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To think the standard of living for retired people had to change

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downdowndowndowndown · 09/11/2023 14:50

I'm a millennial. I will retire in my seventies. Many in my age group will be still paying their mortgage off well into their sixties. Many will never be able to buy. This is not a moan about that.

My mums generation were able to buy cheaper houses in the eighties. Some have also inherited well (houses which their parents owned and didn't have to sell to pay for care, which had risen in price to above a million). They had better pension plans. Some were able to go to university for free and their degrees actually meant something in the workplace: They often paid off their mortgages in their forties. I see a lot of my parents relatives have retired early and have very enviable lives.

Two uncles have retired in their early sixties. They are both in good help. They spend their days on many holidays, eating out multiple times per week, going to garden centres, renovating their beautiful houses, helping children financially and with childcare. They will have presumably worked out their finances and could afford to continue to live like this for the rest of their lives! Possibly thirty more years!

I think they are possibly going to be unique in their quality of life. We will never have that and I don't see my children's generation having things any earlier.

In essence the generation before me were mostly fortunate, unless personal situations changed their financial situation or they lost their homes during the nineties interest rises. Retirements and pensions were never designed to support people for three decades and that things had to change hence raising the retirement age and making people pay more towards their care.

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aswarmofmidges · 09/11/2023 18:40

We need

Housing to be affordable for all not just those who get inheritance

Currently people who get inheritance but houses at inflated prices and everyone else is shafted

Rebuild council homes using the money you raise from inheritance taxes

Charge rents that are affordable , cover costs not make profits for landlords
Ensure that anyone who wants can have such good secure tenancy homes

House prices will adjust. Housing benefit will decrease ( you'll like that bit)

You get to keep the taxes you raise from the richer pensioners ( you'll like that too but if you cancel the state pension you'll lose that )

And then the money you get from your wages will go further because it's not taken in rent or mortgage - more people will be able to save for their own pensions and future care ( that's good for reducing the future benefit bill also )

Killing old people by denying them care ; robbing them of their pension savings ; pushing them into a works house by stopping the state pension ; that dehumanises the older person , treats them as less worthwhile than a younger person , that's just wrong. You need to solve the problems without doing that

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 09/11/2023 18:42

I think the OP is WeightWhat's DC.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/11/2023 18:43

In the UK, the wealthiest demographic is the over-60s. They CAN pay for themselves

But they were when l was young (I’m 59) they have bigger houses that housed families. So they had equity in their houses.

Wont they always be the wealthiest demographic?

Ginmonkeyagain · 09/11/2023 18:43

@VWdieselnightmare yes of course but they don't pay NI. So they pay a lot less than working people on the same income.

It is an issue, the tax base is shrinking.

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 18:45

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 18:35

Why hateful? Just fairer organised.

There are more ways of doing things than the current one.

You're not even worth a reply.

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 18:45

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 17:40

Better than you I'll wager. I take it you're not in a caring profession then?!

Your attitude stinks. It's not about Maths. It's about social conscience and you are totally devoid of one.

It's disgraceful that such a huge world economy would ever even think about such a vile practice. This country can afford it, but the fat cats cream off so much!! What a horrible mind you must have.

I hope to never meet you or your children. What a way to bring a child up.

We’re all lovely, compassionate and clever.

But there are better, fairer ways of living. I appreciate you can’t conceive of those different ways but in actual fact other countries already have different arrangements. And the demographic demand is such that we need to too.

Be gone, entitled retirees - better lives for working families.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/11/2023 18:45

Ginmonkeyagain · 09/11/2023 18:43

@VWdieselnightmare yes of course but they don't pay NI. So they pay a lot less than working people on the same income.

It is an issue, the tax base is shrinking.

But why should they pay Nl on pensions? No previous pensioners have.

Theyve already had the retirement age snatched away.

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 18:46

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 18:45

You're not even worth a reply.

And yet I got one Grin

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 09/11/2023 18:47

I thought half term was over?

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 18:47

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/11/2023 18:45

But why should they pay Nl on pensions? No previous pensioners have.

