Would you be ok with DP going on football trip when 34 weeks pregnant

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DP is booking to go to the Euros in Germany to see Scotland play a couple of games in June (exact dates to be confirmed). He said he will be away for around 5 days. I will be approx 32-34 weeks pregnant at that time (first pregnancy, currently early days at the minute of course).

I was fine with this and mentioned it to my mum and she said she thinks he shouldn’t go in case the baby comes early.

What would your thoughts be on your DP going away for 5 days when you’re heavily pregnant

YABU = he should go and have fun
YANBU = he should stay just in case baby comes early

I’d be fine with that. You’ll probably be at work and doing normal things.

The only thing I couldn’t do very easily while heavily pregnant was tie my shoe laces but it will be summer time so you’ll be fine with flip flops.

Of course if the baby was born prematurely he’d have to not go/ come back, but that’s very unlikely.

I’d go with him 🤷🏻‍♀️

@FMLife DP = dear partner although I’m sure you probably knew that and just wanted to express your dissatisfaction at the abbreviations of Mumsnet. I am now picturing you clutching your pearls as I’m having a baby out of wedlock!

My baby came early at 34 weeks. Easy pregnancy, no complications. You’ll most likely go full term but I’d be thinking …’what if’! It’s quite close in my opinion!

Haha you again 😂

Yep, absolutely fine. Potentially another couple of months to go still at that point!

You can't assume but for most this would be fine. My DH works away a lot. In fact, he had a business trip to Australia when I was 34 weeks (we are UK based). It was fine.

He wouldn't have gone on a 'fun' trip though, only travelled for work, and only confirmed his place on the trip a couple weeks before when I had a private scan to check all still looked ok. He also had it in writing that if anything happened they would put him on first flight back.

I think it's probably as late as I'd be happy with, but I would have been OK with dh going at that point. But equally I probably would have lined up a bit of extra support like having my mum come and stay for a few days, more for the company than anything else. I do remember staying overnight with family a few hours away at that stage because I had a work commitment that I needed to travel for and they lived nearby and crying on the way because I really just wanted dh nearby but I'd never have been bothered about that normally and didn't expect to feel that way. So I think go for it, but I think he needs to be aware and prepared that if the time comes closer and actually you really don't feel good about it, then he needs to cancel. So maybe would be worth him looking into insurance for the tickets and flights etc with a good cancellation cover just incase.

It's an acronym. HTH

It’s a once in a lifetime experience, so he shouldn’t miss it. I’m sure you can get someone else to be at the birth. 😆🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

Jokes aside, I wouldn’t mind. The chances of you going into labour are probably very low and as others have said he could probably get home fairly quickly if necessary.

I went on a girls trip when I was 32 weeks. It wasn't abroad but it was quite a far drive so I wouldn't have a problem with DH going away at that stage.

The only thing I would say is make sure he buys travel insurance asap that would cover if he had to cancel. It’s unlikely but if you do develop complications in the next few months then you don’t want to lose the money. This happened to us and my DH got the money back for a trip he then couldn’t go on

I'd be fine with it. Yes, it's possible but also highly unlikely you'd go into labour at 34 weeks with a straightfoward pregnancy.

Same

They'll be limited chances for a trip away once baby is born so I'd say definitely go for it.

Are you new? This site has been around for 20 odd years and always used these acronyms.

@FMLife what the fuck is FM in your username? Can you not use words?

Yes OP I'd be happy for him to go! Off with him, plan a nice weekend for yourself while he is away. 😊

It's hard to predict how you'll feel in later pregnancy so he needs to be prepared to cancel. By 37 weeks with my second I was in agony walking even the shortest distances and 100% needed dh's support and 34 weeks really isn't far from that.

My first came at 34 weeks with no warning at all, and a not very long labour and then wasn't very well. It was bad enough waiting for dh to get back from his meeting a couple of hours away and having to find someone to take me to hospital after my waters went suddenly. So it would be a no from me

I'd be okay with it

I went on holiday to Greece when I was 32 weeks

Does your mum live near you / could be your support? It's not just about how close it is to the baby coming, quite a lot can happen in later pregnancy that you could need support for. In the third trimester both times I had to be in hospital for monitoring with reduced movements. Very common. Thankfully everything was fine but it's still a shitty thing to go through and doing it alone would be even worse.

I would be fine with it but I would want him to not drink too much ( as in not get absolutely drunk) just in case of emergency
Obviously still have fun but not go too far.

At 34 weeks I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Absolutely not. I ended up in hospital at 34 weeks. Anything can happen.