Would it bother you if..

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... your close friends didn't remember your first baby's first birthday?

No. But many of my closest friends are not local and so it simply wouldn’t come up in chitchat.

Yes 100%. I'm the same, all dates go in my calendar, set it to repeat every year, it's not hard, and if no gift (which of course you wouldn't expect off everyone, everyone has their own shit going on), then a message at least would be nice

I purposely don’t send first birthday messages even if I remember. I just don’t want to get into that expectation as I hate texting.

I always have small gifts for my friends’ kids when I see them though.

Nope. I would probably forget the friend's birthday too. My neices and nephews know not to expect cards and presents at birthdays. I do remember them for Christmas, certainly not friend's children though.

We've done presents for most peoples DCs first birthday, but now there's about 10 DC in the friend group so I don't bother past the first birthday! It gets too much to think about 😂

No it also would not bother me if they forgot my dogs birthday or my wedding anniversary

Not unless I invited them to a party and they said "yes".
Heck, I'm doing well if I remember all the family birthdays in time to post cards etc. I don't expect others to be better.

No, I wouldn’t expect them to.

Nope! My child is nowhere near as important to my friends than he is to me.

I was the last of all my friends to have a child. I have never remembered my friends' kids' birthdays. I know the month for some but certainly not the date.

Not at all. I’d find it a bit weird if they did tbh. And would also make me feel guilty as I have no idea of any of their DCs’ birthdays.

It's more about them acknowledging that big milestone than them remembering every single birthday kinda thing, if it makes sense?
It doesn't make sense, no. I didn't really see my own children's birthdays as milestones in that way, let alone anyone else's children. I wouldn't expect anyone other than family to remember.

My best friend (and his godmother) forgot my DS's first birthday. It felt like an extra special occasion as he nearly died on so many occasions in his first year as he was so, so unwell with really complex medical needs. However, I didn't say anything and I won't ever. Yes I was hurt, still am, but people have their own lives and I can't expect people to give the same importance to things which are so important to me. I'm not perfect, so I can't expect perfection in others. But I totally understand your hurt feelings!!

It's not the forgetting it that hurts me, it's that they remember every other child in the group. That and the, let's club together and buy a gift for x for y occasion, and then forgot me when I had the same thing. I could say no, but you lose friends very quickly like that, and I have no-one else.

I'm actually not super bothered to be honest. Maybe I expected it in a way. It's not about gifts or cards, just acknowledgment really.

I was just wondering how everyone feels!

@Cablescablescables ohh I totally understand what you mean!
@TwinkleTwinkleTwinkleTwinkle ahh that is frustrating !!

No!
I don't remember any of their children's birthdays either. Birthdays, including my own, aren't very important to me.

I can’t remember when my own niece’s birthday is. I know it’s late in X month but I have to look it up every year.

It wouldn’t occur to me to remember a friend’s child’s birthday.

Honestly, I have no idea when any of my friends’ dc’s birthdays are. My closest friend, I do know vaguely, one is end of March and other is early August, but that’s my best guess. Hell, I got my own dc’s birthday wrong once at the GP. 😂

No. The only friends who bother with child birthdays are the mum friends I made since kids whose children are similar ages and even then it isn't an expectation and some of them remember others don't, it's more of a post in the group whatsapp type of thing.

My own friends (from uni mostly) who I consider really good friends but no longer see that often due to distance. I wouldn't expect them to remember. Maybe a couple of them did the first one of my first child?

It's even worse with a second child - birthday totally ignored even by close family apart from grandparents. That I am a bit sad about as they remember one and not the other and they are close in age

Nope

YABU for the thread title alone

Nah, not really. People only remember your birthday when it pops up on Facebook, and your baby won't have that until its 13.

Agree.

Why? Sorry I don't know all the 'rules'

No it wouldn't bother Me if I'm honest, I heard a phrase when my 1st DC was born and it was something along the lines of "No-one will ever care as much about your Children as you do, so don't expect them too"

I struggle to remember anyone's birthday.