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To think the standard of living for retired people had to change

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downdowndowndowndown · 09/11/2023 14:50

I'm a millennial. I will retire in my seventies. Many in my age group will be still paying their mortgage off well into their sixties. Many will never be able to buy. This is not a moan about that.

My mums generation were able to buy cheaper houses in the eighties. Some have also inherited well (houses which their parents owned and didn't have to sell to pay for care, which had risen in price to above a million). They had better pension plans. Some were able to go to university for free and their degrees actually meant something in the workplace: They often paid off their mortgages in their forties. I see a lot of my parents relatives have retired early and have very enviable lives.

Two uncles have retired in their early sixties. They are both in good help. They spend their days on many holidays, eating out multiple times per week, going to garden centres, renovating their beautiful houses, helping children financially and with childcare. They will have presumably worked out their finances and could afford to continue to live like this for the rest of their lives! Possibly thirty more years!

I think they are possibly going to be unique in their quality of life. We will never have that and I don't see my children's generation having things any earlier.

In essence the generation before me were mostly fortunate, unless personal situations changed their financial situation or they lost their homes during the nineties interest rises. Retirements and pensions were never designed to support people for three decades and that things had to change hence raising the retirement age and making people pay more towards their care.

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mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 19:04

babyproblems · 09/11/2023 19:03

I agree op. My parents are in their 60s now, both retired early and have an amazing lifestyle, have inherited over a million in property and both had free degrees and great pensions from two public sector jobs. I don’t think we will have the same!!

Why, aren't they going to leave their millions to you?

How many of us do you think get that level on inheritance.

Do grow up!

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 19:07

Facebookflight · 09/11/2023 19:03

https://ifs.org.uk/articles/things-go-swimmingly-those-generations-who-shout-loudest

the economics geeks agree with the OP. The wealthiest generation currently are the pensioners, despite what people commenting here’s lives experience might think.

Can they see into the future then?

How do they know what pension age is going to look like for the current bunch of gimme gimme whingers?!

Silvers11 · 09/11/2023 19:08

disappearingfish · 09/11/2023 15:01

It's impossible to claim any single generation had it better, particularly when you look at inequalities for women, people with disabilities, black people etc.

House prices were cheaper but access to finance was much more difficult. University was free but open to a much smaller percentage of people. Jobs were more stable but careers were much less flexible. No one generation has "had it all".

Best thing to do is make the best of your life and get involved in politics to make it better.

I agree with you. I remember too being told I needed a (male) Guarantor if I wanted a loan by one particular Bank - although things were beginning to change and another bank was quite happy to lend me what I needed. Think that was late 70's or early 80's.

As you say @disappearingfish - things are so different now - some much better and some much worse

WeekWeekWeek · 09/11/2023 19:08

I’m also a millennial.

I own four properties and became a millionaire in my thirties, solely through my own work (no inheritance etc).
I’ll be retired by the time I’m 50.

If you’re going to generalize about an older generation, maybe generalize about ours and ask yourself why you don’t have as much as I do?

Hotandsunny · 09/11/2023 19:08

LaurieStrode · 09/11/2023 16:17

The "younger generation" who thinks we had it so soft ...

Very little dining out or takeaway, small wardrobes because we had few garments and didn't recreationally shop, no contact lenses, fake nails, tattoos, lattes, internet, smartphones, Sky TV. Most didn't own cars. One tv, radio and telephone shared by all household members. Relative few went to college. Very few people traveled let alone by air.

The day-to-day luxuries and lifestyle that a preponderance of today's younger people take for granted were not part of our lives, or our spending patterns, even 30 years ago, let alone 50 years ago.

People lived more frugally. I remember when my parents relocated in their 40s, the lounge stayed empty for two years until they could afford furniture. We sat on chairs from the dining table to watch TV. Now people would rush out to IKEA and put it on a credit card, and then moan that they "can't afford to save for a deposit."

But that's such a generalisation too. When I had my first (rented) flat it was furnished by bits and bobs of second hand furniture.

I'm lucky enough to have my own home now but I sleep on the (second hand) sofa as it only has 2 bedrooms which my DC have. I have a dining table but only 2 chairs as I need to save up for more. I don't have a credit card.

