To just let him watch the bloody tv!

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Before children ( as a teacher ) I had my ridiculous expectations of parenting . How I laugh.

No dummies
No screens in a restaurant
1 hour or tv ( you see my children would be busy crafting !)
hahahahahha

I have a 3 month old and a 2 year old and I am becoming so stressed. Why on earth I don’t just let dd watch the tv ? Would stop me chasing her around and exhausting myself at 8am. Why didn’t I just give the children dummies .
I am becoming so stressed and I imagine this will cause more issues longer term than a dummy , few hours of pig could ?

Should I just let dd watch the bloody tv ?

I wouldn’t do screens in a restaurant though I don’t think. I’d much rather get a babysitter and go to a restaurant without my dc if they are of the age where they can’t chat tbh!

DC are growing up in a world of technology why keep them away from it. My dc watch tv especially in the morning when my oldest is eating breakfast before school and I’m dealing with the baby. Only rule in this house is no tv on a dinner time and no iPads in restaurants.

Get that peppa pig or bluey on…..

Get bluey on the TV. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. We usually limit TV in a normal routine as it affects DS behaviour but with a 3 month old, use it! My second is 9 months and eldest is nearly 3 and a half, we used it loads when ds2 was smaller, then went back to limiting. But today,we're having a TV day as both are sick and I've had next to no sleep. No guilt.

My TV raised me and I'm totally fine.

Lol, same situation here with similar age gap and similar expectations, even the baby gets her brains fried by watching Raa Raw and netflix now! 😂

Absolutely nothing wrong with TV, OP! Cbeebies/Peppa Pig saved my sanity when I only had DD, and when DS came along.

And there's nothing wrong with Peppa Pig either. All this nonsense about it making kids rude... Both of mine were utterly obsessed with PP for a year or so and they're both very polite and caring. It can also be quite funny at times. And I adore Bluey but they can be bratty as well, and my kids haven't turned into arseholes through watching that either!

My kid had a dummy and watched a fair bit of CBeebies.

I’d avoid getting into a habit of screens at tables though.

We had a recent lunch out ruined by the table next to us. Two girls, I’d guess about 3 and 6, both had a phone propped up in front of them to keep them quiet while waiting for food. Sound on, and kept turning it back up when Mum or Dad turned it down. They screeched the place down when their food arrived and their parents tried to take the screens away. They seemed like otherwise attentive parents and did keep trying to engage them in conversation but gave up in the end and just talked to each other.

Peaceful solution for them I guess but not for anyone else. I mean, I’d take the cartoon noises over the screeching but it was really shit. I’d imagine that’s a habit they fell into early days and now they’re stuck with it.

Put the telly on, make a cuppa and put your feet up. When mine were little CBeebies would be on all day if we were at home, neither sat glued to the screen, they mostly pottered around playing, if a show caught their eye they would sit and watch for a little while. Neither wanted a dummy but if they needed to they could have had them. My DD is a young adult and my DS is a teen, neither had their development stunted by a bit of TV and neither of them are that bothered about screens now.
I can only laugh at the poster who said they can tell a child who watches Peppa Pig, absolutely ridiculous.

@CoodleMoodle The difference is that with Bluey the behaviour is addressed and rectified - a lesson is learnt.

Peppa Pig is just rude and everyone goes along with it as though it’s okay. There is no lesson.

Glad someone said this. I think plenty of mums are like this, but unfortunately on this site people make out you're raising Satan if you leave them on an iPad.

A chilled mum is a happy mum. A mum who can get things done is a chilled mum.

I'd strike a balance. So a little TV after breakfast when you get housework done, out for an hour before lunch for fresh air.

Maybe try cartoons in French, German, Chinese - they can learn the language whilst watching the tv - serious suggestion by the way.

CBeebies is your friend here. Put it on live. :)

I disagree about Bluey. There's plenty of episodes where the kids are badly behaved and suffer no consequences. Movies, for example. And Fairies, which really annoyed me (justice for Bandit!). There's also Work, Ice Cream, Bad Mood and Hairdressers. They tie Bandit up and smack him with a rake ffs!

And I love Muffin but she's allowed by everyone to be rude and throw tantrums, and it rarely gets addressed. I love watching it but there's loads of times where the behaviour is not addressed or rectified.

PP toned down the rudeness and bratty behaviour after the first series, imo. They were still mean to Daddy Pig, though.

Sorry OP, didn't intend to hijack!

