To walk dark, lonely-ish road to multi-storey carpark at 4am, with toddler?

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Have been at hospital with toddler for 10 hours, he's likely to be discharged in next few hours. No sodding car park at hospital, so have had to park a third of a mile away, at creepy multi-storey down dark alley. Would be loathe to go alone, let alone with toddler. However do need to get home.

Partner has offered to meet me at hospital, however he's looking after our baby. Car seat is in my car - he doesn't drive. He could get an Uber, but would have to take our youngest without a car seat. Mainly 20mph roads, but into town with associated Friday night drunks.

Aibu to risk the walk alone? Or is baby without car seat more unsafe? Which is the least bad?

Me too. Especially such a short walk.

Are people really suggesting the husband comes in an uber, with an unsecured BABY.

Firstly it's illegal
Secondly why would a parent even risk their child's safety like that especially with the standard of minicab drivers.

I think any responsible parent would wait in the hospital and walk in the morning than do that.

Problem there is partner doesn't drive.

Honestly, unless this is Johannesburg or somewhere in Mexico it's very unlikely something bad is going to happen on a five minute walk. It's odd how people worry about this but will jump in their car without batting an eyelid and even play music/listen to radio, making it even more dangerous.

It's a natural fear. We feel vulnerable.

The idea humans are completely rational is itself irrational!

It’s not illegal. You can go in a taxi without a car seat.

I don't like kids without a car seat (legal in a taxi I think?) I hate the coach on holiday transfer as you never know.

I wouldn't trust an Uber driver either unless you get someone from a local taxi company but then you're in a vulnerable situation with another person.

I would wait until it's light (even then there can be drunks lying around) and leave hospital then.

Or the safest choice to me would be taxi home (see if they have booster seat) and collect car next day.
Safer in a taxi to a house than an empty car park imo.

Bringing cars into the equation is by far the biggest risk.

Wow apologies didn't realise you could take unsecured babies in a minicab!

I don't understand why you're asking me this?

I didn't say anyone would attack anyone.

I just understand that humans feel vulnerable at times. Humans feel more vulnerable when caring for children, obviously.

The extent to which we feel vulnerable is not always in direct correlation to how vulnerable we actually are. Because humans have feelings.

The reason is because people might need to take a taxi in an emergency, and they don’t want people to not be able to take one because they don’t have a car seat.

I'd get a taxi home and collect car in the morning if that worried. Or taxi there and meet DH from taxi

There's a whole heap of psychology involved but many humans feel natural responsibility for a child, which makes them more cautious than when alone.

its not illegal 🤨

OP I personally wouldn’t do the walk. You’re unsure for a reason. Either a) hospital security walk you to car park or b) you and toddler get a taxi home.

id go for b personally.

people saying do the walk are slightly mad

I would say anyone would be mad to walk at that time of the night to a sketchy multi storey none the less 🤨 Also your toddler was in hospital for a reason and a 3/4 mile walk in the cold probably isn't wise. Taxi home, figure the rest out later.

Surely 4am is about the safest time as most people will be home and in bed. Much more likely to encounter antisocial behaviour in the evening or probably even the daytime.