Second-hand birthday invite

[FlorineFleur]

I have no idea if I am being unreasonable or not, I just know my initial reaction to this was 'hm, seems a bit off...' so I thought I would throw it over to the wisdom of the group.

My 3 year old son is in creche, and he has 2 best buddies in there. There is a running joke about them being the three musketeers. I am friendly with one of the boy's parents but not the other one's. The boy whose parents I am not friendly with is apparently having a birthday party soon.

The only reason I know about the birthday party is because I got a forwarded txt message from the parents I am friendly with, asking to pass on the message to me about inviting my son.

It was basically 'I don't have X's mum number so can you pass on the message about Y's birthday party...'

Now, I am probably being unreasonable, but is this not a bit of a lazy and rude way of inviting someone to your child's party... especially if said child is one of the birthday boys close friends?

She went to the trouble of getting the other parents number to invite them, so why not do the same for me? It feels a bit like an afterthought or that they don't really care 🤷🏻‍♀️

But I'm a bit of traditionalist...so maybe I'm the one who's expecting too much!

Drama about nothing.

I think it's very easy to see offence where it wasn't intended. We all probably do it to some degree or other. At least you recognise that you do have trouble with this and know why!

Insane

Maybe she couldn't be arsed to go round gathering everyone's numbers so took a few and asked them to spread the word.

I wouldn't read too much into it.

Afternoon, all. Personal attacks are against our Talk Guidelines - please don't derail threads in this way. We're here to support each other.

Thank you (mostly) everyone for your feedback. By the first few responses it was clear to me that I was indeed overreacting. I really appreciate this.

I messaged my friend for birthday mum's number and let her know my son will be attending, and gratefully so!

Those of you who defended me from the troll - don't worry, I know piling-on is a theme on Mumsnet so I didn't take it to heart. Much love x

Yes it's a but lazy, but I wouldn't think about it too much. Your DS is clearly invited, so I'd accept the invitation. You'll probably encounter more things like this in school, so just accept that people don't follow 'social etiquette' rules around invites/thank you's these days.

If she has text saying ‘can you ask Florine’ then I would be happy that my dc had been invited. You could always get her number from your friend and text her back saying ‘message received, thank you for inviting little Freddy, he would love to come’.

Then she has your number for next time and you are being polite! I think you’re massively overthinking it (sorry!).

*sorry, I hadn’t seen your update - you’ve done this anyway!!

Gosh I had assumed you were going to say your son had not been invited rather than he had been invited but you have taken offense to how!

This!

You're reading far too much into it!

You're being overly precious.

It's a 3 yr olds birthday not an invite to. Royal Garden Party.

When your child starts school most invites are by WhatsApp so you might need to start getting used to non traditional