I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. We both earn decent wages (but not rich in any sense). We have 4 children between us, only 1 together. We have always paid half of bills, holidays, trips, Christmas etc. I strive for equal partnership. Even when I was on maternity leave I paid my share from SMP, savings and even credit! As well as doing the lions share of housework & child rearing. Up until now, I’ve built up my working days and have been part time 3-4 days per week, but the last few months I’ve been working more- 46hrs approx a week over 6 days in order to pay for Xmas and we are going on a holiday in the new year. It’s been a lot for me and I’m on the verge of burn out but I know it’s only for a few more weeks then have a good 3 weeks off work. Definitely couldn’t and wouldn’t want to do that full time. My DH is SE has his own business so is out of the house 7 days a week, but doesn’t necessarily have to be at the building site so often goes early on a morning (avoiding school / nursery runs) (another bone of contention) then comes home for a nap, walks his dogs, has what I’d call “me time” which I never get btw! Then today he says “well I think next month you should cut your days down and do 4 days max so you have a day in the house” (he means to clean). This infuriated me as I also have a small business alongside my regular job which I’ve had to massively scale back due to household/ childcare commitments. So I said to him “ok but since your out 7 days a week at work, and me only 4, that needs to be reflected in the % or ratio we split the household outgoings! AIBU to expect him not to have his cake and eat it?! Ie if he wants a financial 50/50 split, I should be able to work 7 days a week too? And he should also do 50% of the childcare/ housework?