This is long one sorry! My DD is 5 weeks old. Immediate family and 2 of mine and DPs mutual friends have met DD so far.
My close friend is being shitty towards me because she hasn’t met DD yet. Today she called me to say I’m a shit friend because she hasn’t met my DD and then went on to say the following:
She said she was pissed off that I didn’t invite her to visit me in hospital. She was upset I didn’t call her on her birthday, DD was born on that day in the early evening but I sent her a text earlier that day.
She told me her depression has got worse because she hasn’t met DD. She’s upset that I don’t allow her to come up on Sundays when her DD is at her dad’s. Family have visited every Sunday since DD was born except the one just gone my partner took DD out to his parents for the day whilst I got some rest. I said we can meet up to catch up the other day but when I said I don’t have DD she didn’t reply.
She’s upset I don’t stay on the phone to her for hours anymore. She used to call me every morning and stay on the phone for hours whilst we were both working from home but now I just don’t have the time to do that. I come off the phone as soon as DD starts fussing.
Shes unemployed at the moment so can visit during the week whilst her DD is at school and I have said come up several times. She said she can’t as my road has parking restrictions so she’ll have to pay to park. I offered to pay. There have been 2 occasions on a Monday she said she’s coming in the evening as her DD is at dads (parking is free after 5) and didn't turn up. I said no to a visit 2 weeks ago because she had a cold and tonsillitis. She was annoyed.
I arranged to meet up tomorrow but just this evening my partner has told me he might have surgery tomorrow (very last minute due to a chronic health condition so they want to get him in asap due to complications he’s experienced last couple weeks) I mentioned this and she got even more angry at me. I snapped and said you know what fine I can’t be bothered I’ll pander to you. She said yay and laughed saying she was joking around?
She’s now saying I need to come to her because of my parking restrictions. I had an emergency c section so I can only take the bus as I am not supposed to drive for 6 weeks. It takes 1.5 hours by bus to get to her or a cab is £30 one way. She said she’ll pick me up half way after her DD finishes school. I asked if she can do earlier as I need to be around just incase my partner does in fact need surgery. I’ll need to be at home for the late afternoon/early evening as the hospital is 10 mins away just incase I need to bring him anything or he’s discharged after. Also I said it’s cold i don’t want to be travelling late with DD. She said I need to re evaluate my priorities because I’ll lose her as a friend and put the phone down.
Am I a shit friend? I think she’s being bonkers but I’m very tired and irritable right now so I could be wrong.