Is there a name for this?

[Helptonight]

Really struggling with this tonight. I love talking, I love hearing peoples thoughts on everything - their history, problems, experiences etc...often me and my friends/family talk and it's not about solving problems just fleshing out ideas, possible resolutions, suggestions, our experiences etc...sort of what makes us tick conversations.

My husband is not like this. If I talk about something, he offers a resolution and I'll say 'sure but what about this/that?' he immediately gets annoyed and basically shuts me down. He gets very irate if I continue to ask questions or explore further ideas.

An example would be this evening he had a call from a relative to say they were worried about another relatives health (on his side) I was in the room and he spent the whole conversation talking over the person and essentially shutting down the family member. When he got off the phone I said what's going on and he repeated the concerns. I tried to say I see if from both sides (I really do) he then said 'I'm not taking about this with you any further' silence

Its so fucking annoying! Why does he do this? Am I totally missing something? Not one other person in my life behaves like this towards me. He doesn't cope well with emotions so I assume I am pushing a trigger but ffs how an earth does a nearly 50 year old man not know how to have a discussion without cutting people off or getting offended for being asked a question?

@Rinkydinkydoodle he is nice in other ways for sure. He's a great dad, can make me laugh always and has provided a stable home and good life for me and the kids. I've always struggled with our communication styles, we are completely different. I will speak to him about this another day as it can't go on, i understand we can learn to communicate better but it has to be a join effort and not just me keeping quiet or not asking a question!

He just sounds like a really shit listener. Some people want conversation only on their terms and don’t want to give others space to be listened to.

Perhaps your listening skills are not as honed as you think.
If DH comes home and someone has been winding him up.
Your response could be - How do you feel about that?
Then you stay quiet.

No more discussion on it but you could think about it a lot. You could write an essay on your own thought process.

You might really enjoy an expressive art form like painting.
Join a painting group and a book club.
You might then not find your DH communication style as restrictive when you have other outlets. He has his own anxieties about expressing feelings etc and everyone is different. He obviously sees no problem.

I would call him out when he is rude, every time...
Please, there is no need to be rude.
Rudeness towards me is unwarranted, excuse me.
Kindness please, remember who you are talking to.
That is enough rudeness.
There is no need to be rude, DH.

Op is not his therapist though. Relationships aren't just about listening, they are about communication. One sided listening isn't communicating. She's being told to shut up basically.

Your may be chatty and interesting to some people but to others you will be a chirping bird incessantly wittering away.

Would you describe a talkative male using these words? Just curious.

I think if I was on the phone regarding a relative's health and obviously shutting down some things that were being said, then when I got off the phone I might not be in the mood for having someone force me to endure "talking in circles" about it aimlessly.

That whole mode of conversation is excruciating and exhausting at the best of times, especially if someone tends to keep circling back for more after the logical conclusion of the exchange as you describe. If you had just heard him shut the waffle down with someone else this was probably a poor moment to start such a post mortem.