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To think self checkouts in clothes shops is a step too far

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Comedycook · 09/11/2023 13:59

Went shopping to get my dd some new clothes today. Noticed H and M had self service checkouts... tills were open too though. Then I went to M&S and tills were only for returns or exchanges and to pay you had to use self service. I tolerate self checkouts in supermarkets but when I am buying clothes, I expect some sort of service. What struck me is that in my local M and S they sell Jaeger...a blouse was £125. I assume their coats would be at least a couple of hundred quid. It really irks me and no way would I spend hundreds of pounds on an item of clothing and have to ring it up a the checkout myself. I think it's really crappy to be honest... anyone else agree?

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gannett · 10/11/2023 10:18

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 10:11

It's not in the least bit petty. Refusing to let me leave the store is not ok... detaining everyone as a matter of course is outrageous. We should not be so willing to roll over.

It's a non-issue and not hard to do.

I'll save my "refusal to roll over" energy for important issues like the criminalisation of protest and the normalisation of far-right rhetoric in this country thanks. Not a supermarket policy that doesn't inconvenience me in the slightest.

phoenixrosehere · 10/11/2023 10:21

gannett · 10/11/2023 10:04

Self-service and buffet restaurants are hardly a new or unknown concept. I don't feel any type of way about them as I don't get off on the idea of being served.

I don't feel any type of way about self-service checkouts because I'm not affronted by the idea that I can put my purchases into a bag myself. It's not a task I consider beneath me or remotely difficult.

I don't go into clothes shops to be "served" and I don't consider it an integral part of the experience. I want the shop to facilitate my purchases quickly and with a minimum of fuss, and so I'll always opt for a self-checkout - I find them easier. (I've also found that clothes shops self-checkouts are much more reliable than supermarket ones, which always seem to break down.)

Same here.

All of my jobs have been client and public facing, customer service, and learning how to get a job done well and efficiently. I’ve gotten to a point that my standards are if I need help, I’ll ask for it and as long as there is someone to help me when asked, I’m content. I want to get in, get out, and get on with the rest of my day. I may have the time to wait in a queue, but doesn’t mean I want to so if there is a self-checkout available with no queue or less people waiting than one with a person, I will use it.

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 10:22

gannett · 10/11/2023 10:18

It's a non-issue and not hard to do.

I'll save my "refusal to roll over" energy for important issues like the criminalisation of protest and the normalisation of far-right rhetoric in this country thanks. Not a supermarket policy that doesn't inconvenience me in the slightest.

The onus is on them to prove I've stolen something....I do not have to my prove my innocence before I am allowed to leave. They have no right to detain me. What I actually do is rip the receipt up in front of them.

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gamerchick · 10/11/2023 10:24

RedRiverShore4 · 10/11/2023 09:54

I have never used a clothing self service till but I generally find the food ones aren't set up to accept my large Seasalt jute bag that invariably has other stuff already in it, I either have to pile shopping bagless in the bagging area to pack afterwards or buy a specific allowed bag

Or you could like keep an empty carrier bag or 2 in your large Seasalt jute bag just for those occasions.

ChristmasBingle · 10/11/2023 10:25

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 10:22

The onus is on them to prove I've stolen something....I do not have to my prove my innocence before I am allowed to leave. They have no right to detain me. What I actually do is rip the receipt up in front of them.

Wow, you're really 'sticking it to the man'.

LifesADance · 10/11/2023 10:27

What I actually do is rip the receipt up in front of them.

🤡

At least you give the staff a good laugh at you OP.

Martinisarebetterdirty · 10/11/2023 10:28

I think it depends on how you see shopping. If you are someone who sees buying a new top as a treat then it can be lovely to have it folded and put in a bag for you. Picking up a pint of milk is a chore, so happy to use self service and be quick.

If you are always shopping and buying new things then I understand the need to be quick, I am not and I don’t so for me I like the shopping experience. Just as if I go to an expensive restaurant I like to be cooked for and served (far nicer food than I can make myself!) I don’t think it’s snobbery I think it’s having different expectations of different events. Yes times change, and shopping isn’t like it was, but it’s not a bad thing to enjoy a small chat and it being an event to buy a nice top.

LifesADance · 10/11/2023 10:30

An ‘event’ to buy a top. Jesus Christ.

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 10:35

LifesADance · 10/11/2023 10:30

An ‘event’ to buy a top. Jesus Christ.

For some people, yes. I rarely buy myself new clothes... especially expensive ones.

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RedRiverShore4 · 10/11/2023 10:35

gamerchick · 10/11/2023 10:24

Or you could like keep an empty carrier bag or 2 in your large Seasalt jute bag just for those occasions.

I haven't got carrier bags and I like to pack my shopping properly in a proper bag as I have to carry it a bit of a distance as I am usually on foot as I do all my main shopping online, surely those checkouts should be able to tare any bag that customers use.

ChristmasBingle · 10/11/2023 10:49

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 10:35

For some people, yes. I rarely buy myself new clothes... especially expensive ones.

And lot's of people are in the same boat. The buying of the top is an 'event' or 'experience' for you but what exactly about having someone else fold it and put it in a bag makes it more of 'an event'?

Other than people waiting on you? And if it is that you enjoy other people waiting on you, maybe you need to have a think about why that is so important to you.

