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Would you be ok with DP going on football trip when 34 weeks pregnant

69 replies

Beachyblue · 22/11/2023 18:32

DP is booking to go to the Euros in Germany to see Scotland play a couple of games in June (exact dates to be confirmed). He said he will be away for around 5 days. I will be approx 32-34 weeks pregnant at that time (first pregnancy, currently early days at the minute of course).

I was fine with this and mentioned it to my mum and she said she thinks he shouldn’t go in case the baby comes early.

What would your thoughts be on your DP going away for 5 days when you’re heavily pregnant

YABU = he should go and have fun
YANBU = he should stay just in case baby comes early

OP posts:
Vegetus · 22/11/2023 18:34

It's like a 2 hour flight away so I wouldn't be that concerned.

thistimelastweek · 22/11/2023 18:35

I would be fine with that.

He's not exactly cutting it fine.

Zanatdy · 22/11/2023 18:36

It’s unlikely baby would be that early, and first labours are generally long.

LubaLuca · 22/11/2023 18:37

Yes, I'd be happy with that.

HenriettaVienetta · 22/11/2023 18:37

Yes, assuming a normal pregnancy.
You don’t have an older child that needs looking after.
First babies are often late so if the pregnancy is otherwise going well, you will be unlikely to go into labour.
It's Germany, he can get back within a few hours if needed.

mynameiscalypso · 22/11/2023 18:38

At that stage of pregnancy, everyone annoyed me immensely (including/mostly DH) so I'd have welcomed the solitude.

Overthebow · 22/11/2023 18:38

First baby yes, I’d be fine with that too.

JockTamsonsBairns · 22/11/2023 18:39

32-34 weeks, you're highly unlikely to go into early labour (assuming a healthy pregnancy).
I'd be fine with this.

MargotBamborough · 22/11/2023 18:39

I'd be fine with it as long as he was able to get back quickly in the event of an emergency.

Portach · 22/11/2023 18:39

When I was 34 weeks pregnant I was working overseas (until I had to stop flying at 36 weeks). I wouldn’t have a problem. We both spent the pregnancy doing stuff we knew we wouldn’t be doing again for a while. I went to the theatre/opera four times in the week after my due date.

TheThreeHeadedBeast · 22/11/2023 18:40

As long as you are comfortable, then I think he should go for it. However, I would think about having some support on call. Not a birth partner, but just in case you feel like shit...
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LightsOutAndAwayWeGooooo · 22/11/2023 18:40

I'd be fine with it. It would be nice for him to have that time with his mates before it gets a bit mad! Enjoy the peace and quiet too :)

sawnotseen · 22/11/2023 18:41

I would have been fine with it.

CrazyHedgehogLover · 22/11/2023 18:41

It will be very likely that should the situation occur if an early labour, this will be potentially picked up on the scans/midwife appointments tbh, if they needed to induce you for any reason you usually get a date of when best suits you aswell and a time (in my local hospital anyway) so he should be absolutely fine to go, if you do have any signs of labour obviously keep him updated.

otherwise he should be fine to go! My first came spot on his due date, my middle one was 3 days late and my last one I was induced a week early due to complications.
Use the time to relax and starfish in the bed!!

UndertheCedartree · 22/11/2023 18:41

It's very unlikely your baby would come that early and your labour is likely to be long. I'd not have a problem with it atall. I'd look forward to being able to starfish in the bed!

Original poster
Beachyblue · 22/11/2023 18:42

Thanks everyone, my mum is obviously just being over cautious! This will likely be the last football trip he will be able to afford for a little while so he may as well make the most of it!

OP posts:
FMLife · 22/11/2023 18:42

What the fuck is a DP? Can anyone on this site just use words????

fingerguns · 22/11/2023 18:44

First baby and pregnancy is going smoothly? It should be absolutely fine. And it's not too far for him to get home in case things kick off early (pun intended).

fingerguns · 22/11/2023 18:45

FMLife · 22/11/2023 18:42

What the fuck is a DP? Can anyone on this site just use words????

You must be new round here.

Caffeinequeen91 · 22/11/2023 18:45

I had my babies at 34-35 and 36 weeks so it would be a no from me!

Sheetandsock · 22/11/2023 18:47

@FMLife are you new to internet forums because it isn't like MN does something different than you see elsewhere. MN has used DP, DH since all this were fields. The only time it gets confusing is when people use it for Dad so DD which should mean darling daughter. Pretty clear what the OP means on this thread.

My friend went to her normal midwife appointment at 34 weeks and went straight to hospital from there with pre-eclampsia. Luckily her Dh was just at work and could leave. She ended up with an EMCS. So I would say yes but see how your pregnancy goes

lunar1 · 22/11/2023 18:49

As long as he was prepared to cancel without sulking like a toddler if something unexpected happened, then I can't see a problem with it.

Bristolnewcomer · 22/11/2023 18:53

That's the stage I'm at now - sorry to break the consensus but quite honestly I wouldn't enjoy being on my own for 5 days at this point. Not really in case the baby comes but because so many things are now hard to do (e.g. carrying shopping, anything round the house that involves standing for a long time). If DH wanted to go away for 5 days I'd probably ask a friend or relative to come for part of that time.

LoveTheDarts · 22/11/2023 18:54

Here you go @FMLife

www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

HTH

ebts · 22/11/2023 18:59

I had a haemorrhage with my first at 32 weeks and Dd was born at 36 weeks after a 1 hour labour. You can't just assume that your baby will make it the full 40 weeks or that labour will be long. I wouldn't have wanted my Dh to have been abroad at that time, and I am normally a very independent and emotionally self-sufficient person.