Am I being unreasonable to think there is something seriously wrong with the family court system where an ordinary family has to go to these extremes to protect their own child

[millymog11]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-67425080

Its almost as if the family court system is set up first and foremost to claw money back from ordinary people who do not qualify for legal aid (i.e. 99% of people) and second priority is to dodge some kind of expensive human rights esoteric question (the rights of a father/biological parent) above all other priorities. The rights of the children come way way down the pecking order.

This parent was convicted and was in prison for peodophilia.
But the innocent parent still has to pay out of their own money to protect their child.

I honestly cannot get my head around this. I know it is not equivalent but the courts must spend enormous amounts of money (rightly but that is not the point) in banning people from driving a car due to substance abuse but the barriers to blocking a dangerous adult from having contact with their own children seem ridiculous.

It’s ironic that peoples who’s only experience is a newspaper article, seem to think they know more about the process that posters who have actually been through it.

Ours was similar @SurelyNotThis absolutely worst thing I have ever had the misfortune to endure, it left me with PTSD and traumatised my children. It took 19 months to reach a decision and over 90k in legal fees.

I'm really sorry you endured it. I still cannot relax enough to go to bed at night, it's the strangest of things isn't it? The DC amazingly have recovered so well; children are so resilient. I hope your recovery leads you to such a beautiful and peaceful life

@SurelyNotThis And to you too. It is such a strange experience that for sure, mine was some years back now and Dc are mostly fine. Thankfully I only reflect on that period on the rare occasions it comes back to me.