Facebookflight · 09/11/2023 19:10

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 19:04

Why, aren't they going to leave their millions to you?

How many of us do you think get that level on inheritance.

Do grow up!

Anyone that expects to inherit anything is extremely naive. I fully expect my parents million-ish pounds to be entirely consumed by care home fees.

Flowers4me · 09/11/2023 19:10

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 18:56

Another deluded one.

Why would any generation choose to pull the drawbridge up behind them, especially if they have children???

We should be striving to ensure that everyone has at least a decent quality of living.

And cut out the "old people" crap. It's patronising and rude. I am only just in the boomer generation, and I am not fucking OLD!!

You sound very immature. Are you about 14? You too will be "old" one day, IF you are fortunate. You will then have a generation baying at your feet like you are now. Good luck with it.

If there's more people in that age group, it's because there were no bloody choices for women but to keep having way more children than their bodies could cope with or they could afford. No contraception, no independence, raising children in poverty and staying in marriages they were unhappy in. Then they have to listen to foolish people like you bleating on and railing against them for fucking having the audacity to get older. Consider yourself so lucky that you have all the life choices, freedoms and opportunities that all of those "OLD PEOPLE" achieved for you!!! Catch a grip.

Do you know, when I was a child actually, I loved old people. I loved spending time with them. I loved their life experience, their humanity (most of them!), their stories of their lives.

Well said. I too used to love spending time with old people and listening to their stories. They had a lot to say and a lot for me to learn from. I find it sad that some young people resent older people; what has gone wrong for there to be so much disrespect for our elderly?

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 09/11/2023 19:11

Tryingtokeepgoing · 09/11/2023 17:38

Does scrapping mean they were all closed immediately? Seems unlikely…as well as impossible…. And yes, more schools were opened as the population grew, but the apparatus of grammar schools had been wilfully destroyed by the levelling down Labour Party and councils they were comprehensives 😂Who’d have thought opening more schools was a bad thing ;)

Thatcher closed/merged more grammar schools than anyone else, before or since. One of many inconvenient truths if you are a Thatcher apologist.
Sad for you but no amount of wriggling changes the actual facts.

overwhelmed2023 · 09/11/2023 19:11

Erm. I left home for Uni at 18 and didn't have any money from parents apart from grant top up or live at home again. Interest rates were astronomical in 1990 we sold with negative equity. I worked 150 hours per week as a jnr Dr. I retire at 67
HTH

Facebookflight · 09/11/2023 19:12

overwhelmed2023 · 09/11/2023 19:11

Erm. I left home for Uni at 18 and didn't have any money from parents apart from grant top up or live at home again. Interest rates were astronomical in 1990 we sold with negative equity. I worked 150 hours per week as a jnr Dr. I retire at 67
HTH

Confused. Don’t you have an NHS pension?

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 19:12

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/11/2023 18:48

But that’s not their fault. Should we just get rid of them all?

That’s a non-sequitur. Why do we need to get rid of them all? Why not just ask them to pay NI like everyone else?

overwhelmed2023 · 09/11/2023 19:13

Didn't buy anything new, rented a tv, video machine. Didn't eat out .. didn't buy coffee or anything really until you had money to buy it. When did people start being so greedy and envious?

dewclaw · 09/11/2023 19:14

Let's see how you feel if and when you get to this age. So much rubbish spouted on this subject- not everyone has/had it so good, any more than the usual garbage about young people spending all their money on coffees and Netflix rather than buying a house. Do you really want people with poor health or in manual jobs- firefighters, paramedics, roofers to name a few, working into their 70's?
Much better querying why we have some of the poorest pensioners living in squalid conditions on the lowest state pensions in Europe.

Oliotya · 09/11/2023 19:14

Flowers4me · 09/11/2023 19:10

Well said. I too used to love spending time with old people and listening to their stories. They had a lot to say and a lot for me to learn from. I find it sad that some young people resent older people; what has gone wrong for there to be so much disrespect for our elderly?

