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COMPETETITION: Whose mother is the craziest and wickedest?

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:17

Okay, so this is not really so much of "am I being unreasonable" as it is a "she is clearly unreasonable" but we haven't got that topic (yet) on Mumsnet.

I could tell you what she has done. But I don't need to because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it is she who is unreasonable.

So, who else has a crazy wicked old bat for a mother and what has she done?

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:18

Oh, and in the spirit of not being unkind to other mumsnetters, you can not play if your mother types on mumsnet.

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theUrbanDryad · 12/03/2008 18:22

that's me out then...

PersonalClown · 12/03/2008 18:24

Mines just completely indifferent.
If I didn't have Ds, I'd simply not exist to her. I really haven't been included in family things since I moved out. She's even told me that I was a mistake and ruined her life. She won't tell me who my biological father is and had been known to 'forget' me when people ask how many kids she has.
Oh and she's in denial about DS' ASD.

But there are worse mothers on here than mine.

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:29

Ouch.

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PaulaYatesBiggestFan · 12/03/2008 18:31

i cannot enter it would be unfair to you all

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:33

I used to say that someone could make a perfectly accurate movie about my family and no one would believe it because real people could not possibly behave like that.

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Mumcentreplus · 12/03/2008 18:35

I was about to say something funny and meaning-less about mums but I think I'm gonna keep stum ...

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:37

go on say something to cheer us up. Whe you are descended from evil people I find you have to laugh about it.

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PersonalClown · 12/03/2008 18:39

Oh yes. You've got to have a sense of humour or you'd loose the plot.

Monkeybird · 12/03/2008 18:41

If you mean crazy-funny then see here: thread but if you mean crazy-wicked-nasty, noooooo...

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:43

I mean crazy wicked... but somewhere in it we find some humour.

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micrathena · 12/03/2008 18:46

For example, I had a grandpa (actually dad's dad so God help my genetics) who was a terrible verbally abuse mean old drunk. It wasn't funny at all. But I do chuckle when I remember the time we ere over at his house on Halloween and took a picture, only he had the camera upside down and pointed at his face. He was rather displeased about why they put the button on the bottom, and then he was mighty pissed off when the flash went off in his face. he he he... 'tis funny now. Grumpy old man deserved much worse.

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BritTex · 12/03/2008 19:01

ok I've got one.
I moved back half way across the world to be closer to my Mother. had only been back a month when I found out my sister had tried to sleep with my DH, my sister lied about it then was found out. my mother knew all the details but chose my sisters side telling me to "leave it alone". I attempted to call her to understand why she chose my sister over me and she hung up on me twice and has not made any contact with me for the past 5 months !!! now DS and I are making plans to go away again.

BritTex · 12/03/2008 19:09

I have always thought that you should find humour in anything you can, but with this situation I fail to see anything remotely funny in it. We are completely skint and in debt up to our eyeballs after this move and we have lost so much . I am seriously starting to lose the plot.

GentleOtter · 12/03/2008 19:16

Would parents moving house and not telling you where they moved to count ?
Or being told that you were the result of a burst condom?

AlistairSim · 12/03/2008 19:28

Kind of puts your own parenting mistakes into perspective, though.

for you all.

ManchesterMummy · 12/03/2008 20:23

My mother told me I could do with some of those squish-you-in magic pants things 9 weeks after giving birth...

Hardly surprising from the woman who told me I was fat when I was 6.

BrownSuga · 12/03/2008 20:30

I got home from a ski trip with my brother to find my bags packed. Just mine, not my brothers (the golden one). Jealous old bint.

ALMummy · 12/03/2008 20:55

As a teenager my Mum (and Dad) did not address a word to me for 3 months after they read my diary and found that I had called them wa*kers in it. Not a word mind. We would go on family outings or have dinner and they would address me through my younger sister. My Mum kept the diary hidden away in a cupboard and told me that on my wedding day or any other special day she would read quotes out of it.

Also told my sister that she (my sister that is) didnt have to "love" my DS (age 2) just because I was making her feel guilty and "forcing" her to.

If I were to carry on this thread would be a record breaker and I would win the competition hands down.

babblington · 12/03/2008 21:02

my mother randomly accused me of sniffing glue in the toilet (???!!!???) at a huge family function in front of large extended family - I was 14 and very nerdy, wouldn't have known what to do with glue if offered!! I still shiver with embarrisment.

Nemoandthefishes · 12/03/2008 21:08

Oh I do and she is a witch..done too much to mention but topping the list is
Taking me to a funeral telling me it was my dad to shut me up from asking questions

staying with my stepdad even though I told her he sexually abused me..

nice lady yet I still have her in my life

mummytowillow · 12/03/2008 22:12

What amazes me is how a 'mother' can do this to someone they gave birth to, I have made my husband promise me that if I EVER EVER say or do the things my Mum has done to me to my precious daughter, SHOOT me!

I know my mums comments are not as bad as some of the other girls on her and I'm so sad that you have had to suffer this awful treatment BUT here are some of the corkers my mum has come out with ........

When I had my hair cut short 'you look like a lesbian'

After my 2nd failed cycle of IVF 'looks like I'm going to be the only one on this street without any grandchildren'

When I said I would like my DD to wear my wedding dress if she wanted to 'what is she going to be a size 20 then' (she is only 6 months old and who cares if she is)

'Forgetting' to tell me I looked lovely on my wedding day!Even if she thought I didn't surely you would say it anyway!

When she found out we had spent £15 grand on IVF 'why put yourself through all that, just accept your lot in life', how I didn't smash her face in, I don't know!

Hmm, having had counselling to deal with how I feel about her, I've come to the conclusion IT DIDN'T WORK!!!

Big hugs to all of you with strange mothers!

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micrathena · 13/03/2008 11:50

Mine is really just obsessed with her money and an enormous control freak.

She is afraid DS will hurl her expensive crystal if he goes in her house. She asked why he had not been taught not to do this. erm... because he is two.

She lives in another country and has not seen DS since he was an infant. But she has asked us not to stay with her.

Oh well... minor irritation in comparison to some of the other stories here.

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poshwellies · 13/03/2008 12:00

Another witch like mother here...

Mine stayed with her partner after he admitted he had sexually abused me throughout my childhood,although hes out he picture now
Completely obsessed with money-already rubbing her hands with glee at the thought of her father snuffing it soon,so she can get her hands on his money-and likes to remind me of this on a weekly basis.
Never has offered to have my ds-whos 6 this yr,has never offered to babysit in the 7 yrs I've been married-says its not her duty and she doesn't want my children around at her house.

Wanted my gran to adopt me when I was 3 because "she didnt want me anymore"-she was being very serious.

*groans....fucking families

Divastrop · 13/03/2008 12:18

at all this.makes my mum sound like mary poppins,despite her lovely comment of 'its no wonder he hit you the way you go on' when i was staying with her after leaving my violent xp.i went back to him in the end(for a time).apart from that it was just generally telling me i was neurotic and not to get my hopes up anytime i was excited abut something as she couldnt deal with me when it all went wrong.

@at those mothers who stayed with abusers.

i think my dh would be a candidate for this thread,the mothers on here sound like they have much in common with his.