I'll try and keep it short and I know questions of a similar nature have been asked on here countless times!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months or so. Initially it was great and admittedly we had alot of boozy dates and weekends etc. Then I found out I was pregnant. Naturally I stopped drinking but I think this enabled me to see his habits for what they were. A couple of times he'd been out drinking with a mate and I then found out (by his own admission) that he'd taken coke (turns out this is a semi-regular thing. On these occasions..first time I couldn't get hold of him the next day, second time he told me he was at work. Turns out he wasn't...he'd been at home all day on the couch. I was really angry that he'd lied to me.
I have since lost the baby and we've had a couple of arguments. One where he called me a B and sl** amongst other things.
This past weekend he was out after work (which I was more than happy about). He messaged me twice saying he was on his way home, even asked me if I wanted anything from the shops. Fast forward a few hrs later, he was nowhere to be seen. When I managed to get hold of him at 4am he told me he'd gone home because he couldn't face a hard time from me. Next day it transpires he hadn't gone home but stayed at a mates. Once again he's lied. AIBU thinking that this man has no respect for me? He also said he was quitting the coke...not because I asked him. He said he wanted to do it for himself but has of course gone back on that word. Otherwise a very lovely relationship. I just feel he changes when alcohol and drugs are involved. Thank you all and please do tell me if you think I'm being too much! :-)