Almost 7 years ago a string of events led to me and my husband separating and me leaving our home with our young child. He had been more and more deeply involved in substance misuse and after massive bender he came home and verbally and sort of physically attacked me in front of our toddler. I left and the next year we got back together. It's a long time ago and we rarely talk about it but tonight he came in after a night out with a mate and said that his mate asked about it. I panicked and asked if he told him everything and he turned on me saying 'so you've never been a psycho when you've been drunk or high??'. I feel like he's really never taken responsibility for that night and it makes.me re evaluate stuff. He's now passed out on the sofa so all's good but my mind can't rest from him absolving himself of all the shit he put me through because 'i can be a psycho too'.