To feel cross with this stranger

[KorbutFlipLivesOn]

Yesterday afternoon, at the end of a long four days of lectures, I was tired. We were listening in a classroom to the examination marker giving tips for the written piece soon to be submitted. A woman, the nearest to me, at the next table, was talking to the person next to her. and had been repeatedly for the last two hours In my head, I thought 'shut up'. Accidentally it came out of my mouth as 'Shut... ' at a volume of say a loud whisper. She did stop talking. As the word slipped out, I knew I needed to apologise for my rudeness as soon as class finished. I was fatigued, and she was talking over the speaker but my thought was verbalised and it was wrong.

As the lesson finished, I was arranging something with a colleague when this woman approached and aggressively demanded me to listen. I asked her to hold on a second, and I'd be with her. She then reverted to the teen girl (prob late 30's in reality) who talks loudly and non stop telling me all about my wrongdoing and her thoughts about me in front of the entire class of 25+ nonstop, without pausing for air. 90+% of the room had no idea what had happened until then. She went on and on. I tried to interject and ask to speak to her in private. It was so embarrassing. I apologise over her aggressive and raised voice, and tried to explain I spoke in error. I also said she should be more considerate than to talk through a zoom meeting - but she just kept shouting how dare I be so rude to her

I have to see these people in 3 months

1. Do I try and speak to her and apologise via text
2. Do I apologise on the group chat
3. Do nothing
4. Something else, tell me

thank you, I need input here

Do nothing. You tried to apologise to her in person and she wouldn't listen so no need for a text. Apologising to the group will be bringing extra drama into it than nobody wants to be involved in.
Honestly, when I was at uni nobody would think twice about making a loud shush noise if people were talking. Not a big deal.

I don't think you needed to even think about apologising at all. She deserved to be told to be quiet!

Do nothing. She has embarrassed herself - leave it at that.

Do nothing. And don’t waste your time thinking about her

You apologised! Clearly to react as she did she was feeling defensive so I wouldn’t worry, shows she knew she was wrong.

Do nothing. Everyone else probably thinks she’s a loon.

She was a million times more rude than you, ignore!

I don't see why you felt the need to apologise in the first place. She was being incredibly annoying and rude. I would have told her to shut up and not whispered it.

I wouldn't have even thought about apologising and I would have told her to shut up ages before you did.

Just get old. By the time you reach 50, you will have no qualms at all about telling rude self-absorbed yatterers to shut up when they are talking over the person (or performance!) everyone else is trying to hear.

You have nothing to apologise for.

I'd do nothing unless she was absolutely integral to some task I needed to complete or was in some position of seniority over me (or likely to be in future)

You should have just said
'Hmm- like I said earlier , shut up'
And walked off

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Do nothing she should have shut up!

Do nothing. You were tired and fed up and responded to her rudeness more firmly than you might otherwise which is really not the crime of the century. Unless you have a time machine the dignified course of action now is to quietly own it which you can't do if you keep apologising.

At least half the class probably wants to be your friend now anyway.

Ignore and move on. She sounds like a nightmare; she already looks like an idiot. Leave it at that.

Do nothing

Do nothing. She was being inconsiderate and rude to talk during the lecture. You've nothing to apologise for.

Is 50 old?
As an over 50 I have never told anyone to shut up so you don't speak for everyone. I'm also not old.

Everyone thinks she is off her rocker. Leave it.

I'd put something in your group chat- you can word it very nicely to sound like the bigger person- so everyone else knows what happened and it's clear you weren't in the wrong.

I am over 50!

That will just be stirring. If I see an adult screaming at someone who is not engaging, I assume the screamer is unhinged. I think most people feel the same.

she just confirmed she’s a twat. Enough said.