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To “abandon” my son to this…

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Jessica3075 · 23/11/2023 00:16

My son has crippling ocd as a comorbid to his diagnosis of Aspergers. He is an adult. We have managed to keep him out of hospital so far but today discussion was had re. hospital and possibly sectioning. I was told today there are no beds available so, he’s still at home with me tonight.

I am sick with fear.

He is so so out of control that I have no idea what to expect each day I get home. He’s given everything up (work/gym/all but essential food and water) so that he can accommodate his rituals. The drains keep getting blocked due to him using up to 12+ loo rolls in a bathroom session lasting 4 or 5 hours plus. He’s using 2+ litres of soap a day and he’s mopping the carpets. His body is raw and bleeding in places due to scrubbing. I took away his scrunchie thing for shower gel and he was uncontrollably anxious. I had to give it back to him. I know he’s very ill but I’m scared of him “disappearing” into hospital and never coming out.

I can’t do any more. I can’t help him. I want desperately to help him but I’m lost.

I just don’t want him in hospital as he’s so very vulnerable.

Friends and family say I’ve no choice but to “hand him over” when a bed becomes available but I still feel enormous guilt and pain.

OP posts:
Jessica3075 · 13/12/2023 21:21

Yes, the meeting happened. We have a report but the recommendations cannot take place as there are no beds. The wait time is approximately 4-6 months.

He has started a different medication but that’ll take time to kick in.

Its a disgrace.

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RantyAnty · 13/12/2023 21:37

How has he been doing while in the facility?

Jessica3075 · 13/12/2023 22:08

He had a few good days at the beginning as he felt if he was. “good” and “tried”, he might get home quicker. Now, he’s regressed to his almost full time rituals. It’s pitiful to see. He told me yesterday he wanted to die in his sleep and so was just not going to eat. The staff are carers. They’re not psychiatric nurses. One of them told him off for over using the communal washing machine. Clearly, knows nothing of contamination ocd.

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monsteramunch · 13/12/2023 22:43

God I could cry for you @Jessica3075 and for your poor son too. I wish I had anything vaguely useful to suggest but you're doing all the right things already, the system is just so fucked 😞

You are a brilliant mum doing your best with every possible resource available to you.

Im so sorry the system keeps letting you down and I really hope you catch a break soon Flowers

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