To tell MIL it's none of her business how DD looks on her school photo

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My MIL has just phoned to say that they've just received the first term Tempest photo of Y7 DD, and had a massive strop because in her opinion DD looked a disgrace and it was a shame because it was their first image of her in her high school uniform and it wasn't smart because her tie was a bit loose.
Tbh I've never got worked up about how my DDs look when they go to school, as long as they are wearing clean correct uniform then I leave it up to them whether they have shirts tucked in or whatever, so I don't consider a slightly loose tie/undone top button on a school photo to be a massive issue since it's probably representative of how they look at school. I'd rather they were comfortable, happy and doing well at school.

I mean, if she's not paying then why does she care? Just don't give her one next year. I can kind of see why if you've shelled out £100 or whatever for one of their packages that they always make really awkward to get what you actually want then you might want her to look vaguely happy. But you get the proof so you have a choice either way. I'd just say OK noted I won't get you one again.

I think that's how I like to think of it. It's an historical record of what they looked like on that day.

Oh! Just saw the snippet of the photo. No idea what your MIL is complaining about

Gorgeous smile.

Don't send any further photos, so you spare your MIL a strop🙄.

I think a lot of the older generation are like this. My Nan once told me off because I don't iron my children's clothes and she thought it was very lazy and showed a lack of caring. I didn't rise to it, different times, different priorities.

Ffs! 😂

Ignore the ranting, say "well I think it's a nice photo" If she brings it up again, and don't send the school photos to her again.
These are expensive photos and I wouldn't be buying them for MiL if she says anything more judgmental than "thank you for the photos".

That wasn't the photo, it was one I took last night. But she looked pretty much the same on the photo tbh

Don't listen to this awful advice, OP.