"I'd love to show you off to my friends"

[AddieLarue]

Hi everyone. I went on a date at the weekend and half way through the night he told me he'd love to show me off to his friends. The next day my friend asked me how the date went and I told her about it.

We have different opinions about this comment and I wondered what other people think.

One of us thinks it's perfectly fine and a nice thing to say. That every guy should feel proud of the person he is with and want to show them off and it's a compliment. He obviously feels lucky to be dating me.

The other thinks it's a bit of a weird and icky thing to say and might be a bit of a red flag as it's possibly quite objectifying?

Obviously it's not a big deal, it's not that deep, he hasn't done anything awful. Just wondered how other people would take this comment. Would it put you off or would you feel flattered?

He's objectifying you and wants to brag about who he's pulled to his mates.

I'd chuck this one back, OP.

Like a kid with a new toy.

A total ick, especially on first date.

I would find it ok, maybe it’s a bit of a clumsy compliment? That by itself wouldn’t be a red flag to me

Suggests he sees you as a thing, an acquisition, a possession other men will envy. And things don't have feelings, ambitions, rights etc.

You are a woman not a Pony or a prize marrow.

Try it in reverse...
Imagine you said to him 'omg can't wait to show you off to my mates'... Feel like a bit of a dick? That's who he is.

I have had men say this about me in the past and for some reason it always made me feel a bit disappointed and sad. It's like it takes something away somehow. I want a man who listens when I'm upset, who is interested in how l think and what l have to say and who will get out of bed and make the effort to help me should my car break down in the night.
Not to just want me to look a certain way so he can brag to his mates down the pub. I
The men that tended to say this proved to be fair weathered partners, shallow and unreliable.

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to reply. I have to agree with the people who say it's shallow and kind of bad vibes. We do have another date arranged but honestly i just feel a bit icky about him now, i don't appreciate the comment and seeing a lot of the replies on here have validated my feelings and shown that it's not just me being over sensitive

Sounds a bit immature. Is he quite inexperienced?
As others have said it's not great but if everything else is good I'd let it go.
Sounds like you aren't sure though 😕 but at least after the 2nd date you'll know more about what he is like.
Good luck and come back and update us!

I’d wish he’d kept it to himself- cringe 😬