Friend taking the piss

[Nobadvibes]

Offered to pet sit for my friend as she desperate and had no other options. Personally I have no intentions of getting a pet.

The agreement was 4 days, the pet was groomed to reduce the amount of hair’s shed and nails clipped. She was meant to bring the pet round on Sunday night but being her usual disorganised self wanted to bring it Monday morning at 9, which didn’t work for. Compromised and agreed for 7:30, when then rolls up at 8:30. (I work from home and had meetings from 8:30 which she knew).

The pet is not groomed and has been shredding hair everywhere. He’s trained to a point where he goes to the toilet outside but clearly has no other training. The pet needs constant attention otherwise it does various things to get your attention. Which has disrupted my work. The pet only ever sleeps in her bed which she failed to mention and I personally find disgusting and has been preventing my sleep all week. And it also turns out she’s away for 6 days not 4 but forgot. She’s back late on the Saturday so is arranging for a family member to home for me to drop him off.

I’ve rung her to let her know I can’t accommodate the extra days as I have plans. Her response is it’s an accident and she needs the favour.

Am I being unreasonable here?

Drop the dog off at Battersea.

@cerisepanther73 why all the emojis?

A friend once left her dog with us for a long weekend and neglected to tell me it wasn't housetrained. Within the first hour it had messed on the rug, stolen and eaten a large danish off the counter then went outside and flung itself at our brand new storm door repeatedly, putting deep grooves all over the door. I knew it was going to be a long destructive weekend if it stayed.

I called her vet (who I used to work for), asked for copies of vaccine records and took the damn thing to a kennel for the weekend. Picked it up an hour before she returned for it.

The kennel disapproved of the situation and put a tag w/their kennel name in the dog food bag which she noticed of course and there were some hard feelings on her part until I asked her why she didn't have he decency to tell me it wasn't even housetrained at three years old. She shut up about after that.

If you can afford it, take it to a kennel and tell her to pick it up there.

She is being unreasonable but I'm surprised you agreed as you clearly don't like pets!

The OP can't just take it to a kennel, no kennel will accept a dog without proof of kennel cough vaccine.

Its certainly not disgusting to allow them in the bed.

haha!

She can take it to the vets and say she's found it on the streets though.

You were so kind to offer and this friend is 100% taking the piss.

I hate people who are just lazy owners. She couldn't be arsed getting it groomed or making sure the plans were correct.

If someone was looking after my cat, I'd be so grateful and I'd make sure everything was okay and I'd go over everything with the person watching and stick to arrangements.

I have adhd and we're supposed to be the forgeters but I would 100% make sure my pet and the carer were taken care of and prepared for.

She didn't forget at all, she just doesn't give a shit.

I don’t know that you have many options now, your friend who is not a friend has probably pulled this trick on other people and no one will agree to have the dog now, shitty actions have consequences. She didn’t take it round on the Sunday night because she knew that if you had the dog while she was still at home you would have taken it back home early the next morning, she lied about the number of days as she knew you wouldn’t have agreed if she had been honest up front. She also hadn’t got the dog groomed as agreed! I hope her holiday was worth losing your friendship over.

I really can’t imagine leaving my pets with someone that doesn’t love pets.

@Nobadvibes Have you heard back from your so called friend ?
I have a dog but my bed is my bed. Surprised an adult can't count passed 4 when working out how many nights she needed you to have the dog.

Please don't drop it off at a shelter - it will be taking a spot from a dog who genuinely needs one. Rescues aren't there for this kind of issue. The dog also doesn't deserve to be abandoned, bad enough he has a fairly feckless owner.

Bill your friend for the extra cleaning and stop speaking to her. I feel sorry for the poor pet, it's not his fault that he hasn't been trained or isn't used to sleeping independently. It's your friend who's let you down.

'The pet'

My mum has always warned me against people who dislike animals like this. Chilling

God no don't do this!! None of this is the dogs fault. Plus not only will you lose the friend but the story will always be about the terrible cruel thing you did, she will come off looking like a saint.

There are reputable dog sitters, so find one nearby, maybe explain your position to the sitter so they don't get caught up in the middle. Then tell your friend what you've done and where to collect the dog and the cost etc. Otherwise I'd just suck it up for 2 more days but tell her how pissed off you are and why you won't be doing it again etc.

But yes OP YANBU and she is definitely taking the piss.

I was thinking the same. Couldn’t concentrate because of all the random emojis.

It’s ok to say dog lol.

But YANBU she’s taking the piss.

I do think many of these things should have been spoken about before you looked after the dog and even when they’re groomed they can still shed.

But you’re doing her a massive favour and she’s throwing it back in your face.

She will have to organise a kennels and you can drop the dog off at the time you said you’d have it til.

And don’t ever do it again.

She’s not a good friend.

@Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong - my thinking was the dog should be chipped and the vet would have to get the owner to come and collect. She surely then wouldn't have much choice. Sorry if that's not how it works. I know it's not the pets fault.

Is it a giraffe?

You might need a sunroof

That's no accident. She knew you wouldn't agree to 6 days but thought "fuck it what can she do when I'm already gone".

I dog-sat for a very close friend ONCE, and it was a once only thing!

I live in a first floor flat by a main road, so a dog isn't convenient at all. I don't really care for dogs, but quite like this particular dog, as he's soppy as anything, and no trouble.
Friend said she'd bring him round at lunchtime on Saturday. Yet shows up at 9am to drop him off. Says she'll collect him Sunday lunch time, but doesn't turn up until nearly 4pm Sunday afternoon. That wasn't the arrangement!

In our nearly 30 year friendship, it was only of the very, very few times I felt genuinely annoyed with her and taken advantage of.

She's never asked since. ;)

If she is used to mumsnet, she was probably terrified of being accused of being “breedist” or “phylumist” by mentioning what it was .

When the dog (for I assume that is what you mean when you say 'pet') is at home with its owner, it probably doesn't demand attention all the time and it probably does have some training. It's bothering you because it doesn't know where its owner has gone and it's super anxious and looking for reassurance. So you can never really assume that any dog you've never looked after before will be fine with a pet sitter. If the dog is trained your friend should have told you what its usual commands are etc - my mum does a lot of dog-sitting for people and that's one of the things she always asks for.

Clearly, though, your 'friend' is taking the piss by expecting you to look after it for six days instead of the agreed and for being flaky in general. And yeah, she should have told you about it sleeping on the bed and things like that. Basically your friend's a dickhead. Of course YANBU to say you can't have the dog for another two days. Your friend sounds bloody awful.

That would be fucking inhumane. It's not the dog's fault its owner is a cunt.

@ManateeFair I didn't say it was the dogs fault. The vet would check for a chip and tell the cunty owner it needs picking up. I didn't say go and get it put down.