Theyve already had the retirement age snatched away.

No previous pensioners have lived this long or cost the NHS/social care so much money.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/11/2023 18:48

WeightWhat · 09/11/2023 18:47

No previous pensioners have lived this long or cost the NHS/social care so much money.

But that’s not their fault. Should we just get rid of them all?

MrsDrudge · 09/11/2023 18:50

Maybe you should’ve left school and started working full time at aged 14 like my parents. And saved hard for 50 years.

Or at 16 like me and DO, worked full time for 45years. 6 weeks maternity leave. No paternity leave. We went without and saved hard so we didn’t have to be too old to work and have to depend on state handouts.

How do you think people managed before the welfare state?

Oliotya · 09/11/2023 18:51

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/11/2023 18:45

But why should they pay Nl on pensions? No previous pensioners have.

Theyve already had the retirement age snatched away.

Why shouldn't they? Anything we pay or receive from the government is constantly changing, I don't see why this should be different.

ithinkthatmaybeimdreaming · 09/11/2023 18:51

One thing on MN which baffles me is young people whining about their parents' generation and all the money they apparently inherited. Who do they think is going to inherit that money when that generation die? As they are so against inheritance I do hope that anything coming their way is donated onto a worthy cause.

Lifeomars · 09/11/2023 18:52

Well I am retired and sitting in my cold house under a heated throw as I try to cope without the heating for as long as possible. There were many years when I as a single mum simply could not afford to pay into a pension so I only have a small one plus my state pension. Yes, I own my home but it is in a bit of a state, a little two up two down that need repairs that i cannot afford .. I live in a rough inner city area and feel too vulnerable to go out after dark, not all us pensioners live in lovely homes. I cannot downsize because where I am is the cheapest area in the city. I ve never had a car, could never afforded driving lessons, I needed every penny I earned to feed and care for my child (dad paid nothing), pay the mortgage and all the bills. I think it is tough for young people today but please don't blame oldies like me, I had it tough and it is not easy now.

Ladymarycrawley1920 · 09/11/2023 18:54

You are being entirely unreasonable. I am a very small fraction too old to be a “millennial” and this is not my experience at all. Both my parents grew up in council properties, with outside toilets and large families and very limited funds, meat was a treat etc. Both left school at 15 and have done relatively well in that they own their own properties, (hanging on to them by the skin of their teeth in the late 80s), retired at 65, but my god, they both worked full time for 50 years! They have paid their way. Both paid into private pensions but in no way have an extravagant or expensive lifestyle. I’m 6 months shy of being a “millennial” but my experience has been very different to yours. I have been given nothing (they didn’t and don’t have it to give), I went to a standard comprehensive school, and I will inherit nothing. But I will retire well before I’m 50, I own property far beyond what they ever could and I now help my parents out quite a lot and it makes me happy to do so. They definitely did not have it easier than me!
I also know several “late millennials”, who are doing extremely well and are far outstripping what their parents could ever earn.

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 18:56

Roundandroundandroundsound · 09/11/2023 18:36

decionsdecisions62 · Today 18:21

Maybe millennials need to scrap their brand new phones, cars, pushchairs, sofas, iMac and buy second hand like we did in the 80s then you can have more money in retirement. No I thought as much

God so many old people cry agism at as much as a mention of how much harder things are for the younger generation, but then spout this load of old crap constantly. It's just lies. Have you seen the free pages on Facebook? Most young people I know furnish their teeny tiny flats or shared houses with donations from people they've never met. YES they have smartphones. But you bloody need them for everything and they weren't invented when you were young so you can't say you'd have not had them.
No they don't all go on fancy holidays. In fact the only people I know who go on fancy holidays are my age (young gen X) or older. Unless they're lucky enough to have wealthy parents who pay for them to go. They have to pay for their university fees, and no it's not a privilege to be able to go, it's a necessity now, so really that's just another tax. And they'll probably not retire till 75 or thereabouts.
And I don't know a single youngster with a new car. Like I said I'm a young gen X (almost millennial) and we have 1 car for our 2 adult, 2 child household, and it's 12 years old.
DP and DPiL on the other hand - 1 side has 2 houses, and the other decided to upsize to a 5 bed house on retirement. Obviously that doesn't mean all old people are the same, so why do people keep talking shite about young people?
And like a PP said it's 100% true that a larger generation (like the baby boomers) paying the pensions of the much smaller generation above them, there was a lot more money left over than the smaller gen X / millennials/ gen z who are paying the pensions of those baby boomers now . It's obviously not the fault of those baby boomers that they were born when they were, but let's not pretend it didn't bring significant financial advantages (along with political actually, being a bigger generation means they have more of them to vote in their own self interest as a generation).