I've never had much to do with any old people. My grandparents were entirely uninvolved. My parents are now the same. Perhaps this detachment is part of the issue.

overwhelmed2023 · 09/11/2023 19:14

I'll have an nhs pension at 67 ?? Not v confusing

Facebookflight · 09/11/2023 19:15

overwhelmed2023 · 09/11/2023 19:14

I'll have an nhs pension at 67 ?? Not v confusing

But you can choose to retire earlier and take a lower amount? Still must be pretty hefty compared with the DC pension schemes on offer to todays youth.

Daphnis156 · 09/11/2023 19:16

A resentful opening post.

You have the hand you are dealt, as did generations before you.

So get on with it and stop moaning.

fetchacloth · 09/11/2023 19:16

stripesfarm · 09/11/2023 15:03

We are in our mid 60s and still have a mortgage. We work and have no plans to retire soon. We bought property late 1980s, and lost almost half the value in the crash, and saw interest rate rises to around 16%. Our mortgage payments more than doubled, we could barely eat, as every penny went to paying the bills. We couldn't sell, as the value of the house had plummeted to just over half what we paid, so it wouldn't have helped.
We didn't all have it easy you know.

An insightful post. I think that time is either forgotten or not realised by some.
I was in a similar position to you although I did escape from it by biding my time to escape negative equity and then downsize to reduce the considerable mortgage repayments - still considerable when reduced from 16% to 11% interest.
After downsizing, and subsequent falls in interest rates, I was then able to concentrate on and building up a pension.

Flowers4me · 09/11/2023 19:17

Oliotya · 09/11/2023 19:14

I've never had much to do with any old people. My grandparents were entirely uninvolved. My parents are now the same. Perhaps this detachment is part of the issue.

You've raised a good point. I often think when different groups mix we learn more and become more tolerant and empathic towards one another. I was fortunate I think to see my grandparents (though not close) and elderly neighbours too, many who were war veterans. I think they helped to shape me.

blameless · 09/11/2023 19:19

Facebookflight · 09/11/2023 19:03

https://ifs.org.uk/articles/things-go-swimmingly-those-generations-who-shout-loudest

the economics geeks agree with the OP. The wealthiest generation currently are the pensioners, despite what people commenting here’s lives experience might think.

The IFS is a stooge organisation, largely funded by HM Treasury to make statements that the government would like to but can't.

overwhelmed2023 · 09/11/2023 19:19

We'll work for the nhs then and you can get an nhs pension I guess!! What's the problem?

Jk987 · 09/11/2023 19:20

You'll inherit the property from your Mum. You won't be working until your seventies. You'll get pay rises and promotions through moving jobs. You might be on a dual income.

My parents bought a cheap property in the eighties. There was no frills though, no central heating upstairs and single glazed windows. No car, Wi-Fi, meals out or subscriptions.

It's easy to gloss over the past and look to the future with pessimism but there are choices.

didthosefeetinancienttimes · 09/11/2023 19:21

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 17:26

Yes. They are my primary concern.

From their 20s to their 40s they will be paying the pensions of the current 60-80yr olds.

From their 20s to their 40s they will be paying the health care of the current 60-80yr olds.

From their 20s to their 40s they will be paying the social care of the current 60-80yr olds.

And then they will be trying to build their lives, solve the housing crisis and the environment crisis with what’s left.

I’ll be encouraging them to vote to limit free NHS care to under 70s only.

And that’s going to be a political party’s policy is it, for your children to vote for?
Really?
😂

aswarmofmidges · 09/11/2023 19:22

The wealthiest generation is actually the group just around pension age

They are wealthiest because they have saved for their retirement

The wealth goes down as pensioners get older

You want to take off people who have saved ?

You want to change the playing field - with the state pension I'll be fine , without it I'll be claiming benefits . anyone thinks a life on benefits is easier for a pensioner than a younger person ?

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 19:22

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Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

You’ve been really aggressive @mayorofcasterbridge ‘zero ability’ ‘vile children’ ‘day off school’ ‘hateful’ etc in your replies.

Take a deep breath and consider if some critical thinking - or at least a pause for reflection on what’s been said - might be worthy of consideration from you.

That this generation of retirees is richer than any elderly generation before is actually a FACT. And the working population cannot sustain this. Also a fact. These are demographic and economic realities that need facing.

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