actually understands what is going on.
Hubby thinks I’m being ridiculous as we are taking him to see Santa anyway the weekend after (also with my in-laws) and says I can’t say anything to MIL.
Am I being ridiculous for feeling upset to miss what feels like a special moment?

Yet I would have to find them the scruffiest clothes, smear dirt and snot all over their faces then wear baggy leggings and oceans of cheap 'gold' to take mine to the Liebour CLub!

My mum always made sure she ran "firsts" past me

Yes it could be that greasy faced fat idiot, Cameron as Santa.

For me, the 'firsts' were the first time I saw my dc walk, the first time I heard them say their first word, the first time I saw the wonder on their face when they watched a firework explode in the sky. And the first time they ate sand, chewed a lemon, discovered chocolate...

Essentially it is about my memories of their delight or disgust, my memories of the expressions on their faces, my memories of the situation or ocassion.

As long as your MIL is not rubbing your face in it, let it go.

Surely even very small children know it’s just a man in a badly fitting costume? And so awkward sitting on a stranger’s knee. The real magic of Christmas is stockings.

This scenario has been on here before. Lots of people think the first visit to Father Christmas is a massive event and a capital F First that everyone should know is sacrosanct. And then there's the ones like me who don't see it as a big deal at all, wouldn't be bothered by grandparents doing it and ascribe no malice to the GPs.

I think the same. Even little ones know it's absolutely not 'Santa'. It's a strange man.
I don't see it as magical for them at all. My kids certainly never requested going to see one.

I'm sorry, you lost me at conservative club.

I would be furious if my MIL tried to steal a first from me. (She would try but she’s kept at arms length. Being a mother can be relentless and those firsts and special traditions make the tough bits worth it.

Say no, absolutely not. There are plenty of other things granny can do with your children.

Had to Google what a conservative Club is. 🤮 I wouldn’t even let ghastly granny near your kids. Hurl.

Were you able to find something OP?