To practice laizzere-faire parenting

[KitKatrunchie]

Anyone do this?

What is it?

I think you may need to explain what you mean.

I think she means laissez faire.
As in relaxed, hands off parenting as opposed to strict.

I beg you - don't. Parents are role models and your job is to set boundaries that will enable your child to cope with society.

Do what you like - no one on MN will ever know either way

I think the OP means this:

Laissez-faire parents
Allowing children to do as they wish, these parents have no clear directions or boundaries. This style of parenting may help a child to be able to manage things for themselves, but the child may struggle to have a sense of belonging and/or limits.

Is it the same as "benign neglect" /cant-be-arsed / 3-chikdren-under-five?

A parents role includes teaching about suitable boundaries snd behaviour.

YABU for not explaining yourself. Also for your spelling.

Yeah, don’t make your children everyone else’s problem.

Translation -

Allow your children to be feral and then twenty years later, wonder where it all went went wrong as the kid or kids are now in prison and or have gone no contact with you.

Why even try to use a term you don’t even know how to write? Talk about pretentious!

why not just say - to yourself, nobody cares about yet another crap parent - “I don’t give a shit, not going to bother with the effort of giving my kids the tools they need to be successful adults cos I can’t be arsed.”

Yes do this but home educate don’t inflict this on poor teachers.

Well I sometimes cba to argue and back down and I sometimes cba to cook a good healthy nutritious meal so we have fast food

ds will sometimes wear his school shirt more than once

Eh - Do you mean laissez-faire? Well it obviously deoends on what age your children are and how hands off you want to be.

And blame everyone else

Can you give examples, OP? If laissez faire is anything like benign neglect, YABU. Neglect is neglect and no child thrives from it.

We know OP means Laisser-faire (which is correct in this instance btw not as above so the irony is great!)

I wouldn’t, purely based on the experience of my sister who created two monstrous adults who have zero inter-personal skills and are so deeply unpleasant as adults that even their grandparents can’t stand them!

JC on a bike, please don't even consider lazy parenting (which this is)
Country is in enough sh## now, without the hoards who have no boundaries coming through the ranks over the next few years.
Or at least wait until I have less than 20 years to live and I won't be affected by the consequences 🙃

For material reasons (not least wife/mother's premature death many years ago plus personal mental health issues) I have practiced what I call 'parenting by benign neglect'. Both of my DSs have turned out as generally secure, polite, supportive and academically successful children. Could they have done with more support and encouragement? Yes. Was I capable of providing that extra support? No. Do I feel guilty for not providing that support? Every day. Was I a good enough parent? Probably just about. Do they have the potential for a better life than me? Yes, certainly. That's good enough for me.

What are some actual examples of this type of parenting?

Until someone here complains about the rude and entitled brat they've encountered in a few years' time.

Or the OP comes back complaining that they've 'raised' a selfish and unpleasant kid in a few years' time.

I think children feel much safer and more loved with some clear fair boundaries.

Do you plan to send your child to school ? I'd imagine that they would struggle with the rules, structure and getting along with the other kids.

For the sake of absolutely everyone (especially your DC) but you - no. You’re just being lazy. And it’ll come back and bite you on the arse before you know it.