RedRiverShore4 · 10/11/2023 11:07

Folding and packing clothes nicely died when they stopping giving plastic carrier bags. The stores that still use paper ones will still fold and pack your new clothes, Fatface and WhiteStuff do I think, these examples are a similar price point to M&S

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 11:10

RedRiverShore4 · 10/11/2023 11:07

Folding and packing clothes nicely died when they stopping giving plastic carrier bags. The stores that still use paper ones will still fold and pack your new clothes, Fatface and WhiteStuff do I think, these examples are a similar price point to M&S

Even Primark do

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BarbaraofSeville · 10/11/2023 11:15

I rarely buy new clothes in shops, but it still doesn't make it an event or an experience. Confused

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 10/11/2023 11:24

Other than people waiting on you? And if it is that you enjoy other people waiting on you, maybe you need to have a think about why that is so important to you having a chat with someone who happens to earn less is demeaning and seemingly it’s better to make them redundant and tell them a machine can do their job…..MN logic at its finest!

beautifuldaytosavelives · 10/11/2023 12:00

I’ve got a job. If I’m working in a shop as well, I expect to see some kind of discount on the price. Self service is the ruination of retail.

Smallerthannormalpeople · 10/11/2023 12:01

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 09:54

There's no snobbery. Businesses do serve people in all manner of ways. How would you feel in a restaurant if there was no waiter and you had to go into the kitchen to fetch your food. What if there was no chef as you had to cook your own food in a restaurant. Expecting a level of service is not snobbery. The whole concept of employment is people doing various tasks for each other .

Going out for dinner is an ENTIRELY different experience to buying an item of clothing. Don’t be daft! A dinner is a social experience, and often marks an occasion or a celebration of something a little bit special. You’re being HOSTED by the restaurant. Thinking that a simple transaction for a new top should come with the same level of flourish is ridiculous. Get over yourself love.

enchantedsquirrelwood · 10/11/2023 12:02

gamerchick · 10/11/2023 10:24

Or you could like keep an empty carrier bag or 2 in your large Seasalt jute bag just for those occasions.

Rather defeats the purpose of having the main shopping bag doesn't it.

Anyway I always get the unexpected item in the bagging area nonsense if I try to use any bag, so I try to use self serve tills without scales, or I just have to collect everything on the scales and then bag up at the end. Which takes twice as long, but there you go.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 10/11/2023 12:05

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 09:59

In a supermarket near me they make you scan your receipt before the gates open to let you leave. I refuse to do it. You can't refuse to serve me then detain me until I prove I haven't stolen anything. It's outrageous

They tried this in the branch of one supermarket I go in and it’s now been removed. My local supermarket had approx 3 security guards hovering around near the entrance who were quite intimidating and they’ve now gone.

If you want to retain customers you have to treat them well to a certain degree.

TheJubileePortrait · 10/11/2023 12:10

Comedycook · 09/11/2023 18:47

I also feel like it's just very graceless. I don't want someone to serve me because I want to feel superior or have someone skivvying after me like some pp said...but I feel like if I have chosen to give my custom to a shop, there should be an element of appreciation and gratitude from that shop, I don't mean the individual sales staff but the shop as a whole. Not having anyone available to serve me is basically saying your custom is not worth it.

You don’t get it, do you? They don’t care if YOU shop there or not. They don’t care if you never walk through the door again.

Why should they? Millions of other people will so it doesn’t matter about you.

TheJubileePortrait · 10/11/2023 12:12

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 10:22

The onus is on them to prove I've stolen something....I do not have to my prove my innocence before I am allowed to leave. They have no right to detain me. What I actually do is rip the receipt up in front of them.

No you don’t 😂😂

That’s what you want to do, but you don’t. You know it, we know it. No need to pretend otherwise.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 10/11/2023 12:13

Smallerthannormalpeople · 10/11/2023 12:01

Going out for dinner is an ENTIRELY different experience to buying an item of clothing. Don’t be daft! A dinner is a social experience, and often marks an occasion or a celebration of something a little bit special. You’re being HOSTED by the restaurant. Thinking that a simple transaction for a new top should come with the same level of flourish is ridiculous. Get over yourself love.

It’s different because of how you’ve positioned it. I could argue eating in a restaurant is about tasting the food and sitting with friends, you don’t need a skivvy to make that enjoyable, fetch your plate yourself!

gamerchick · 10/11/2023 12:22

enchantedsquirrelwood · 10/11/2023 12:02

Rather defeats the purpose of having the main shopping bag doesn't it.

Anyway I always get the unexpected item in the bagging area nonsense if I try to use any bag, so I try to use self serve tills without scales, or I just have to collect everything on the scales and then bag up at the end. Which takes twice as long, but there you go.

Tbf that's pretty much what you're supposed to do. Packing on the scales just upsets them.

Comedycook · 10/11/2023 13:06

TheJubileePortrait · 10/11/2023 12:10

You don’t get it, do you? They don’t care if YOU shop there or not. They don’t care if you never walk through the door again.

Why should they? Millions of other people will so it doesn’t matter about you.

Individual workers... correct.

The business as a whole should. They employ staff to represent them.

Going by your reasoning we'd be unreasonable to expect decent service anywhere

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Comedycook · 10/11/2023 13:08

TheJubileePortrait · 10/11/2023 12:12

No you don’t 😂😂

That’s what you want to do, but you don’t. You know it, we know it. No need to pretend otherwise.

No I actually do...I'm quite mild mannered but things like that really irritate me and I can be quite lairy when I feel like it!

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