To feel cross with this stranger

[KorbutFlipLivesOn]

Yesterday afternoon, at the end of a long four days of lectures, I was tired. We were listening in a classroom to the examination marker giving tips for the written piece soon to be submitted. A woman, the nearest to me, at the next table, was talking to the person next to her. and had been repeatedly for the last two hours In my head, I thought 'shut up'. Accidentally it came out of my mouth as 'Shut... ' at a volume of say a loud whisper. She did stop talking. As the word slipped out, I knew I needed to apologise for my rudeness as soon as class finished. I was fatigued, and she was talking over the speaker but my thought was verbalised and it was wrong.

As the lesson finished, I was arranging something with a colleague when this woman approached and aggressively demanded me to listen. I asked her to hold on a second, and I'd be with her. She then reverted to the teen girl (prob late 30's in reality) who talks loudly and non stop telling me all about my wrongdoing and her thoughts about me in front of the entire class of 25+ nonstop, without pausing for air. 90+% of the room had no idea what had happened until then. She went on and on. I tried to interject and ask to speak to her in private. It was so embarrassing. I apologise over her aggressive and raised voice, and tried to explain I spoke in error. I also said she should be more considerate than to talk through a zoom meeting - but she just kept shouting how dare I be so rude to her

I have to see these people in 3 months

1. Do I try and speak to her and apologise via text
2. Do I apologise on the group chat
3. Do nothing
4. Something else, tell me

thank you, I need input here

Do nothing, you did nothing wrong but she sounds a nightmare. Don't sit near her or acknowledge her. Why did you even listen to her rant, I'd have just walked off 🤷‍♀️

Agree with PPs, she made a fool or herself ranting at you. People will make their judgements about her, not you. Do nothing and if anyone asks you, then explain but don't bring it up yourself

1. Knock her gnashers down her throat 😉

Do nothing. Should have just smiled at her in “ point proved” kind of way. You are in the right and she’s clearly a gobshite.

I'm confused, was it irl or a zoom meeting?

Fuck me. I'd double down and ask for an apology from HER! Ignorant cow.

Do nothing, and waste no further thought on it.

You did nothing wrong. You tried to apologise, she talked over you. Shows that she really didn't want an apology - just to be an arse.

I'd have asked her to shut up at the outset. I've done it in a face-to-face lecture in the past. People behind kept talking. I asked them to please be quiet because we'd all paid fees to attend and wanted to hear the lecturer.

Do nothing, she is rude and inconsiderate, not worth your time.
Let her words be like water off a duck's back.

Next time when someone is talking and interrupting a lecture, say something early on. It's not rude to ask people to be quiet and not to disrupt others, frankly I can't believe you put up with it for two hours when she is clearly being aggravating.

Och ignore her - she's had enough notice by drowning out the person who should have been the centre of attention

You told her to shut up which is a bit rude - you could have just said can you keep it down please because I can’t hear.

She then called you out on it and was rude in the process.

I’d say you’re both even and nothing else needs to be done.

You’ve already apologised and you should definitely not apologise again.

Do nothing.

But in your head……. picture an image where you shove her head first into a used toilet and pull the flush repeatedly.

Do nothing. She's not your friend and I assume she's not a colleague. She's just someone doing the same course as you, that's all. You don't have to be on good terms with her.

She sounds like a terrible arsehole.

I must be bolshier than most. Though to be fair, stopping caring if I rattled rude people happened post menopause, after 55. I find people who talk when others are talking SO rude that shushing them is polite in comparison.

1. Put a request in the group chat that people please remain quiet whilst the lecturer is talking so that other people can hear what is being said.

Your mistake was not asking her politely to pipe down warlier so that by the end it BURST out. Its really fine to politely ask people not to disturb a lecture -
What stopped you from asking earlier?

Yup.
Yatterers, I love that word. It's new to me.
I'm like this when having to watch BBC News and them talking over people.
"You'd get your answer if you'd learn to S T F U and let them speak!"
I have to try and hold my tongue but I feel like I'd be exactly like OP!
Anyway, no need to apologise, OP, your tongue was in gear before your brain recognised what was going on, and it just slipped out.
You could have covered it by saying you were about to say 'shut the windows, I feel a chill' but you didn't, maybe couldn't think of something like that at the time, but you did apologise and nothing else needs doing!
Maybe the yatterer will now be thinking she should let others get words in sideways in future.
I hope you enjoy the next meeting!

I’d have happily told her to be quiet, and if that didn’t work I’d have told her to shut up.

She was rude not you - and she probably knows that. No need to do anything.

I've been in a similar situation and just said 'Excuse me, would you please stop talking so I can hear the lecture, or step outside to chat (Big smile) Thank you! '

This was followed by many people in the room giving me a pleasing nod 😁

Ignore next time.

.. other than you might want to address your lack of assertiveness - ie why didn’t you tell her to be quiet earlier.

Do nothing. She’s made herself look silly.

Oops! Wrong thread. I've asked for the post to be deleted.

This.

Although, I’m 44 and my tolerance for this
sort of shit left me about a year ago. I
would have just told her to stop talking in the first place.

Do nothing.