Another deluded one.

Why would any generation choose to pull the drawbridge up behind them, especially if they have children???

We should be striving to ensure that everyone has at least a decent quality of living.

And cut out the "old people" crap. It's patronising and rude. I am only just in the boomer generation, and I am not fucking OLD!!

You sound very immature. Are you about 14? You too will be "old" one day, IF you are fortunate. You will then have a generation baying at your feet like you are now. Good luck with it.

If there's more people in that age group, it's because there were no bloody choices for women but to keep having way more children than their bodies could cope with or they could afford. No contraception, no independence, raising children in poverty and staying in marriages they were unhappy in. Then they have to listen to foolish people like you bleating on and railing against them for fucking having the audacity to get older. Consider yourself so lucky that you have all the life choices, freedoms and opportunities that all of those "OLD PEOPLE" achieved for you!!! Catch a grip.

Do you know, when I was a child actually, I loved old people. I loved spending time with them. I loved their life experience, their humanity (most of them!), their stories of their lives.

MrsDrudge · 09/11/2023 18:56

@Ladymarycrawley1920 well said!

Oliotya · 09/11/2023 18:57

ithinkthatmaybeimdreaming · 09/11/2023 18:51

One thing on MN which baffles me is young people whining about their parents' generation and all the money they apparently inherited. Who do they think is going to inherit that money when that generation die? As they are so against inheritance I do hope that anything coming their way is donated onto a worthy cause.

Not everyone will inherit though. Building a system where younger people have to rely on inheritance or parental help only magnifies inequality.

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 18:58

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 09/11/2023 18:47

I thought half term was over?

It must have taken the day off school.

Highlandsprocker · 09/11/2023 18:59

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 09/11/2023 15:23

Well if enough young people can find a party to shaft old people and be arsed to vote them in this might change.

For now it’s just inter generational hatred and hot air.

They will be voting for their own poverty as well.
Or do they think they will never get old?

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 19:02

Lifeomars · 09/11/2023 18:52

Well I am retired and sitting in my cold house under a heated throw as I try to cope without the heating for as long as possible. There were many years when I as a single mum simply could not afford to pay into a pension so I only have a small one plus my state pension. Yes, I own my home but it is in a bit of a state, a little two up two down that need repairs that i cannot afford .. I live in a rough inner city area and feel too vulnerable to go out after dark, not all us pensioners live in lovely homes. I cannot downsize because where I am is the cheapest area in the city. I ve never had a car, could never afforded driving lessons, I needed every penny I earned to feed and care for my child (dad paid nothing), pay the mortgage and all the bills. I think it is tough for young people today but please don't blame oldies like me, I had it tough and it is not easy now.

I'm sorry about your situation, and you are far from alone. Hugs x

I am sure it must be so hard to read all this crap from entitled numpties who have grown up with with so many luxuries in their lives. They are totally immature, grasping and selfish. Anyone with the slightest bit of commonsense some are spouting. Couldn't give a flying fuck about anyone but themselves. What have we given birth to, as a nation? (Thank god my kids don't think like that!)

babyproblems · 09/11/2023 19:03

I agree op. My parents are in their 60s now, both retired early and have an amazing lifestyle, have inherited over a million in property and both had free degrees and great pensions from two public sector jobs. I don’t think we will have the same!!

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/11/2023 19:03

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