Remember dummies are easier to wean off than thumbs or sucking corners of pillows/cushions/clothing/blankets. A hell of a lot easier. Nobody sucks dummies as an adult but I've seen plenty of adults do the others.

Use tv wisely. A little bit while you feed or change baby or have a cup of tea won't harm. Its when it's on constant that it's a problem.

Enjoy them while they are little.

There are lots of things I wish I hadn't introduced my SEN kid to - meat (as they stopped eating vegetables), tablet (because they became very controlling over screens). But, some TV shows are amazing. Numberblocks are teaching my kid to count and I high hopes for alpha blocks too.

I tried the one hour max but gave in once I had 2 kids. But no dummies and tables are for talking not devices, no smart phones then but I've never liked tv at the table

I agree put it on. Doesn’t have to peppa pig - CBeebies is great for little ones

Haha, mine wasn’t going to have TV either, or any freezer food, I wasnt going to ban sweets/ sugary crap exactly but she’d be so used to such a wide variety of home cooked, veg based delights by then - and I’d be so relaxed and nonchalant about it and never call anything sugary a ‘treat’, so she’d never realise it was anything special and never want it anyway. It was just going to be wooden toys and books as far at the eye could see, and we’d avoid all the gendered stuff and absolutely no Disney princesses.

She watches plenty of TV - I do try to avoid peppa as much as possible but that’s not to say she hasn’t seen it. We also love Bluey, Sarah and Duck, Abney and Teale. At 2 it was more Mr Tumble and she loved Moon and Me too - it actually makes me sad that she’s grown out of that one, it was so weird but she loved it so much! Another one is Puffin Rock on Netflix - it’s so gentle and lovely.

I leave the subtitles on to assuage any guilt and just tell myself I’m helping her reading skills https://turnonthesubtitles.org/

We also seem to have acquired a hell of a lot of very pink plastic somehow, she’s Elsa obsessed and she’d happily trade her granny for a cornetto or bag of haribo. She still eats pretty well overall but there’s definitely a few more fishfingers than I’d planned.

She wouldn’t accept a dummy - I did try pretty much every one on the market because I believed they could help prevent sids (I was so anxious about not being able to breastfeed and went a bit OTT with it). And I try to avoid screams in restaurants/ out and about in general although a couple of nights on holiday recently I thought fuck it it’s my holiday too and let her play a (silent) colouring game - I’ve not done it since though.

She’s pretty delightful overall still, language skills are amazing, she’s generally kind and loving and lots of fun and she still loves all the outdoor stuff and imaginative play. I guess I won’t know till she’s an adult just how badly I’ve messed up her development but I can’t say I’m particularly worried right now.

I try to avoid *screens in restaurants not screams, though obviously I don't allow those either. I thought we could edit, has that gone now or was I too late?

And I can say with the benefit of hindsight that sharing meals at the table with no screens regularly (daily ideally) and with other adults sometimes really is one of the best things you can do, my dd thanked me because it has helped her at work no end

Ceebeebies with number jacks and mr tumble means t my dd learn simple sigh language and counting

Lots of other fun educational programmes

Avoid peppa if you can 😂

And bloody Bing 😂

Some telly is fine! I found when they were little they'd self regulate with it anyway as they can't focus on it for that long. Any more than an hour and mine would get up and potter off to something else (usually naughty).

It also made me feel better about going back to work as they didn't get telly in nursery so I could afford to let them have some at home heehee.

Dummies are so useful for sucky babies. I gave in and used one for a few weeks with my first to help him self soothe. Youngest had hers earlier and for longer. Made life bearable! My main objection to them had been that I thought they "looked chavvy". I'm really ashamed of myself now.

I'm a bit surprised by all the posters saying Peppa Pig is "so rude". Have you all been watching the Roadman Peppa Pig version by mistake?

If it helps I have two quite well rounded teenagers who were brought up watching pepa pig, in the night garden, mickey mouse clubhouse and various other stuff i weirdly miss now. They also both had dummies and were allowed chocolate! The one rule was and still is, no screens at the table and 9/10 we eat together. In a restaurant we play cards until they are bored then they get their phones now with ear buds to drown out the noise. I was complimented on how lovely my DS was the other day and both do well at school. an hour of the pig has not desolved them into blithering idiots, worry not and take the easy road!

Cebeebies is amazing!

Miss Rachael and Bluey are a god send. Only thing I’d like to stay away from is screens at the table, I haven’t got to that point yet but I wouldn’t like to use them.