To want to take DH and DD to visit my family on Christmas Day?

[Sophie2525]

Myself, DH and DD who is 2 live very local to my family and I feel it’s nice to pop to see them on Christmas Day for a couple of hours. However DH wants to stay home all day. His family aren’t local but if they were I definitely think he would want to pop in.

He gets on very well with my family, they have a good laugh, so it’s not them, it’s just he wants to stay home.

DD loves to see her family and definitely doesn’t like staying in all day.

AIBU for wanting to pop round for a few hours?

So you pop over for a couple of hours and give him time to chill in front of the tv with a tipple…

I can’t think of anything more ideal that one parent taking a very small child out for a bit whilst the other gets on with making the lunch.

YANBU. If DH wants to stay home, let him. Take DD round on your own for a wee while.

I think Christmas Day can actually be a tricky time for visiting people. Presumably you'll be cooking lunch, so for us, that starts probably about 9am, or even earlier actually and goes right up til 2pm ish when we eat.

And then after lunch, most people have had a drink (not me, I don't drink), but most people will have and won't want to drive - also it's the time to rest and relax and watch a film, etc.

Then it's an early ish bedtime because usually kids/we were up late the night before - and I'm also sick of my house guests by then and would like them just to go to bed and give me some peace.

So I think it depends on what your plans are for the day. If dh is happy to do the cooking, pop over for an hour in the morning/early afternoon before lunch. Or if you don't do a traditional lunch or don't do it until dinner time, you could both go. Or pop over after lunch, if you aren't planning to have a drink, and leave dh to tidy up/have a nap.

I have to say I'm kind of in your dh's camp, maybe that's because I do all the bloody work of Christmas and hosting everyone who piles in and uses it as an excuse for a free AI holiday at ours, but I don't want to be driving around doing stuff on Christmas. I can do that any other day. I want to be at home as it's my day off and there are just certain things we do as a family that I want to do together. I'd be happy to visit people on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day though, or I'd be happy for dh to pop out with the kids for an hour or so while I'm busy getting lunch ready or tidying the kitchen.

"I don't think it's fair for you to take DD to your parents leaving DH home alone. As suggested above."

So he can go too. Sorted. Simple.

In my world it would be pretty weird and a bit rude NOT to see family at Christmas if they are local and you all get on.

Your DH is being a misery guts, I’d leave him at home for a few hours and take DD to see her family.

I would just go without him.

If you live so close why aren't you eating together?

I don't really understand the 'children don't want to/shouldn't have to leave their new toys? Mine loved going to visit family for a while as it always mean't more presents. If we don't have lunch with my family we visit them later on, this year we are hosting both my and husbands family so will stay in.

OP, if your husband doesn't want to go, go without him for a couple of hours.

Why is she been selfish? Is she not allowed a day in how Christmas works? Do you only have to listen to husbands demands to be reasonable?

Can your parents not come to you as they are local? I understand that you would want to see them, but I can also see it from your DH's point of view. Christmas is a time for relaxing and when you have children it's often easier to stay home and have relatives visit you.