DH has been on various trips this year around the world. Some have been very much work trips, others have seemed a bit more like holidays away from family life. He has a friend who works in the same field as him, who invites him away, they might attend a talk or two, but spend the rest of the time socialising and drinking. I guess you could say the socialising is networking, I’m not sure.
A couple of weeks ago his friend/colleague invited him away again (for next week). It seemed like more of a holiday type one, they’re going to a conference but otherwise he has vaguely described this as meeting some potentially important people who could invest in his business.
We have two very young children who are poor sleepers. Usually we tag team. Whenever he goes away I go to my mums so when I’m up all night my mum can give me an hour or twos sleep during the day.
DH told me the dates this time, I said fine, great, organised to stay at my mums. My mum has now told me that she has to go away next Wednesday. I said fine, as my DH told me the trip was Monday to Thursday. Took it to my DH who said he’d changed dates last minute to early Tuesday to Friday night. He won’t change them back, as he said it’ll be expensive and he’ll be alone for a day (not accounting for the fact I’ll be alone with the children for 4 days)
AIBU to be pissed off? I want him to cancel the trip but feel I’m my heart that’s not fair. Where’s the line between work trip and holiday? Feels these possibly unncessary trips will keep happening if we don’t figure that out. DH takes no annual leave ever (works for self) so we barely go away as a family. Says he can’t take time off work but then happily skips off when there’s a fun “opportunity”