Would it bother you if..

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... your close friends didn't remember your first baby's first birthday?

@ManchesterLu hopefully by then fb and ig won't be a thing 😅

Ok thanks everyone, good to see how everyone's thinking! ☺️

If your friends don't have kids I'm not sure they would realise that a 1st birthday was a milestone...?

I'm childfree and not hugely into birthday celebrations in general and I had no idea that a 1st birthday was something you should especially acknowledge until I saw photos of friends' babies' 1st birthday parties with decorations etc (they live far away).

(Obviously I sent messages of congratulations etc for the actual births)

Nope

My eldest Dd still has the incorrect birthdate on her library card because it would seem I can't even remember my own child's birthday, so no, it wouldn't bother me if nobody else did.

It would never happen so hard to say. I suppose, yes it would. My friends are like extra mums to my children. I’m not from here and even my friends from back home always remember and I remember theirs.

@WhatGoesUpMustComeDown They're not really, I think it is more down to the type of a friendship. I thought mine were the ones where one would acknowledge this as I know what kind of stuff we'd share with one another over the years. I wouldn't expect the same from just any friend

No.

How have you not said in conversations "I can't believe DD is going to be 1 in x date!"?

If I want people to remember, I make sure I remember to prompt.

But then again I'm crap with dates so understand why people forget.

No

Not at all.

No and I don’t remember theirs unless I’m invited to a birthday party or something.

Close friends? Yes it would bother me.

No, it's too much. I can't remember anyone's birthday without reminders. Just remind them beforehand, it's not hard.

No. Especially if they don’t have kids themselves. Why would they care

No. Especially if they don’t have kids themselves. Why would they care

Each to their own but I can’t imagine not caring about my friends children birthdays and acknowledging them. In our group, some don’t have children but they’re still close to all our kids.

I think a lot of people are really rubbish with dates and don’t really use diaries/ calendars etc and rely on social media to remind them of friend’s birthdays. I am very good at remembering dates (I have autism, not sure if that’s why) and used to be surprised when I’d mention to people a mutual friends birthday was coming up and they would always have no idea of the date. I usually remind my friend groups when big dates like children’s birthdays etc are coming up because I know there’s no way anyone else will remember and I don’t take it personally when they forget my birthday if I haven’t dropped a hint a few days before!

No. I'm not that sentimental over them and I realise people have their own stuff going on. It's not even like the child would notice

no I wouldn’t expect them to, unless I’d arranged a birthday party

Absolutely no . I have a friend who remembers my granddaughter birthday…she is so lovely 🥰

Because your thread title gives no indication what the actual content of your thread is about

Yes, it happened to me and it really upset me. I was one of the last to have a child and had made the effort to remember each of their children's birthdays over the years, and to send cards/gifts.

However, a few years on I now realise that life is too busy to keep on top of this stuff. I've stopped sending cards for my friends' kids and just try to send a message instead.

I am surprised at the amount of Nos and people saying they don't care about friends kids birthdays etc?

My friends and I are all involved in each others lives and kids lives so yes it would bother me. We do make a real effort to maintain the friendships though. I suppose it depends on what the friendship is like.

Nope - and your thread title is terrible

Crisis!!

I literally saw thread titles similar to this. Was I supposed to put the entire question in? You didn't have to read it if it's an issue.

Its a good idea to put some idea of what the thread is about so you dont end up thinking "oh thread, oh I've read this one" when browsing