To find the new girlfriend annoying

[denpark]

My ex's new girlfriend is really really annoying me.

She has systematically gone through his old Facebook photos of when we were married and liked all of the ones where he's on his own. Most of his photos have our children in (and me as well), so she's really taken her time to do this.

This has actually really angered me.

She didn't know him then.
He wasn't with her then. He was with me (and was for a very long time until he cheated).

She's clearly done this to make some kind of point.

This. I deleted my ex from everything

I know that it's a bit silly but it really pushes my buttons that she's liking photos of him (and me at times) that we're taken either my me or when we were together. Many of the photos are from special events like birthdays/anniversaries/holidays and it feels very disrespectful for her to insert herself into that part of history.

Does that make any kind of sense?

I mean clearly you're living in her head rent free. This slaps of insecurity.

Why let her move into your head too? Ignore, disregard, block him, mute notifications, whatever. Leave the past where it belongs and let the future waste her energy trawling through and pissing on old photos to mark her territory. You focus on you, yours and the present.

Thank you fir giving me a gentle but supportive slap! I need to stop her getting to me.

I totally get why this would irritate you, it would me too. But all she’s doing is making herself look weird. God I would die of shame if I accidentally liked someone’s very old photo that showed I had been snooping through their old pics like that! Your ex must have found it weird too. Leave her to it. Block them both if it will help (although personally I wouldn’t want to give her the satisfaction). Be the person who is too cool and unaffected by social media to have noticed. Even if you’re not really! Xxx

I don’t think you are being too insecure. It’s an insecure time, moving on with kids when you have an Ex - whose GF is also very insecure by her actions.

To be honest it’s a bit cringey of her to like all of your photos. Those memories cannot be ‘stamped’ on - they are you and your Exes - which is what she really hates. But she’s going to have to live with the fact that her BF, your Ex, has a big part of his life where he loved you and will always be linked through his kids. She will have to deal with that and pissing you off isn’t smart.

Just let yourself feel very annoyed for a couple of days. But then take a deep breath and let it go.

I got all the photos of me and Ex delivered back to me when he married again - no note - just basically dumped on me! New wife basically ran his social media accounts, and put up lots of pictures of Ex, her and our DS with lots of hearts on it, and all her family saying how cute they looked, but now practically ignore DS now she’s her feet under the table! Ex was untagged from every single picture, whether with me or not on my feed.

bleurgh!

Shame as I do believe that it doesn’t need to be that way, having to mark territory from either side.

It totally makes sense OP- ignore the posters being obtuse.

It is really creepy and petty for her to behave in this way. The fact she was the OW makes this even more bizarre.

however, where lots of pps have it right is that this reflects so badly on her. She seems sad and pathetic. It also doesn’t actually harm you at all, so best approach is to ignore. It will really piss her off that you are ignoring her.

It's really really sad that a grown woman sat with her phone liking old photos of her boyfriend when he was married to someone else.

But what else is she to do when he's not with her - wonder if he's started cheating on her yet?

It's not unusual for the new GF to demand our request any pictures work the ex are removed from social media. More may yet be to come.

It makes many new GFs jealous and uncomfortable.

Why do you care? Let her do her lol

You are giving her what she wants by letting it get to you.
Just remember, he was happy in those photos, he made memories with you. She’s probably very jealous of that.
She will find out what he’s like soon enough.

Ah ok, does she realise this? If they are on his fb page on the photos of you section, she may not, I wouldn’t. Not that I’d be arsed doing what she is. But the point remains. I suspect it depends on how familiar you are with Facebook.

if she’s the other woman then yes I can see why you’re totally pissed off. She’s not inserting herself in to your history with him though, she’s just liking photos of him on his Facebook page.

how long ago did the marriage end?

She's jealous of your old relationship with him and presumably knows you will see this on FB and is marking her "ownership" of him and trying to delete his former life and relationships. That shows that she's also very insecure in their relationship. Ignore her, their relationship is on rocky ground if she's that possesive already.

You have blocked her but she can still see tagged posts?

She must be using a second account because when you block someone, even if you tag a mutual friend, the blocked person cannot see the post.

I would look at your privacy settings, not sure if you can amend the audience if you tag someone and the privacy settings become their privacy settings but she definitely should not see his tagged posts from you if you blocked her.

Exactly what? I get a phone notification every time someone likes or comments on any of my Fb photos. It’s impossible to miss.
Op I’d find it quite funny that this woman seems to be obsessing about you and his past relationships. Either block her, or if you’re as petty as me, post some stuff that will wind her up 😂

She's a sad mess who is jealous of you and what you and your ex had. Just smirk at her weird behaviour OP

Those notifications would drive me insane.

If u want to be petty you could un tag him in all the ones you took and set to friends only so she can no longer see them. But I'd take the high ground and ignore her

She sounds like a twat.

I know (well I think I know) why it would be upsetting for you. She barged into your relationship and destroyed your future with this man. Now she's trying to barge into your past which she wasn't part of.

Could you reframe your thinking around it? Take yourself, ego, emotions etc around it and picture this scenario; they are really really happy. They love spending time together. They are each others soulmates. She feels utterly loved, secure, happy and at peace in the relationship.

Now in what world would that woman be spending her time trawling through old photos his ex posted and picking out ones to like of him alone? It would never happen! She has revealed that she does not feel happy, secure, loved etc or that she has 'won' so she's keeping herself in the 'fight' with you. For her there is still unfinished business with you.

The absolute best thing you can do is to mentally step out of the ring with this woman. She is pitiful. She has a future with a man who she knows better than anyone is very capable of cheating. She knows what lies in store for her; lies, betrayal, infidelity.

You however have unlimited potential of happiness and love coming your way.

Leave them behind.

Why are you bothered. She's his problem not yours.

What a sad woman. Imagine trawling through the wedding photos! Are they married now? If not she is probably so jealous that you got the 'big day' and the ring and she hasn't

I'd block her, photos still there but she can't see them it'll piss her off more. :)

Has she actually done it to wind you up or has she just liked his pictures, because you know -she loves him and not you?

I’d be more concerned if she was liking my wedding pictures, because I’d expect her to have little to no interest in me.

If she’s in fact done it to wind you up then I’d say she’s off to a successful start, so you’ll need some means of managing that.

I obviously don't know if she's doing it to wind me up, but - yes- she liked our wedding photos (ones of just him). And ones that he's clearly wearing his wedding ring in and smiling at the camera (me- as I took them and the comments on these photos make that clear)

It's really strange behaviour.

You've summarised it perfectly. She did barge in and it does feel like she's bathing into our past.

I don't want him back. I'm happier without him but this has annoyed me a lot.