DD is 20 months old and has been eating a very healthy diet until now, since switching from baby food it's mainly been vegetables and meat with rice, pasta etc, mostly home made, with fresh fruit as snacks, no white sugar at all, and avoiding preservatives etc in foods. She had some health issues as a baby and is likely to have some difficulties later, and I want her to have the best chances for a healthy childhood and later.
During arguments about other (trivial) things, DH is bringing up me controlling what she eats to much and that he wants her to eat crisps, chips, cakes, and "tasty food", even though it's very clear she really enjoys vegetables, and on the odd occasion she's had fish fingers etc, she's much less keen on it than vegetables. I appreciate her current diet is unusually healthy, but she's not only thriving she's also eating her healthy food enthusiastically (often choosing the veg over meat/carbs), and isn't yet aware that she's "missing out" on anything.
I try to encourage DH to read up about the importance of diet in early childhood, why preservatives are bad, etc, but he just refuses to and just "wants" her to eat nice food. I quote "We're giving her water to drink because you like water, I like crisps so why can't we give her crisps?" (I hope it's obvious we're not giving her water because "I like water", it's because it's the best thing for her to drink)
I know we won't be able to carry on with this in the very long term due to social pressures on her, but I'd like her to eat as healthily as possible while we can, and not introduce junk food for the sake of it, when what we're doing seems to be working well. So I'm trying to resist.
Am I being unreasonable?