AIBU or is this ignorant and OTT?

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So a member of my immediate family always has ear pods in. Listening to podcasts. Well not always but a lot! No ASD or sensory issues.

We were all in the kitchen today and chatting and I was talking to them. They didn’t answer. I then realised and said ‘oh you’ve got your ear pods in, did you hear what I said?’ I must have sounded irritated (I was) and they got the hump and are now sulking in their bedroom.

AIBU to think that it’s rude?
AIBU to think that huffing and sulking are OTT?
or AI just bloody U full stop?

We are a little (me and DS14) family of ear pod wearers, but if we are in the same room we won't wear them. He wears them to listen music and I put mine in when I'm doing housework in the evening and know DS won't need me, and also in bed.

I also get so engrossed that if DS does 'interrupt' to get a glass of water or ask me something I jump out of my skin.

It would annoy me if he had them in when we're not doing our own thing, even if we're not actively doing something together if you know what I mean e.g. me pottering about in the kitchen and him in the lounge watching telly.

DS had his in while he was brushing his teeth shortly before bed. I went up to give him a hug goodnight, saw he couldn't hear me so mouthed "would you like a hundred quid?". Such a shame he couldn't hear me nor can lip read.

Did you read it? They were both doing stuff in the kitchen, he spoke to her, interrupting her. Shortly after she spoke to him and … crickets. Since he had his earbuds on. You cannot have a setup where he can take them out and say /ask things whenever he wants but she can’t do that too. ‘Active’ times should be earbud free if you’re going to behave like that. More courteous people could manage earbuds in more often but he can’t.

I listen to podcasts a lot and very often have headphone n the house. If dc are doing homework at the table and I'm making dinner I'll often have them in, which actually I don't think is ideal, because I miss out of the odd random comment (interruption) which could have become an interesting conversation.

However, I am very strict with myself and do not put my headphones in if dh is around or we are in a family mode. I think it's important for us all to be present. Obviously it's not always possible but on the whole I think in the evenings or weekends when others are mulling about , headphones are rude.

Dd1 has headphones in a LOT, and I'm trying to find the balance with her, but it's different for dc I think.
So no, YANBU.

Argh. I forgot to put mine in today. Was going to test it out. I just feel bad for DC though that I’m not so present. One of us has to be!