How often do you see your parents?

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Daily, weekly, monthly, yearly etc?

They live an hour away and I see them once every 3-4 weeks. I feel guilty it should be more, they are elderly and can't travel, but at the minute that's about all I can manage.

Parents: once a year sometimes less - they live in a different country 14 hours away.

inlaws : twice a year - they live up north ( we are SE)

Never, been NC for seventeen years

Only have my mum and she lives a few doors away. Speak most days and see her a couple of times a week.
I love it.

Posted too soon.

I love it because she lived abroad for 20 years and I hardly saw her.

Maybe 6x a year? One of those being a few days at Xmas and in the last few years a family holiday of a week. They live about 3 hours away.

In laws live 20 mins away and see them less!

Approx once a week. And see pil approx once a week too.

Same here, though mine are still alive and still living 250 miles away. XH's parents are both dead.

Mum lives about an hour away so about once every 2 months sometimes more.

Dad lives abroad, I haven't seen him since 2013, no great loss!

It was once a month.ish, on average..they were 2.5 hours away. Although in the summer they'd look after the children for 4.weeks - two at theirs and two.with us. We would (sometimes) all go on holiday together.

Then Mum fell ill. I.was there most weekends for 5 months until she, sadly, passed.

I now visit Dad at least every fortnight, often staying over for a day or two. I call every day and more than once a week we have a video call and eat lunch or have a drink "together". Sometimes the whole family meet in a video call.

My parents have died, and MIL but we see FIL probably 4 times a year. He is quite elderly so we have to drive there (about 1.5 hrs) but tbh they very rarely visited us anyway (none of DH family do) unless it made a convenient stop off to the airport/somewhere else they were going.

I see my parents everytime I open my hall cupboard. Well, I see the brown bag which holds my 'share' of their ashes (they're individually parcelled up within the bag). For months they were hanging on the other side of the door. Moved them for safe-keeping whilst I sort my house out. I like to think Mum and Dad would see the funny side - both had a sense of humour!

My mum passed away when I was little, so never. I see my Dad around 4-5 times a year as he lives a few hundred miles away (3 ish hour drive) and the onus is us as a family to travel to him, so unfortunately we only get there once every couple months.

Dad is dead, see mum 2-4 times a week as she lives nearby now.

We see the in-laws on average once a month as they're an hour or so away. DH talks to his dad most days though as they dork it out together about their latest bit of tech.

Really interesting thread.

My mum wants to see me at least once a week and I feel that that’s excessive.

Every weekend she asks me what I’m doing and if I want to do X and although I do say no, I feel bad if it goes 2 weeks without seeing her.

Mine are no longer here.

I only have a DM but mostly every other day, DH Parents we only see at Occasions, Birthday BBQs, Christmas etc.. so probably 6 times a Year.

How far away do you live ?

I feel I should be seeing my DPs more often, but I'm menopausal and frankly exhausted most of the time. I also feel I am entitled to my own life as DF moved abroad so saw his DPs about once every couple of years and DM also moved to the country I live in so saw them very rarely for the last 20 years of their lives.

The one that’s alive I see everyday.
The one that’s dead… I don’t see him much

My DM about 3 times a week, she's in her late 70s and moved from my home town to just a few streets away from me, my mid 70s FIL perhaps 2 or 3 times a month. He lives 40 minutes drive away in DHs home town. My DDad and DMIL are no longer with us.

I really enjoy both my DM and my FILs company and they love DC.

Before my FIL was widowed (and before DC) maybe every other month. And I'd go visit my divorced parents who lived a couple of hours away monthly or every other month. (I'd visit my home town and "do the rounds")

I worry about my childless aunts and uncles and wish I saw them more than the one or two times a year I currently do (both are several hours away) but spare weekends seem to be like gold dust (especially as we try to see siblings who live hours away when we can too)

Once a week usually.

Every day. We live pretty much next door to each other.

DH sees his approx. every 2 months (they live a 5 min drive away) - for obligation visits (birthdays etc) or to do something for them. Probably speaks on the phone once a month (if not seeing them). He doesn't like them. Mine are dead.

Never , been estranged for years
Was asked not to attend fathers funeral and have no intention of attending hers when it comes .

Before 2020, each school holiday.
Since then about once a year. Lockdown made her much more insular. She doesn't travel, but won't have people in her house any more. Her preferences on timekeeping are too awkward against my family commitments. She doesn't like DS1 either and they're not a good pairing together. She's put up a lot of obstacles that I'm not in a position to overcome any more. The cats rank above me in the family now.

She's becoming her mother and I'm seeing the family dynamic repeating itself all over again.

MiL died last year. That used to be a longer annual visit until 2020. We tried seeing her in 2021 but carehome restrictions were too tight and only DH was allowed in; we only just made it into her country by a week around volatile travel restrictions. She was too frail to see the DCs in her last months as restrictions finally eased and finally made a family visit viable. She wouldn't have recognised the DCs anymore. We last saw her as a family on our regular autumn 2019 visit, but DH managed some solo visits in 21/ 22 as the logistics were simpler for solo visits.