Is your DH proud of what you do for work?

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Possible a controversial one, but is your DH proud of what you do for a job?

In the heat of an argument, DH has admitted that he doesn't actually know what I do, isn't proud of what I achieve and only measures success on how much time I get to spend at home with him and the kids.

We both work full time, I am proud of what I do and work hard at my job, mainly to be able to afford the house etc we have, but also because I enjoy it.

Yes he is supportive and proud. I’d find your husband’s approach frustrating.

I’m a SAHP and my DP very obviously resents that fact rather than being proud/grateful

He’s proud of what I’ve achieved in my career change, but I think he’s more in awe of my newfound earning power and how that impacts our lifestyle.

I feel a bit emotional reading these.

xh was not proud of me in the slightest. I am a senior professional and my salary kept our family afloat, paid for the kids’ requirements, holidays etc. But he was spectacularly disinterested in my work - though claimed the opposite.

like pp he wanted a SAHM who also magically generated enough income to fund these things.While covering all domestic duties.

is an ex.

Not worth it, op. Really undermined my confidence.

Yes I am. To be honest, even after all this time, I'm still not really sure 'what' my wife does, but she's at the absolute peak of her profession and I'm immensely proud of her.

Massively proud and supportive and he tells me a lot.

I don't think I could be with someone who wasn't tbh.

My DH is my biggest cheerleader and tells me all the time how proud he is of me and is 100% supportive of my career. When I was studying and working full time he was amazing with the kids and just gave me the time I needed to get everything done.

He's supportive, and happy for me that I found a good full-time job after years of being part time and then finding it hard to get a ft job. Proud isn't quite the word I'd use. If he said he was proud of me for doing the same job that he'd also done for decades (but got to a much more senior level than me) it might sound a bit patronising tbh.

Because we'd always done the same job as each other (and met at work), there wasn't ever that mystique or feeling of 'l don't know exactly what you do in your job, and I couldn't do what you do!'.

Yes, he really is.

Yes, extremely proud. He's an Alumni of the school I work at (and that our child attends) and will tell anyone who will listen how proud of me he is. I think it also helps that I love my job and he sees that.

He sounds like a controlling arsehole who resents your success and independence.

An alumnus* btw (singular). He sounds lovely

Yes he's very proud and always has been and delights in bragging about me.

@Forsakenalmosthuman I knew that didn't look right!

DP is very proud - he even embarrassingly bigs me up to others frequently
ExDH is also! He tells my adult DC how amazing I am and that they should be proud of my achievements especially as I was a lone parent for many years (50:50 wasn’t really a thing then)

I think he probably is proud, but he respects me and my work which I think is more important. We have at various points swapped round whose career takes precedent versus who is able to have more flex for DC, depending on where each of us was career-wise. But he has never complained about any of my work hours, overtime or work travel; doing so would have been a dealbreaker.

Yes he is always tells Ng me how great I am, and how he couldn't do what I do. I feel the same about his job. Except he is on GARDEN Leave at the mo

SAHM here, hmm, he’s proud of the job I do running our lives and parenting the children but dear god do I want to make him proud, and myself proud by finding a career, purpose and income outside of this small world I’ve found for myself in

Yes. He is particularly proud of my academic achievements and also my artistic skills. He often talks about them to people we meet.

Hahahahaha. Sorry, I don't mean to be mean, but what world is he living in?! Unless you are already a celebrity, that it pretty much impossible.

Yes and pushed me for my most recent promotion. Has more faith in me than I do in myself.

DH absolutely is proud of me. I work part time as a lecturer and earn about a quarter of what he does but he has never been dismissive of my contribution to our life - this was a big worry of mine when his salary increased dramatically. When I got promoted I heard him on a work call telling his colleagues all about my new role. He regularly tells me I’m cleverer than him (not sure this is true - academically I’m qualified to a slightly higher level than him but he has a lot of professional quals and experience) and is supporting me in doing a masters at the moment. I’m also incredibly proud of him, I have no idea what he does (highly technical specialist role) but he has been promoted three times in as many years and works hard and does a good job and is well thought of in his company, which is what makes me proud.

Yes and he's fully supported me in getting to where I am and encouraged me to do things I thought I couldn't. I'm also proud of him so it's mutual